The dreaded... No

Carrie3102 · September 2012

Have you started to use it with your baby? Are they beginning to understand? What is their reaction to it?

We started this with Josephine around 6 months. The very first time DH said it, and she went all lunatic on us screaming like we'd done something horrible to her. He removed what she had in her hand and said (in a stern tone) "Josephine, no."

I had to take her to her nursery and rock for about 20 minutes to calm her down, if he came in she lost it again.

She's better at it now. Still doesn't like it, and will stick her lip out and start to cry. but she's just started this insane screaming when you take something from her. At first it was funny, then she did it at dinner, and I simply said in a stern voice "No, we do not act like that." and she stopped. It was like she looked at me and said... "ok mom, sorry."

Just wondered how everyone else's LO responds to no.

CountingUp · September 2012

I plan to not say it unless it's a case of danger but even then I'd rather say a loud "ouch, stop"

My husband says it a lot. It's like funny jibberish to her. She'll be saying it back to him in no time!

Carrie3102 · September 2012

Interesting so what do you plan to use when she's into something she shouldn't be?

We don't gate Josephine, I'm into letting her explore her surroundings, she needs to (in my opinion) know what her boundaries are in the house, for instance, she's allowed in the kitchen, but not near the garbage can or oven. I let her "cook" with me all the time, I give her a bowl, and a spoon and let her play. So when she heads towards the garbage can I say, No Josephine, you stay over here with mommy.

I am totally open to alternatives, because I do feel like we say no too often. So what is/are your, "that's not allowed" word/s?

CountingUp · September 2012

We don't gate A either.

I say a lot of "this is for A" and "not for A" . So lots of redirection!

Or if she's headed to something I don't want her near I just sit myself down in the playroom and start reading one of her favourite books. Without fail, she turns and crawls to join me in story time!

Carrie3102 · September 2012

Fantastic. Thanks for that. I guess I do use a lot of that's not for Josephine, here, lets do this... so thanks. I may try more of that.

Josephine loves books too...LOVES them

laken256 · September 2012

We use 'no' with our Lo. He understands it now, which is surprising bc I really don't say it often at all. When I do, its usually for something that he shouldn't be into or that could hurt him, like trying to eat the dog food or trying to climb on something unsteady. I only started using it recently, and will pick him up and move him from whatever it is while saying no. But the last week or so, if he starts toward something and I say no, he will grin and start to go on. If I say no again, he just turns and comes to me, still smiling. My oldest would scream and cry every time I said it and still does, but Lo just thinks its some kind of fun game and is happy to play along!

SoftSpot · September 2012

If he has something in his mouth we say hands only please remove item from his mouth while still letting him hold it.

For something he shouldn't touch it's eyes only please.

I use the occasional no but try not to. He will shake his head no when he's headed for something he's no supposed to like the fan so I think he's catching on.

uncharch7 · September 2012

DS is really into pulling my hair, I tell him "We don't pull hair" or to "Be gentle" when he does it and redirect his hands. I use no when he's eating and decides to eat the bib instead. He really doesn't get it yet, I figure we're a couple months off from that.

atlast107 · September 2012

We use no for stuff she shouldn't be doing, but mostly we let her explore everything. I think she totally knows what no means or at least shaking your head no because she shakes her head all.the.time.

She'll shake her head no when she's done eating. Or if I redirect her attention she'll shake her head no.

But then one day I was whispering I love you in her ear and she kept shaking her head no! Maybe she hates whispering in her ear...that's actually something my DH hates with a passion when someone whispers in his ear.

browneyedgoil · September 2012

she usually laughs at me & keeps doing what she is doing or throws a temper tantrum when i take away what i was saying "no" about.

WifeyMommy2011 · September 2012

I feel like I've started using it more with J the last few weeks. He still thinks it's a joke and laughs most of the time though lol.

tetedefromage · September 2012

I say it a lot when she's reaching for something she shouldn't have, and she has a meltdown. Its not the word though, just me taking the item away that makes her so upset!

Tussie Mussie · September 2012

It was really great to see that a few of the other mommas are trying to use other words instead of just no. I want to do the same, and like all of you right now is just mostly redirection.

Ricola · September 2012

DS always tries to pull off his bib in the middle of a meal and just ignores us when we say no. I am usually successful in distracting him with more food ;-)

alber2am · September 2012

I feel like I am saying "NO" all the time! LO will usually stop what he is doing and look at us, then try it again. If we are persistant a lot of times he will just turn around and move onto something else.

twocents6708 · September 2012

We try to say "not for baby" or " be gentle" if she is pinching or hair pulling. I am trying to keep no for more dangerous situations. A lot of times I just trade whatever she has that she shouldn't have for something else or redirect.

Carrie3102 · September 2012

We do use a lot of other words, I was paying attention lastnight. That was my goal, don't do it different just pay attention to what you are saying, kind of a take notes kind of thing.

When she is headed for the dog, (she likes to climb on him), "be easy Josephine, pet him nice" Then show her how to pet him.

When she tries to stand in the tub, "No Josephine, we sit in the bath tub" gently sit her back down

When she is headed for the dog bowl, "not for Josephine" and pick her up and set her in another direction.

When she pulls hair, "ouch, that hurts mommy/daddy, be easy" Then softly touch her hair

When she picks up dog food off of the floor, "No Josephine, that's not for you", and grab one of her fav toys/books.

So although we're not saying it as much as I thought we were, we sure do have to redirect her a lot... which is totally to be expected, and kind of fun.

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