TTC is the most frustrating process!

kn041286 · September 2012

Just want to vent to others who I am assuming have similar feelings to mine. I will start off by saying my husband and I are both physicians, so we "know" how the process is supposed to work, you know, biologically speaking. But I never imagined that it would be this frustrating! I admit that I am only on cycle #4 of trying and I can't even imagine what those of you who have been trying for years must be feeling.

Does anyone else feel like their whole lives are divided into 2-week periods of time???

We know DH has a varicocele, but doctors (especially male doctors) make the worst patients so he has NEVER had it checked out. I think he is also afraid to find out because he knows that the treatment is surgery.

Just finding this whole thing frustrating, that's all. Have a good day everyone :-)

Erinm278 · September 2012

I'm on cycle 3 of trying and it is hard sometimes to not let it run your life. My approach to this cycle is to remain as calm as possible and have as much sex as possible! GL!

PrimRoseMama · September 2012

Absolutely it can be frustrating. I haven't been trying that long, so I can't relate too much to the division of my life in 2 week increments. At least not yet.

YouMe&Bax · September 2012

Yep - it can be very frustrating!!! I'm right there with you!! Even though I know it doesn't help, I analyze almost everything my body does during those two weeks!! Lol

IwannaBAMomma · September 2012

Yes, it's frustrating and stressful, and at the same time, exciting because there's that lingering hope that something's bound to happen sooner or later! I'm getting emotional over it and I promised myself I'd stay cool and calm and let whatever's meant to be happen. So much for that.

kristykay123 · September 2012

Time, for me right now, is measured by cycles. So yes, I completely understand what you mean.

Guillerma · September 2012

Yep - another physician here. I know what you mean. I will say that your husband may be right about the varicocele - the literature on varicocele repair increasing fertility is mediocre at best and non-existent at worse. Given that, most urologists wouldn't touch it anyway unless you had been trying for a while (a year) without success. He could always get an SA but even if something shows up it's a tough call on whether the surgery is any better than just continuing to try for a while.

rrdiva1 · September 2012

Welcome, and yes it can be very frusterating.

At times I feel like I just wished away a better part of this past year, not making the same mistake this go around.

I would say only as a suggestion, have your husband get checked out. I would hate to see you waste precious time for a year give or take and find out he needed some type of medical intervention to help him correct his dx, and see you both get frusterated unneccesarily. This is just my opinion.

Best of luck on your ttc journey!!!!

MrsM507 · September 2012

kristykay123:
Time, for me right now, is measured by cycles. So yes, I completely understand what you mean.

This for me too. I know my CD better than the actual date on the calender, haha.

ETA - How rude of me... Welcome to board! Hang in there and Good luck!

CutieBean79 · September 2012

Yep. Even when I am busy I still have TTC lingering in my mind.

spacepotatoes · September 2012

Yes! I find myself constantly preoccupied with thoughts of TTC and cycles and charts, etc. Before we started, DH and I always said that we'd just be relaxed about it and let nature take its course. Way easier said than done!

Welcome to the boards, good luck

icogburn · September 2012

I totally feel your pain. I think for me the most frustrating part is all the dos and don'ts. Don't eat/drink this, take this, do this. And who would have thought someone might not actually be in the mood on O day??....not to mention if we are sick, having a bad work day, or just too stinking tired. And I wish I would have never told anyone we were even trying....because if one more person tells me, "It will happen when its meant to be" or "Don't stress"....I think I will throw a grownup tantrum. I can't wait till I never have to think about charting and testing again!

Cupcakelove109 · September 2012

Yes! I never imagined this process would be so stressful. I feel like temping, ovulating, testing, ect is on my mind all the time. It?s hard to just sit back and relax. I am ?planner? so not being in control is driving me nuts. I am trying to find some hobbies and activities to take my mind off of everything.

ricecakes1216 · September 2012

tigger99:
The last 16 months of my life have been divided into those 2ish week increments so I get it. It is frustrating. Tell your H to go to the dr for his problem, men are such babies when it comes to that kind of thing. Good Luck.

Took the words right out of my mouth!

Peanutz21 · September 2012

I agree with you that it's absolutely frustrating! Sometimes I allow myself to get a little frustrated too Smile

I'm only on cycle 7 or so of trying and feel your pain. Hubby also has a varicocele that he won't get checked out and I'm an Internist....So I feel like somewhat of a hypocrite when I tell patients it normally takes 1 yr to get pregnant and here I am ripping my hair out only halfway through!

Best of luck to you!

kellyannluke · September 2012

kn041286:

We know DH has a varicocele, but doctors (especially male doctors) make the worst patients so he has NEVER had it checked out. I think he is also afraid to find out because he knows that the treatment is surgery.

Hi I'm new here, but I totally understand your frustration. DH and I have been trying for a little longer than you, but he also has a varicocele (how I first intro'd myself earlier this week actually! ).. we are a little concerned, so knowing he already has something that may lead to infertility, he actually went to his doctor today (due to the advice of these lovely ladies!) and was actually referred to a urologist to be sure everything is working properly. The surgery is pretty non-invasive but I know it might not change anything.. Either way, if I were you and your DH, I'd get checked just to be sure you aren't wasting time since you already know there is something that could cause a problem. Totally understand -- hope all turns out okay!!

HD12 · September 2012

Yep, definitely frustrating. Best of luck!

Twinkie0612 · September 2012

Welcome!

We've been trying since Aug 2011 and I don't know if it ever gets less frustrating, but you do get used to dealing with frustration. I know charting my BBT helped ease some of my frustration (or at least gives me something to focus on). It's something you might want to consider.

GL I hope your stay is a short one.

daisyrose85 · September 2012

Welcome, and best of luck to you

I'm only on my second cycle TTC, but I've been feeling very impatient already. I'm currently unemployed, so I have way too much time to sit around and think about everything, not to mention checking FF many times per day, as if something was going to magically pop up that I hadn't already seen!

angelchild24 · September 2012

I am only on cycle 2 so I haven't gotten to that point just yet. I can definitely see why it gets frustrating though! I hope YH goes to the dr soon, I know the thought of surgery is scary, but it would be better than not knowing how/if it is affecting him, and your TTC efforts.

Best of luck to you!

colleenandshaun · September 2012

icogburn:
And who would have thought someone might not actually be in the mood on O day??....not to mention if we are sick, having a bad work day, or just too stinking tired. And I wish I would have never told anyone we were even trying....

THIS. 100%. I just feel so tired with all this sometimes and I'm only 4 months in! I really feel for the ladies who have been at it for a long time and wish everyone the best of luck (including me)!

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