When do you think its ok to tell people???

TTCaANGEL · September 2012

Kind of a poll:

When do you think its considered "safe" to tell friends your pregnant???

Did you tell yet, or are you waiting after 12 weeks???

kjesmer · September 2012

I like to wait till 12 weeks but dh has such a big fat mouth that each time he couldn't keep the secret past ten weeks.

Fremdschamen · September 2012

I told my closest girlfriends very early in the pregnancy, because I knew I would want their support if I had a m/c. Everyone else will find out around 10-12 weeks.

swingdance3 · September 2012

Started calling around after our ultrasound with a sweet little heartbeat.

I read that miscarriage is under 2% at this point. So we also just made our FB announcement. It feels great to have it out in the open.

tondraluv · September 2012

We just started telling close family and friends but they all have big mouths like my grandmother so everyone knew by that next day.

Mis+Shapes · September 2012

We have only told my parents (DH's family doesn't live in the US) and I told one close friend. Given my history of miscarriages, we will wait until about 13 weeks to "come out".

cvl105 · September 2012

We've told some family and friends already. As time goes on, we kinda tell more and more people. I'll be comfortable with coming out to the rest of the world after the NT scan around 12/13 weeks.

rayofsunshine99 · September 2012

Whenever you want. It's up to you. I mostly have only told people who I would want to or have to know if something happened anyway. So family, close friends & bosses know, other co-workers, FB friends etc, will find out around 10-12 weeks.

FutureMrsCAF · September 2012

We told our parents, siblings, and best friends early on. After we saw the heartbeat, we told more family and more friends, and then we put it on Facebook a few days ago. Do whatever you feel comfortable with! There is no hard and fast rule

Mrs.Leah.Maria · September 2012

We still haven't told family and I'll be 9w tomorrow. We'll be waiting to tell friends at 12 weeks. Even with yesterday's good news, I prefer to be more cautious, plus, I love this stage where it's not public knowledge. It's just a happy secret for our little family.

MrsP7309 · September 2012

We've told the people we'd lean on if we lost the baby. We're telling family and friends at about 10 weeks, and going public at 13 weeks.

JenW3611 · September 2012

By 9 weeks, DH had blabbed to everyone he knew (we told our families asap), and so it started getting hard to keep it off of facebook. I announced this weekend to the world, after telling my friends first. I'm 11 weeks on Friday, so I'm figuring we got closer to the 12 week mark than I expected. lol The grandparents' excitement plus DH's proud papa mentality made it nearly impossible to keep it under wraps at all.

JuliaSugarbaker72311 · September 2012

We have told most all of our friends/family (told our parents immediately, close friends/family at around 8 weeks) and we are telling work today!! I am super excited but also nervous. I do feel like I'm just ready for everyone to know and share in our joy!

danuli8 · September 2012

So far, I have only told people I would be comfortable discussing a miscarriage with. Right now, even my MIL doesn't know! We don't want to tell her and then have something happen to the baby--it would kill her. We will tell her after my next OB app't (which happens to be at 12w1d). I might tell a few more friends at that point, but I'm not going on FB until all the genetic testing comes back clear.

UberBiz · September 2012

I think it's a personal choice. I told a few of my very close friends right after we found out. I'm waiting to tell my parents (I live with them) on thursday after the ultrasound even though I'm pretty sure my mom already figured it out by the lack of feminine product in the bathroom garbage for the last 2 months lol...

SammieLou88 · September 2012

We told everyone pretty much right away, but it was under extenuating circumstances. The same day that we found out that we were expecting, my MIL found out that her lung cancer had spread quite a bit. She was upset about all of the things that she'll miss out on in life, so we told our family at her house that night and invited her to our U/S so that, even if she isn't around when our LO is born, she can be as included as possible with everything leading up to it. This is her first grandchild.

karenortiz · September 2012

It started with just telling lose family then SIL posted it on FB soo...the news is out. At first i was upset but i go so many congrats and phone calls it made up for it...felt the love. I just pray nothing goes bad now...

SewSewBlessed · September 2012

My 1st pg, we waited until 12 weeks to tell EVERYBODY, but told immediate family right away. This pg we told EVERYONE after our successful u/s, since my OB said there was a less than 5% chance of miscarriage at that point.

huskies09 · September 2012

The only people who know so far are some of my close co-workers and one of the husbands friends. My husband really wanted to wait until the 12 week mark in case anything happens, and I think he is still letting it all sink in for himself too! We will tell our parents and siblings first then make our FB announcement once all of those people know.

JBDamonM · September 2012

We told family (with the exception of my father) after we saw the heart beat at the first ultra sound at 6.5 weeks. We told friends after the second (which turned into 3rd - in order to confirm everything was good) u/s - which was at 9.5 weeks.

After my 12 week OB appointment and our NT scan next week we will tell my father (want to do it in person and have not seen him) as well as the rest of our friends and works and go public on FB. Which I can not wait for. I have not enjoyed hiding this and found it way harder than I ever realized!

jenny1980 · September 2012

We just told parents so far.

We'll tell sibs after our U/S tomorrow and friends/work/everyone else after the NT scan at 12-ish weeks.

kammmmay · September 2012

Whenever you're comfortable. I told around 78 weeks with both pregnancies.

monica93555 · September 2012

When do you think its considered "safe" to tell friends your pregnant??? I don't feel "safe" until we're 14 weeks along. But I've still told most of my close friends already because I would need them as my support group if anything happened.

Did you tell yet, or are you waiting after 12 weeks??? I've told most of my close friends and am planning on telling the rest of them and my parents and MHs parents this weekend after our u/s. We'll be making it "official" on fb at week 14.

synchrosally · September 2012

We told family at 8 weeks, everyone else will wait until after my first u/s at a little over 11 weeks. I want to make sure everything is ok before I tell the world. I would hate to have to untell everyone.

LaurynMarette · September 2012

I had my second m/c at almost 11 weeks, so I am waiting until 12 this time to announce to the world. Most of our families know, and a few friends, and a couple people I work with that NEED to know for scheduling purposes. I'm already at way more people that I would like to know already, but sometimes you have no choice. FB announcement will be at 12 weeks though

Lola104 · September 2012

With DS, we told my parents at Christmas. I was 6.5 weeks. They were the only people who knew other than my BFF. We didn't tell anyone else until we found out the sex at 16 weeks. I never made a FB post at all. After dealing with loss and IF, I didn't want to make anyone who was quietly struggling sad. Important people were told.... People I went to high school with that I never see figured it out when I posted a newborn picture.
We will probably do the same this time around.

sometimesdee · September 2012

kammmmay:
Whenever you're comfortable. I told around 78 weeks with both pregnancies.

Whoa, long pregnancy!

But seriously, we both told our parents as soon as we found out. Our siblings and best friends also know. Apart from that, we're either waiting until the 8-week ultrasound, or the 12 week mark, not sure which yet.

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