At what point do you give up on trying for a VBAC?
We conceived our second child (this pregnancy) pretty much right after having DD which apparently didn't help my odds of having a VBAC. Fortunately, we found a great doctor that is willing to let me go for it but will not induce due to the risks. So now I am 41w4d and still no baby. We have check ups twice a week and our next one is Tuesday. The doc said next time we need to have a discussion about possibly scheduling a repeat c/s if this baby doesn't come on its own. I am not dilated or effaced (I know that doesn't necessarily mean anything), and I am not having any BH. My body just doesn't seem to want to give up this baby. I have tried all kinds of old wives tales and suggestions for bringing on labor and nothing has helped.
My husband has to leave to go out of town next Saturday. I really don't want to go into labor without him there. The hospital doesn't have a childcare service so I would have to fly in a relative to watch DD on short notice. My husband will not be back in town until I am past 43 weeks along. The doctor has already said as long as I keep passing the non stress tests and the fluid looks okay we can keep going but he isn't a fan of going past 43 weeks.
If we don't wait it out, we would have to have the c/s next Friday so I would be in my 42nd week. If we wait it out and no labor happens, we would have to have the c/s in the 43rd week hopefully after DH returns.
I know DH and I need to make this decision together and we have already discussed it at length and I am a wreck. I am just wondering what some of you ladies think.
Both options come with their own risks. At what point am I being selfish if I keep the baby in there with a no longer ideal placenta, less room to move, and an increasing amount of fecal matter? I feel like I am being selfish to consider forcibly removing my child from myself too and have to go through surgery. Am I hormonal much? Maybe
Anyway TIA for your thoughts
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If that's the case I think you need to fly someone out to help you regardless.
Personally I would not want to go past 42w. And with a low bishop score, I'd probably just schedule the RCS. I mean, if you are not at all dilated then castor oil, foley bulb, nip stimulation, etc is unlikely to work anyway.
His sure are you on your EDD?
I think that if the doctor felt your placenta was no longer ideal and there was fecal matter in there, he'd suggest a c/s.
I am very pro-VBAC. If I was over 42 weeks and none of the labor inducing techniques were working, I'd probably go for the c/s. Really, you could go into labor before next week anyway and it's not an issue.
I am surprised that there is a doctor out there that allows any woman go past 42 weeks these days.
All of this. If induction is not an option for you, that is...
~Sweet Girl *8/18/08* c-section ~ Sweet Boy *12/2/10* VBAC ~ Sweet Boy *8/14/12* VBAC~
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I'd not go past 42, personally... But then again, I'm not there yet myself!! Good luck!
Thank you for your thoughts ladies.
I know we have our due date correct because we were trying to conceive so I was tracking my ovulation and our sex nights. My body just seems to want to hold on to the baby.
I am going to ask him about stripping my membranes and whatnot and see what he says. Your comments have definitely made me feel better about scheduling a RCS next week if the baby doesn't come by Tuesday or other options are not an option.