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I think I AP after all

acbfreireacbfreire member
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I was mostly lurking here and it seems that I do AP Stick out tongue

DD sleeps in our room, I BF on demand, I follow her cues... I read the 8 principles and it is mostly what we do.

I am struggling with DD's naps. She falls asleep after nursing, but if I put her down, she wakes up and cries. I have tried the drowsy but awake and, boy, she gets mad!

So either she naps on the boppy or in my arms. Sometimes she'll nap on the carrier, but only if I am walking. At night she sleeps just fine on her own.

I am going to keep trying to put her down, but, at the same time, she won't be little forever and I don't want a cranky/ overtired baby. I hate when ppl are judgmental and imply that I am spoiling LO and that she'll be sleeping ;like this until she us 30 (sarcasm!).

If she needs comfort during the day and I am home, is it bad?

 

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  • LadyDelilahLadyDelilah member
    I dont think so. I did the same exact things with my DD and I got the same comments. Fast Forward to doing BLW and same thing. My grandmother is the worst. My DD is very social, well adjusted and happy. Do what makes your LO happy, safe and healthy. :)
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  • giraffe54giraffe54
    No advice to give, but I just wanted to say thanks for posting this! I feel like I could have written the whole thing about my experience. LO is a chubster and I'm nervous about how I'll manage to rock her all the time once she's bigger, but for now it would break my heart to give up the cuddles!
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  • pixieprincsspixieprincss member

    There is no way to spoil a two-month old. Napping in your arms is perfectly fine, though you may find it easier to have her nap in a carrier while you wear her. But, if you have the time for her to sleep in your arms--great! It is a precious time. Enjoy the cuddles. That said, I would ditch having her sleep on the Boppy. That comes with a risk of positional asphyxia.

    I am genuinely surprised that you are getting flack about this when you have a newborn. IME, most people do APish things until baby is about 4-6 months old. It is after that point that the differences between cue-based parenting and a training-style of parenting emerges.

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  • acbfreireacbfreire member
    imagepixieprincss:

    There is no way to spoil a two-month old. Napping in your arms is perfectly fine, though you may find it easier to have her nap in a carrier while you wear her. But, if you have the time for her to sleep in your arms--great! It is a precious time. Enjoy the cuddles. That said, I would ditch having her sleep on the Boppy. That comes with a risk of positional asphyxia.

    I am genuinely surprised that you are getting flack about this when you have a newborn. IME, most people do APish things until baby is about 4-6 months old. It is after that point that the differences between cue-based parenting and a training-style of parenting emerges.

    She sleeps on my lap on the boppy, after nursing so she is not unattended :) 

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  • katncrackkatncrack
    My daughter still naps on me now after a year, but mostly she seems happier in her crib and pack and play. I worried a lot too, but she is just fine and you should enjoy the time. I wish I worried less. Unless she has a cranky day she would rather sleep alone and she figured this out by herself.
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  • PayolaCrayolaPayolaCrayola

    imageLadyDelilah:
    I dont think so. I did the same exact things with my DD and I got the same comments. Fast Forward to doing BLW and same thing. My grandmother is the worst. My DD is very social, well adjusted and happy. Do what makes your LO happy, safe and healthy. :)

    I did the same. I didnt have an issue with it so i dont get why ppl felt the need to tell me she was spoiled. At 9mo she started napping in bed all on her own. My MIL was the worst always nagging and telling DH that we would have a crazy screaming child in our future. She was wrong. DD is very independent and social and every where we go ppl comment on how happy she is.

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  • acbfreireacbfreire member
    imagePayolaCrayola:

    imageLadyDelilah:
    I dont think so. I did the same exact things with my DD and I got the same comments. Fast Forward to doing BLW and same thing. My grandmother is the worst. My DD is very social, well adjusted and happy. Do what makes your LO happy, safe and healthy. :)

    I did the same. I didnt have an issue with it so i dont get why ppl felt the need to tell me she was spoiled. At 9mo she started napping in bed all on her own. My MIL was the worst always nagging and telling DH that we would have a crazy screaming child in our future. She was wrong. DD is very independent and social and every where we go ppl comment on how happy she is.

    good to hear that!

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  • DZylstraDZylstra
    This. My son napped on me consistently for probably 8 months. Now he sleeps better / longer in his crib. I wish also that I had just enjoyed the teeny baby and the snuggles, because he isn't teeny anymore and the snuggles don't last nearly as long when they come. And he is a happy, healthy, independent little one year old now!
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  • twocents6708twocents6708 member
    This was me exactly. We practiced AP before we had a clue what it was and I found this board and started researching. At this very moment, DD is napping on the couch with her daddy. This is where she always naps and we are okay with it. Some family members make comments that we hold her too much or she is going to be spoiled but I just agree to disagree. What is funny is that our of all of her cousins, DD is already the happiest and most independent of all of them. She rarely cries because we read her cues and respond before she gets to that point. Her closest cousin is on a strict schedule and is a very fussy baby. I don't know if that is just his disposition but I feel like DDs happy demeanor is a result of at attentative parenting. Go with your instincts and parent the way that YOU feel is best for your baby.
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  • TampasomedaybrideTampasomedaybride
    Just a suggestion I had a great sleeping baby who was a terrible napper. When we got the Fisher Price Rock N PLay he was like a new baby. He was finally willing to nap during the day. I think the reclining really helped him feel like he was being held. I am not a big "baby stuff" person but that thing was invaluable. We seem to have lost ours from DS and I totally freaked out about it until we replaced it. That was literally one of the only things I cared about reusing. 
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