April 2012 Moms

SAHMs: Do you give H a rundown of your day?

I work two days a week, but anyway. When I'm home with the kids I always run down my day and mention things like doing the laundry, cleaning the floors, whatever. It's like I need to get a pat on the back, or prove I did all this stuff. H couldn't really care less what I do as long as I'm spending time with the kids, but for some reason I always feel the need to prove my worth. Anyone else?

Re: SAHMs: Do you give H a rundown of your day?

  • DH always asks what we did that day. He's really only interested in hearing about the activities or any cute stories. He knows I do a lot more around the house than what I tell him If I've done a crazy amount of housework, like 10 loads of laundry or something, I mention it just for the extra acknowledgement!
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    DH always asks what we did that day. He's really only interested in hearing about the activities or any cute stories. He knows I do a lot more around the house than what I tell him If I've done a crazy amount of housework, like 10 loads of laundry or something, I mention it just for the extra acknowledgement!

    Pretty much exactly this:)  I always mention the extra hard work if it's exceptional - like 3 blowouts or cat vomits or meltdowns by older DS, just to prove I'm working hard too, haha.  But I don't want to hear every detail about DH day (he's in finance and it's boring;) so I try not to bore him with my day either - though I'm sure I do anyway, I can't help myself! 

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  • Not really. Sometimes I do but I usually tell him the fun stuff we did and not the chores etc
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  • I work two days a week outside the home, too.

    I do give H a rundown of the day. He knows I can manage my time and has never questioned what I do all day, but I still feel like I need to prove to him how hard I worked at home. I don't know why, because every time he's alone with DS he tells me he doesn't know how I get stuff done.

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  • H will normally ask what we did and if we did anything fun. He can normally tell when I do things too but he doesn't go out of his way to mention it. I mopped the kitchen floors today and H said "Do I smell bleach?" It's his own way of acknowledging things.
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  • I just tell him about what we did for the day, nothing usually about the chores unless it was something extreme because that is what the agreement was and I have no problem with that.  But you hope they realize that you have taken some things off their plate as well by being home.
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  • DH and I text back and forth when possible, and I always tell him when DD poops or sleeps... yeah. Exciting! lol

    I pick him up from work, and yes, we give each other a summery of our day. 

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  • I do sometimes, but not always. Every once in awhile he will say something like, what did you do today? but in a, it looks like you did nothing sort of way. Then I tell him, but from the little bit of time he takes care of ds, he realizes it is hard to get much done some days.
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  • we chat on AIM back and forth, and talk a little bit at the end of the day about what happened, but it is usually just stories of the kids or whatnot. He'll usually acknowledge chores I've done, so that's nice.
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  • I'll post this as a working mom with a part time SAH dad.. Dh goes to school m, w, f for 4 hours a day. I get home and love hearing about their day. I want the nitty gritt too - when his naps were, how many ounces he ate, when he ate, what activities they did, his general mood.

    I can usually tell what kind of chores were done. Usually it is picking up and prepping for dinner,  

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  • I tell him about any fun stuff we did or if DD had major poops or awesome naps. I don't tend to mention housework; he can see what was done and wouldn't really thank me even if I gave him a list.
  • I'm also a working mom with SAHD. He always gives me a run down of fun things they did, how she ate, if she pooped. I always make an effort to notice the chores he's done, like dishes, dinner, mowing lawn, etc. and give him plenty of thanks and appreciation
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