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would you hire a male babysitter?

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So I put up an ad on the local college classifieds & have had some guys apply.  I told DH I didn't want to hire a male sitter because men are more likely to be molesters than women.  He thinks I'm being paranoid.  Maybe I am because I'm nervous about leaving LO with a stranger.  I tried to get a sitter recommendation from friends but couldn't find anyone.  (Of course I will be interviewing these folks & calling their references)  WWYD?

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  • AliciaS1411AliciaS1411 member

    I don't think a male sitter is more likely to molest your baby than a woman, thats a bit naive to think IMO

    If a male is qualified- I'd hire him.  

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  • MrsTheSecondSevenMrsTheSecondSeven

    I have guy friends watch my son, it's nice since Ryan gets a different type of interaction. 

    If you are uncomfortable with a male regardless of your reasons, hire a woman.

     Check out Care.com 

    The company says they do background checks on all the sitters and other moms post their recommendations.  

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  • drbethcdrbethc member
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.
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  • acbfreireacbfreire member

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    this.

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  • Frequent FlierFrequent Flier member

    I never said all men are child molesters.  But statistically, men are more likely to be abusive than women.  Like I said, I am probably being paranoid.  I haven't left LO with a sitter yet, we have no family nearby and leaving him with a stranger is making me very nervous.

     But thanks for the insults.  Very helpful.

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  • drbethcdrbethc member
    imageFrequent Flier:

    I never said all men are child molesters.  But statistically, men are more likely to be abusive than women.  Like I said, I am probably being paranoid.  I haven't left LO with a sitter yet, we have no family nearby and leaving him with a stranger is making me very nervous.

     But thanks for the insults.  Very helpful.

     

    agreed!  Those comments are unnecessary! 

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  • JessieCupcakeJessieCupcake member

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    This is how I feel too.

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  • jamiah18jamiah18 member
    imageJessieCupcake:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    This is how I feel too.

    Ditto for me.

    And I completely understand op's paranoia... It's a big deal to leave your little bundle with a stranger! 

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  • anonsouthernbellanonsouthernbell member
    imageAliciaS1411:

    I don't think a male sitter is more likely to molest your baby than a woman, thats a bit naive to think IMO

    If a male is qualified- I'd hire him.  

    Thats statistically untrue...men are more likely than women 

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  • mysteriousmommymysteriousmommy

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    Lurking but just trying to help.  Know the facts.

    "National statistics indicate that in approximately 88 percent of the cases, the offender is known to the victim. He/she is usually a relative, family member, family friend, baby-sitter or older friend of the child."

    https://www.childadvocacycenter.org/about-child-abuse.php

    Also, not to increase our paranoia or anything, but background checks are generally pretty useless when it comes to identifying sexual predators.  96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

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  • drbethcdrbethc member
    imagemysteriousmommy:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    Lurking but just trying to help.  Know the facts.

    "National statistics indicate that in approximately 88 percent of the cases, the offender is known to the victim. He/she is usually a relative, family member, family friend, baby-sitter or older friend of the child."

    https://www.childadvocacycenter.org/about-child-abuse.php

    Also, not to increase our paranoia or anything, but background checks are generally pretty useless when it comes to identifying sexual predators.  96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

    Yes, I have seen this...When I say family member, I'm talking my dad or father in law or my brother. AND I know and can bet my life on it, that they would never do anything to harm my child. 

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  • bogus123bogus123 member
    imagemysteriousmommy:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    Lurking but just trying to help.  Know the facts.

    "National statistics indicate that in approximately 88 percent of the
    cases, the offender is known to the victim. He/she is usually a
    relative, family member, family friend, baby-sitter or older friend of
    the child."

    https://www.childadvocacycenter.org/about-child-abuse.php

    Also, not to increase our paranoia or anything, but background checks are generally pretty useless when it comes to identifying sexual predators.  96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

    You're not lurking silly goose, oh I mean AllisonMarie22. This is such an odd post for you to reply on.
    Also, I will only hire people I know to watch my child, but if I trust a male more than a female, so be it.
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  • AsquaredAsquared member
    imagemysteriousmommy:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

      96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

    So in a nutshell this means 4% of sex crimes could happen if their father is a pedophile... 

     

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  • joleinejoleine member
    imageemilyheps:
    imagemysteriousmommy:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

    Lurking but just trying to help.  Know the facts.

    "National statistics indicate that in approximately 88 percent of the cases, the offender is known to the victim. He/she is usually a relative, family member, family friend, baby-sitter or older friend of the child."

    https://www.childadvocacycenter.org/about-child-abuse.php

    Also, not to increase our paranoia or anything, but background checks are generally pretty useless when it comes to identifying sexual predators.  96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

    You're not lurking silly goose, oh I mean AllisonMarie22. This is such an odd.post for you to reply on. In any case, I would only.want people I know way child. I won't hire anyone male or female that I do not know.

     

    Well, I guess she is sorta lurking.. her babies were born in May .. Just not on May 1st like she's telling people. 

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  • bogus123bogus123 member
    That is true...she is dirty lurker that one.
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  • joleinejoleine member
    imageAsquared:
    imagemysteriousmommy:

    imagedrbethc:
    yeah....I'm one that wouldn't hire a stranger (male)...But I would hire a family member or a friend I personally knew very well.

      96% of sex crimes are perpetrated by individuals not on any sex offender registry.

    So in a nutshell this means 4% of sex crimes could happen if their father is a pedophile... 

     

    Could, or would??  

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