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jennygirlmt
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Business trip at 33 weeks-5.5 hr drive, would you?
jennygirlmt
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I work part time for the company I have been with for 7 years. I chose to stay home with DD and then when she was 11 months old they asked me to work from home part time (well that's what I negotiated) because they had two people quit and needed help. It was only supposed to be temporary and every time they tried to end it a new challenge came up and they needed me to stay and help. They don't really want it to be a permanent option so it won't be an option after staying home with DD#2 for a year. Though they'll always take me back full time, per my boss last week :-)
That being said Sept 28th is my last day, so I have time to chill, be with DD, get the house in order. I just got an email from my boss asking if I would go visit a client in MA. I'm in Philly. It's a 5.5 hour drive (with no traffic). Public transit won't really work because I'd need to take Amtrak, to bus, then somehow have to get to the client and it would take like 9 hours.
I can't decide how to respond. Ironcially, DH has that day off and its the same day my mom is arriving for a week. So childcare isn't an issue at all. I'm just nervous about the long drive and doing it myself. I had a 3 hour drive over labor day and my body was wrecked afterwards. And I just decided to forgo a trip to Penn State next weekend for a football game with DH (3 hour drive) because I've just been so sore and exhausted, I'm nervous that it will be too much for my body.
Am I being a weeny? Is 33 weeks and an 11 hour round in one day (I don't think asking for a hotel room would make me any happier) trip nothing to worry about? I felt fine with DD1 but this pregnancy has been much harder and more painful and exhausting. I want to be helpful, but I'm done in two weeks and then won't be back for over a year. So a part of me says "why kill myself for this." Also, this is not one of my clients from the past few years whom I have a relationship with. I've just been helping out another person in my position while she does an extra project here.
I'm conflicted, because I'm a yes man. But this is a bit more than I want to be doing at this point and I am 100% that it will in no way impact me coming back in the future (if I wanted to). And to be pouty, DH and I were going to have a day date since he has the day off and my mom will be here :-)
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Re: Business trip at 33 weeks-5.5 hr drive, would you?
*lurking* I lurk here and post on the October BMB. However, I have a very strong opinion and thought I'd share.
I would say do not do it. I have to drive 6 hours round-trip once a week for my job and it is torture. I can barely make it the 3 hours without falling asleep. For the last three weeks, I had to stop and take a nap on the way there and/or back. It is an absolutely unnecessary danger if you do not have to do it. Unfortunately, I have no option right now. I have asked my boss to stop doing the trip. Thus far, he has procrastinated on his decision and is unlikely to address it before October 1st. We already decided I wouldn't do it after that.
No. Way. That is far enough that your company should be paying for you to fly and rent a car.
DH and I did our babymoon when I was 28 weeks and the 2.5 hour flight killed me even though I got up and walked around quite a bit. I can't imagine 5.5 hours in a car, let alone 11 hours in a 24 hour period.
Don't do it, and get your OB to write you a note if your company insists.
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I am also near Philly, and my SIL is in MA, about 6 hours from me. My in laws are going up for a visit for her birthday this weekend, and when we discussed possibly going along, we decided that that would be too much for me at 31 weeks. I wouldn't even be driving! SIL agreed that it was a bad idea, and she's a neonatal nurse, so I stopped arguing. The issues are mostly maternal discomfort, but god forbid you have some kind of issue and you're 6 hours from your doctor, by yourself!
I am also a yes man, and I hate saying no about stuff like that, but I think you can probably safely tell your boss that your doctor and family don't think it's a good idea. Offer to do something else instead so someone else can go, but say that being in a car for that long just isn't smart at this stage in your pregnancy.
Thanks so much for the responses! I wasn't sure if I was being weak. So I wrote a nice note to my boss explaining. His reponse?
"I competely forgot to factor in your pregnancy! You are too close to your dute date, I'll see if it can be a teleconference."
Phew! All that stress for nothing :-)
And HS10, I hope your boss gets smart and lets you stop that drive! I can't believe he is making you do that! Be safe and stand your ground with an end date of Oct 1.
I probably would not do it. I went to the beach 8 hrs away at 34 weeks and it was fine, but I wasn't driving. DH drove and I could stretch out in the back of the mini-van.
If you do decide to do it I would def make it an overnight trip. Enjoy some me time!!
I would not go but if you are still tossing around the idea I would run it by your doctor first.
I don't think you can fly in the 3rd trimester. I thought at that point airlines ban pregnant woman.
At 35 weeks I drove 12 hours for a family thing with one pregnancy and at 34 weeks I went on a 4-day work thing about 5-6 hours away and it wasn't any problem.
I guess if I wasn't as vested and knew I wasn't coming back for a year (or longer) I would be much more likely to say no.
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You can fly up to 36 weeks per airline policies. Although they may sometimes require a note from your OB to release them from liability if they are jumpy about it. You can absolutely fly in 3rd tri.