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3rd baby & Family wants to throw a shower?!?!

BossMamma83BossMamma83
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I had a baby shower for my second. I didn't want one at all but my family felt it was more for DH and his family since it was his first child. I didn't need much becuase I kept everything from #1 and since 1 and 2 were both boys it was great. It was more or less a celebration for both our families so celebrate our pregnancy. Then to my shock and surprise DH's family through us a welcome home baby FISH FRY( the day we came home from the hospital mind you I had a c-section!!!) and it's our first day home LOL. The thought was nice.... Now we are expecting #3. My Aunt and my BFF are already talking about having a shower!. We are hoping for a girl but I don't see the need for pink streamers and a pink cake. I have all the furtniture and stuff from the boys we don't need anything big except maybe a new car seat and stroller just because my last was a sit and stand and I have no need for that now. I absolutely do not want a 3rd baby shower or even a welcome home baby party. How can I get my family and friend to understand this. I'm not even a people person to begin with lol... I don't want anything to do with that stuff this time around...
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Re: 3rd baby & Family wants to throw a shower?!?!

  • Allycat11Allycat11 member

    For the shower, I would tell them you are uncomfortable with the idea of a shower considering this is your third child and you already have everything you need.  It is perfectly acceptable to decline a shower.

    As for a welcome home party the day you get home, there is no way I would consider that.  If you would be okay with having it later just tell them you are not up for company until "X" amount of time after LO arrives but a meet the baby party at that time would be great.  If you don't want this party at all you can always decline, one reason I can think of off the top of my head is not wanting LO exposed to all of the germs.   

    I just re-read it and I'm confused if they are considering doing the welcome home party for this LO as well, if not, disregard the last paragraph.  

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  • moonglow_84moonglow_84
    I would just say thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and generosity, however I'm not looking to have a shower this time around. Then tell them that you are planning a meet the baby party for a time that is comfortable for you and DH, even if you aren't, wink wink. But it will Hopefully keep them off your back about it for a while anyways
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  • tobysnugglestobysnuggles member
    I would change your locks! No way I want to come home to a house full of people. Hopefully they understand how you felt last time and take that into account. It's great they are all excited though for you.
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
    I would tell your aunt and your friend that although you appreciate their thoughtfulness you don't want or need a baby shower for this LO.  Maybe suggest a "Welcome Baby" party once your little one is a few weeks old.  That way your LO won't be a newborn just coming home from the hospital and you won't end up with a ton of gifts that you don't want/need.  Although it is not a gift giving event many people who come to "meet the baby parties" will bring an outfit or diapers.  If you have a girl you'll end up getting some baby girl clothes that way. 
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  • BossMamma83BossMamma83
    Thank you all for your responses.  I think I'm going to go with telling them we are planning a meet the baby party just to get them off our back. But I am doing no such thing lol!  A lot of our family comes to the hospital when baby arrives and then the rest come through single file over the next few days after we get home.  After a c-section, enduring a party at all is off limits.  I am exhausted and in pain and the last thing I want is a house full of people...  Thank you ladies we'll see how this goes.  I know for a fact my favorite Auntie is not going to take no for an answer if we do have a girl, so I may just end up grinning and praying or a quick end lol...
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