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Adoption
ppl that messaged me
ok so lots of ppl have messages me and im looking thru them all so if you like dont have a reply yet i got a lot so im just lookin through them
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Re: ppl that messaged me
Are there people messaging you asking you to review their profiles?
Emimooboo....
I posted above your post... my post is not directed at you AT ALL... please don't take offense....
I hope we can be a supportive community for you and not overwhelm you with websites and profiles of hopeful parents. This is not the place to send notes of this kind.
We have a really cool Emom on this board right now... GreenTea.... stick around and maybe she can offer some first hand advice
Or feel free to call em out publicly because shaming is kind of delicious.
Okay, that's horrible, but it at least will keep some people who are tempted to not do it.
Application approved Dec '11
Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
Homestudy complete July 19
USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
Come home, baby A!
OMG I just LOL. You do come up with some of the damnedest comments and it makes me laugh harder knowing what you and DH do for a living.
Please don't judge my profession because I have no filter! I am going to make the WORST pastor's wife in 4 or 5 years!
And I meant delicious in a justice is served kind of way, but it's not very kind or gracious, obvs. I understand people wanting to have a family for real, but who wants to trust grabby people with another person's life? Selfishness is antithetical to parenthood. the end.
Application approved Dec '11
Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
Homestudy complete July 19
USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
Come home, baby A!
i didnt know that that wasnt cool, i'm sorry.
i cant go thru an agency because people might find out. nobody can find out. i've hidden it this long, itd suck to have my cover blown when im almost there
We're not saying it's not cool for you to get PMs from PAPs, we're saying it's not cool for PAPs to be sending you this information. That isn't the purpose of this board, and we don't want it to turn into a matching service. There just isn't the support necessary to even venture into it.
I guess I don't understand why an agency would "blow your cover." Are they required to contact your parents or something? I ask because I had such great support from my agency when I placed M for adoption, but I wasn't keeping it a secret.
It's totally up to you, of course, but I'd hate for you to miss out on support during this stressful time because of a fear that they might uncover you, when maybe that isn't the case. I just don't know.
Application approved Dec '11
Mar '12: Homestudy interrupted by change in Uganda requirements - where do we go from here?
After searching and searching, back with Uganda but with our homestudy agency's program.
Homestudy complete July 19
USCIS I-600A submitted July 20. Biometrics appointments arrived Aug 17; fingerprinted Aug 21; 171H received Sept 25th. On the wait list Oct 1st: #18. By Jan 25th, we're #13!
Come home, baby A!
Yeah, that's a whole other issue. I'm not really sure why the OP is keeping this a giant secret, and can't find ways to get medical care, work with adoption professionals, etc. without the world knowing. it's not like the fact you're making an adoption plan is going to be on the front page of the paper. And how are you going to just disappear and give birth?
You're well within your rights to do so, but it seems like you're putting yourself in a very lonely and vulnerable position, at a time when you most need support.