Who is ready for another?

bigbootyjudi · August 2012

No freaking thank you is what I say to that. Maybe in two or three years, but no way, no how for right now.

I do know a lot of ladies who get right back on the horse though. Anyone trying right away for their next baby? If not, how long before you do? Or was this your last trip down pregnancy road?

ETA: I didn't answer my own question. We'll start trying sometime after his second or third birthday, but if our next one is a girl, I think we'll be done.

rels09 · August 2012

Bwahahaha - hell no. It will be a mental battle to get me ready for another one anyway, given my 3 weeks of hospital bedrest and DD's NICU time. We had tentatively planned to try again around LO's second birthday, and that will likely still be the plan.

latnprincess · August 2012

MAYBE in a year. BIG MAYBE.

gollywollypog · August 2012

LucyD1029:
Oh hell no! I've been pregnant or BFing for 2 1/2 years. I need a break! If we have another, it'll be another 3 years or so.

Yep, that was me with my first two, lol. Now Emery is here almost 5 years later! I was ready before, DH wasn't.

DH is getting snipped tomorrow, I am okay with it because I really want to enjoy Emery as my only "baby" and I know I wouldn't be ready for another until he was 3 or so and at that point our oldest would be 10. Just not the right fit for our family, so three kids it is!

NerdyMama2 · August 2012

No way. My shop is closed, at least until DD's in grade school!

Cheerilee · August 2012

I've not had mine yet and I'm a big HELL no! This is my first and will be my only. It was an easy pregnancy, but I just don't want more than the 2 we have.

Bemyselfandi · August 2012

With two under two right now I'm at my wits end. Pretty sure one two year old would have thrown me over the edge...but I had to throw a newborn in the mix. Dummy me.
If another one is in our future ....that's abig if...it won't be for another five years. Then we will have hopefully a more mature 7 year old and a 5 year old. Hopefully easier than a two year old...

phq2011 · August 2012

Ah HELL no! Maybe in 3-5 years. DH wants 3 total and I told him if he could find a way to carry them in his body, I would even deliver. Lol.

Mrs_Bennett · August 2012

Hah, yeah right! I've been pregnant and/or breastfeeding since December 2009!! We aren't sure if we want a #3 yet or not, but if we do, it won't be for a few more years.

LeanneOfHonour · August 2012

We aren't going to use BC, but I'm sort of hoping I'm not pregnant for another year...

sammiesjd414 · August 2012

Yikes! I has just saying to DH that I understand how women say they forget the pain, but the whole process just takes so much effort! 9 months of planning and prepping, labor, recovery, settling in. I'm exhausted just thinking about doing it again.

That said, we will have at least 1 more kid at some point. probably at least two years from now.

klp28 · August 2012

I really want another, but my H thinks 2 is enough. Either way, I would be ok with it. Also, I've been either pregnant or BFing for over 2 years, and mama's tired!

thepretzelchick · August 2012

Uh, no. Not only that, but hell no. We got married in October and got pregnant unexpectedly in November with this LO, so things happened really fast and throwing another one into the mix anytime soon would be disastrous. Right now the plan is see how we feel and how finances are in about 2 1/2 to 3 years.

ashS10309 · August 2012

Umm a big NO here. We will probably wait at least 2 Years to try again. I'm just trying to enjoy this one for now.

jesslinnn · August 2012

Not right now, but I know I want more. I say 4 total, DH says 3. I would like a 2-3 year gap, DH wants to wait a little longer, closer to 5 years between. It's something we've decided to just figure that out as we go... see how life with 2 kiddos goes first.

daniellelovesjacob · August 2012

No way for me. I don't want another one for 3 years. I need to get back in shape.

irer · August 2012

Me! I have the baby rabies but I know it is just the pp hormones talking...but I do think we will go for a third when ds2 is about 1yo...in the meantime will enjoy our family of four

nopegoat · August 2012

Rhett was our last. We aren't doing anything permanent yet because we are both pretty young but I will be on paragard soon and when its time for it to come out one of us is getting fixed.

I thought I would be sad but I'm really not. I am really looking forward to being babyless and being able to go on vacation and show my boys the world. My family feels very very complete now.

JayandEmm · August 2012

This is our one and only. I have a bit of an infertility issue and I don't want to go through TTC again. I really only wanted one child anyways.

The only thing that makes me sad about my decision is that I'll never experience pregnancy and birth again. I had an incredible pregnancy, labor, and delivery.

runnergirl79 · August 2012

We're done, but if we were going to have another, it would be at least 3 years from now.

mrs mosby · August 2012

IF we have another it won't be until DD#1 is in all day kindergarten. It wouldn't be worth it for me to work if we have 3 in daycare and I love my job. I'm pretty sure we are done with 2 but we're not going to do anytihing permanent yet.

MoFree · August 2012

He11 fvickkng no. It is almost a relief to know that natural conception is practically impossible. I feel cheated out of a normal pregnancy and delivery eexperience and hope that will happen one day. As far as another child, I am so depleted caring for a super fussy, high needs preemie that I don't know how I would manage another. I have 3 frosties that I am planning to use. We will thaw the two that are frozen together in a year or so and if that is not successful we will use the third. If none of them result in #2, the. I'm not sure what we will do. I would like another child but don't know if I want to endure a fresh IVF cycle.

ks3pink · August 2012

I am tied up and done. Three is what I wanted and what I got. Happy to be done at such a young age.

merricksmom · August 2012

Hell no! Our boy is 8 1/2 and now we have a girl. I'm happy with that. Also my husband just turned 45 and although he loves this little girl I think this pregnancy was to appease my ticking clock. This baby also took over 2 years to conceive...I don't want to go through all of the disappointment again. Plus I love my job and would like to jump into it and a third child would make that difficult. So definitely NO. I am getting the Paraguard and then in the spring the husband is getting snipped.

DemoDoll · August 2012

I definitely give props to moms that do 2U2 but that's just not for me. I'd really like to enjoy DD thoroughly. My brother has 2 babies 16 months apart and I feel like they didn't get to enjoy a lot of the firsts with their first baby. His wife has bad pregnancies and now they have their hands pretty full with two babies. I don't want that but it definitely works for others. I want our children to be 2.5-3 years apart. I am excited to start trying and for the first half of the pregnancy...just not excited for the last half of the pregnancy or to adjust to having a toddler and newborn...

tammynixx · August 2012

I think I'm happy with one, DF wants 3 though. So at this point I'm really unsure.

nattlynn6 · August 2012

Call me selfish but I want some me time. I had a great pregnancy, but it was still pregnancy I didn't feel like myself at all. I'm getting an IUD placed at 8 weeks PP & plan to use for the entire 3 years! I want to get back to working out & feeling good, getting back my sexy time with dh (pregnancy sex ahhh no) & enjoying every possible second with my LO & hubby. We are not 100 % sure about having another but AT LEAST 3 years. I need to become me again for awhile, get myself back before I can share my body/mind again.. if that makes sense

PNWmommy · August 2012

LucyD1029:
Oh hell no! I've been pregnant or BFing for 2 1/2 years.

This is me. Got pregnant with DD1 in February 2010 & then BF for 13 months. Got pregnant with DD2 the same month DD1 turned one... so I've been pregnant and/or BF for 2.5 years...

Besides, we are done anyways. DD2 is our last child & DH is getting a vasectomy.

garciasgal · August 2012

I had a great pregnancy and birth so sometimes I think I could get pregnant right away, but 2U2 is not for me! DH wants our kids 3 years apart; I'd like them more like 2 years apart, so we're probably try for somewhere in the middle.

shakinros · August 2012

Not for at least 3 or 4 years. I want to enjoy the baby stuff with one kid for awhile. We've always discussed two children so I do think there will be another down the road.

PNWmommy · August 2012

DemoDoll:
I definitely give props to moms that do 2U2 but that's just not for me. I'd really like to enjoy DD thoroughly. My brother has 2 babies 16 months apart and I feel like they didn't get to enjoy a lot of the firsts with their first baby. His wife has bad pregnancies and now they have their hands pretty full with two babies. I don't want that but it definitely works for others. I want our children to be 2.5-3 years apart. I am excited to start trying and for the first half of the pregnancy...just not excited for the last half of the pregnancy or to adjust to having a toddler and newborn...

The age difference between our two girls is great! DD1 is getting pretty independent, but she is young enough that they should be pretty close as the grow up... & we didn't miss out on any firsts I think anything sooner would have been too much to handle for me/us, but had I waited longer to get pregnant, I may have chickened out lol!

JAO2011 · August 2012

Um no - definitely not yet! I never thought I would be a one kid family but after everything we went through to have her, the relatively easy pregnancy, and the great birth experience, I am almost afraid to try again. I am not getting any younger so I know we can't wait years, so maybe when DD turns 1 we will try again. Maybe!!

JBullock10 · August 2012

Well I'm getting tied in October so this was our last but we have 3 together and DH has a 4 yr old DD as well.. Our 3 are all insanely close.. Not planed but blessings just as well. My DD1 will be 2 at the end of next month, DS will be one on the 12th of next month and DD2 is almost 3 weeks old so my kids are not even a full year apart and I am sooooo done... Love my kids but I want me back ya know

abeaverhausen2 · August 2012

DH and I have both said we would be happy with one but feel it would be selfish. DH has 4 siblings, I have 2, and we can't imagine life without them.

We think we'll wait 2-3 years before trying again, although we have talked about adopting.

Andreabks · August 2012

Depends on who you talk to. DH was tramatized by my delivery (3 1/2 hours of pushing ending in a c-section that he walked into after i was already completly open and they were about to pull her out)

i didn't think it was that bad. didn't feel any of the contractions, the time went fast, and the c-section recovery hasn't been nearly as bad as i thought it would be. so i'd like another. i think we'll give it 6 months before we start trying if i can get DH to agree. it took us 3 years to get to this point so time will tell. it took 6 years to convince DH he really was ready for the first....

mollyxcate · August 2012

DH and I decided we don't really want another LO. We aren't doing anything permanent about it (no tube tying or vasectomy yet) but we are pretty sure this is our one and only trip down baby road. Our families aren't really supportive of this but we don't care.

LoveOfMikesLife · August 2012

If I hadn't gotten such terrifying news at my OB apt we'd start trying again soon probably. But now I feel like DS might be an only living child

PaisleyRuth · August 2012

I'm pretty much a NO on having a third. DH wants more, but let's be honest - I do all the work for them. I've always said I'd have 2-3, but every reason I can think of these days is a reason NOT to have another. Physically, financially, emotionally, mentally & spiritually I think I'm only cut out for 2 kids. I love them both to pieces, but I really have no desire for a third.

valeriej6 · August 2012

Great post. It's been hilarious reading people's responses. Right after DD's birth (which ended in an unplanned c-section after 2.5 hours of pushing-she was transverse) I said she would be an only child. Now, with sore and cracked nipples I'm still not sure I could do another baby....at least for 2-3 years

I love my DD more than words and wouldn't trade a thing about how she got here.

gingermom2 · August 2012

If we were in a better financial situation we would LOVE to try when DD is around 6 months, however we are going to wait until we get our house and have a little more in savings, so when she is around 18 months.

sdlaura · August 2012

It took us a long time to get/stay pregnant, and we know we'd like one or two more children, so I won't be going on any type of BC. If we could plan the next one we'd probably want to get pregnant when LO is about a year, but given our history we won't prevent anything from happening sooner.

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