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February 2012 Moms
btartaroind
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The separation anxiety begins!
btartaroind
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I feel like I haven't been on here in a week! I hope I didn't miss anything good. My title is actually referring to me missing the Bump. J/K 
Anyway, LO has changed so much in the past couple weeks and I haven't really had time to write about it!
1) He said his first word, Mama! I am super excited. At first I thought it was a fluke but even DH admits he knows it is me! He mainly calls for me when I am not there 
2) I have noticed DS doesn't use the bottle to fall asleep in my arms. He can put himself to sleep by himself sometimes as well. I am taking this as a good thing, even though I like knowing for sure he would go to sleep with a bottle 
It is really nice to cuddle with him though when he is sitting still and not all wiggly.
3) He definitely has developed a bad case of separation anxiety/stranger danger. He cries with almost everyone now unless they work themselves in slowly after a few minutes. Along with this he is starting to cry and get upset when I leave the room. He will also get cranky if I am in the room and not holding him. Lately I will hold him and within a minute he will fall asleep on my shoulder. He is constantly wrapping his arms around my neck and hugging me.
I definitely love the attention and the cuddles, but it's getting exhausting as well. Anyone else going through separation issues? I like knowing that he comes to me for comfort, but I need to also go to the bathroom sometimes, ya know what I mean? Any tips?
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Re: The separation anxiety begins!
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
Aria does all the same things. Here are a few things that have helped us:
1) I sleep with a generic baby blanket every night. If, for some reason, Mom or hubs can't get Aria calmed down, this blanket helps. They cover themselves with it, then snuggle Aria. (this is usually a last resort thing)
2) If I need to leave the room, I'll give Aria a toy, hand her to hubs (or my dad, my sister, my grandma, etc), and kiss her nose. Then I'll say, "Mommy'll be right back Lovie!" in a happy tone, with a smile. It's taken a few weeks, but she's starting to get used to it. I do have to come back within 5-10 minutes, depending on her mood though. If not, total meltdown.
3) Bubble Guppies. We have like 20 episodes on DVR. It's a great distraction.
4) If Aria still freaks out after #2 above, hubs will follow me around with her. She will either a) be fine, because I'm right where she can see me or b) get bored watching me cook/shower/etc. and want hubs to take her to play.
5) TIME. I'm the most bothered with the separation anxiety when it comes to hubs, because it makes him sad when she cries as soon as he takes her. (he understands it, but he doesn't like it) So, we've been working on that part big time. Yesterday, she actually reached for hubs, and let him hold her for 30 minutes without wanting me!
Oh, and I should add: Aria is a lot better when I'm not there when she wakes up. The Saturdays that I'm working, she's just fine with hubs until I get home. (I leave before she's awake) The same goes for when my Mom has her during the week. I, on the other hand, am not ok. The few mornings that she wakes up before I leave, I cry as hard as she does when she's reaching for me and I can't stay with her. Thankfully, this happens only a time or two a month.
ETA: (seriously, all that stuff and I forgot this!) We're mostly working on the separation anxiety for when I have to go to work/when I'm home or at a family member's house and need to be baby-free. She still won't go to strangers at church/out in public very well. I'll always try to hand her to them, say something in a cheery voice so that she knows it's okay, but in the end she usually wants to come back to me pretty fast. I'm just giving it time and not pushing it.
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This is JB too. He is fine with my mom during the day but when I come for lunch or to pick him up he is Mr. Cranky pants until I grab him. Thanks for all the tips though, I will try some!
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