TTC After a Loss

~*~December Snow Angels Check-In~*~

What's up my lovely ladies?! I've been having a much better week now... thanks to all for your concerns last week - it's nice to know I was missed on the boards.

This is a weekly check-in open to any and all ladies who have had a loss with an EDD in the month of December (any year).  To all of the new ladies, welcome to the group!  I am so sorry for your loss, but glad you can find support here.  Tell us about yourself and join the conversation.

TTA: genmalone (EDD 12/4),  annarussell (EDD 12/16), ashleen223 (EDD 12/19), kklamb (EDD 12/17), megans313 (EDD 12/7), roxycc55 (EDD 12/1), a&aw12707 (12/23)

TTC: 1mrsdunn (EDD 12/23), lindsayanne79 (EDD 12/17), jackiemary (EDD 12/9), julesg22 (EDD 12/8), WAis4Ris (EDD12/23), SunshinyLees (EDD 12/17), weaslewam (EDD 12/5), mgh2008 (EDD 12/21)

December TTCAL Graduates: Kriszstina33, luvsdogs2 (EDD 12/18), ahbEsq (EDD 12/24), jkmbean, Brittkav (EDD 12/16), dmalone1024 (EDD 12/15), johnd'sbride, rickandtricia (EDD 12/2)

a&aw12707    Have you heard what your HCG is at currently? When is your next draw? FX that AF shows up soon!

annarussell05:    Ahhh the 2ww. How do you feel about this cycle? FX for you **BABY DUST**

ashleen223:    1 Week til you start TTC AGAIN! I'm jumping up and down for you! I can't believe time has finally dwindled down to the single digits. I can't wait til you get your BFP! What was the result of your appointment with your OB and the "problem appointment" (Sorry if i missed an update!)

jackiemary:    Hope school is treating you well! :):)

kklamb10:    Still missing you, give us an update to let us know how you're doing if you're lurking :)

lindsayanne79:    How is the start of your school year going? (aside from the pg coworker... FX that you can avoid her!)

MeganS313:    I think whenever you're temping is working because you can clearly see a shift! When do you start TTC again?

mgh2008:    Chart stalking you - I'm glad to see you've O'd now! How do you feel about this cycle since it's your first one now TTC?

SunshinyLees    How was your getaway to Okanagan Valley? I hope you enjoyed TONS of wine :)

roxycc55:    I am so glad you and your DH had an opening up conversation about your loss and for trying in the future. I hope that by June next year you're both ready and raring to go :)

WAis4Ris:    FX for your 2ww! When do you test :):):)

GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

Hope everyone has a great day!!  (((hugs)))

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BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
TTC no sooner than November 2014

Re: ~*~December Snow Angels Check-In~*~

  • imageweaslewam:


    GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

    My fave karaoke is Sunday Morning by No Doubt... or Living on a Prayer... or back in the day we used to sing Love Shack as a big group! I LOVE KARAOKE!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
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  • imageashleen223:

    Hi ladies!  Glad you are better this week wease!!   

    ashleen223: 1 Week til you start TTC AGAIN! I'm jumping up and down for you! I can't believe time has finally dwindled down to the single digits. I can't wait til you get your BFP! What was the result of your appointment with your OB and the "problem appointment" (Sorry if i missed an update!)

    Me too!  I keep counting down the days to DH every day!  I keep telling him he better be ready!  CD1 should be on the 6th so we are good to go after!!!  I hope to get a BFP soon, but I'm scared I will have my hopes up too high for the 1st cycle.  Also, I will be scared sh!itless when I do get one hoping it's in my ute!  My appointment went well!  My OB examined me and squished on my left side to see if it was tender and everything checked out fine.  She said she definitely approves of us trying again in September.  I think DH is more at ease now. 

    GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

    I'm a horrible singer!!  But I have done drunk karaoke and it's usually The Spice Girls Embarrassed

    Fwew, so glad that the OB appointment put your DH at ease. I can totally see his side though - you have us to talk to so you can calm your crazy (not that you're crazy, but I know *I* have crazy that needs calming from time to time) and that was probably his way of putting his mind at ease and so there wasn't as much stress for his BDing thinking he could hurt you again.

    Oh and I think the rule of karaoke is that you HAVE to be a horrible singer :) but it's fun to feel a little like a rock star!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
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    imageweaslewam:


    annarussell05:    Ahhh the 2ww. How do you feel about this cycle? FX for you **BABY DUST**

    GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

    Thank you for the dust!  Yes, the dreaded 2ww.  Already going crazy.  I'm taking progesterone, which is already making me feel nauseous.  Not good for the TTCAL brain - mimicking pregnancy symptoms and all.  I'm feeling really hopeful but also very scared.  It's our first cycle TTCAL, after TTA since May so I know I will be crushed if we get a BFN.  

    GTKY:  My go-to karaoke song is Miranda Lambert's "Gunpowder and Lead."

    Have a great day, all!

    Well best of luck to you! Keep us posted on how you're feeling... I hope that the symptoms are all PG related!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
  • Hi ladies!

    I have been super stressed over ttc this cycle, especially the last 2 weeks and I am not sure why.  I am not feeling so optimistic about this cycle and need to keep telling myself that it is just our 1st month ttc again and I need to be patient.  Easier said than done.

    Go to karaoke song is Earl had to die by the Dixie Chicks.  Must be very drunk though. 

    BFP #1- 12/3/09, EDD- 8/7/10, Missed M/C at 8 weeks & D&C- 1/5/10, BFP #2- July 2010, Baby Charlie Born March 29, 2011, BFP #3- 4/12/12- EDD- 12/21/12, Missed M/C at 10 1/2 weeks 5/29/12, D&C 6/1/12- testing results showed triploidy, IF testing all normal, February 2013- IUI#1, femara, follistim, trigger =BFN, March 2013- IUI#2, femara, follistim, trigger= BFP #4, 3/20/12, Beta#1 16dpo= 397, Beta #2 18dpo= 1037, Beta#3 24dpo= 11,589- EDD 11/30/13- It's a Girl!!! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BabyFruit Ticker
  • imagemgh2008:

    Hi ladies!

    I have been super stressed over ttc this cycle, especially the last 2 weeks and I am not sure why.  I am not feeling so optimistic about this cycle and need to keep telling myself that it is just our 1st month ttc again and I need to be patient.  Easier said than done.

    Go to karaoke song is Earl had to die by the Dixie Chicks.  Must be very drunk though. 

    I know how you feel, I was insanely stresses last month (that was our first month back on the TTC wagon) and it was hard to not stress. I'm guessing this cycle won't be any different! (((HUGS))) to you and I hope you're able to stay sane over the 2ww!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
  • Hello Ladies!

    lindsayanne79:    How is the start of your school year going? (aside from the pg coworker... FX that you can avoid her!)
     

    School is back in full swing...I love this time of year, I have so much hope for all of the wonderful and productive things I will get done this year, hopefully I still have this much energy in June! As for the PG co-worker, so far she doesn't look PG so it's sort of outta sight, outta mind...but that can't last forever!

    On a bright note, I had EWCM yesterday (rare for me) and we BD'd last night so FX for good timing!  In a related story, when I told DH I had EWCM (using the full words) he told me that "calling it that grosses him out" and wanted to know if we could call it something else, so we decided on "baby juice"...which I think sounds strange, but hopefully it helps him out...haha!

    Hope everyone has a great week!

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    BFP #2 9/10/12 CP 9/19/12@ 5.5wks EDD 5/21/13
    BFP# 3 12/3/12...Lukas James born 8/15/13
    BFP# 4 8/4/14 EDD 4/13/15

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  • imageweaslewam:

    roxycc55:    I am so glad you and your DH had an opening up conversation about your loss and for trying in the future. I hope that by June next year you're both ready and raring to go :)
     

    GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

    Hope everyone has a great day!!  (((hugs)))

    Thanks, me too! It was so helpful to get out there. I was talking to him about carlymarie's project of grief for october, and the photo ideas people were listing. One of them was "something that no one else realizes reminds you of our loss." When I said that to him he said, "you know what mine is? Beauty and the beast." (he explained it was because of the name Belle, and that he wants to be a dad like that, that is nerdy but head over heels in love with his daughter) It was so sweet, and un-like my FI to say openly. He has been opening up more since the fight, which is really nice.

     GTKY: I LOVE Karaoke. I sing it like every Friday Big Smile My go to song is "Someone like you" by Adele.


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  • imagelindsayanne79:

    Hello Ladies!

    lindsayanne79:    How is the start of your school year going? (aside from the pg coworker... FX that you can avoid her!)
     

    School is back in full swing...I love this time of year, I have so much hope for all of the wonderful and productive things I will get done this year, hopefully I still have this much energy in June! As for the PG co-worker, so far she doesn't look PG so it's sort of outta sight, outta mind...but that can't last forever!

    On a bright note, I had EWCM yesterday (rare for me) and we BD'd last night so FX for good timing!  In a related story, when I told DH I had EWCM (using the full words) he told me that "calling it that grosses him out" and wanted to know if we could call it something else, so we decided on "baby juice"...which I think sounds strange, but hopefully it helps him out...haha!

    Hope everyone has a great week!

    Haha, I agree that the words cervix and mucous are total boner killers! And describing it as "egg white"... not so hot either. I like baby juice as a substitute so at least he knows what's up without having to be grossed out!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
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    imageweaslewam:

    roxycc55:    I am so glad you and your DH had an opening up conversation about your loss and for trying in the future. I hope that by June next year you're both ready and raring to go :)
     

    GTKY: What is your go to karaoke song/fave song to cheer you up if you don't do karaoke?

    Hope everyone has a great day!!  (((hugs)))

    Thanks, me too! It was so helpful to get out there. I was talking to him about carlymarie's project of grief for october, and the photo ideas people were listing. One of them was "something that no one else realizes reminds you of our loss." When I said that to him he said, "you know what mine is? Beauty and the beast." (he explained it was because of the name Belle, and that he wants to be a dad like that, that is nerdy but head over heels in love with his daughter) It was so sweet, and un-like my FI to say openly. He has been opening up more since the fight, which is really nice.

     GTKY: I LOVE Karaoke. I sing it like every Friday Big Smile My go to song is "Someone like you" by Adele.

    That is SO cute! I love that he's going to be that kind of father. It sounds like he is a real winner (even though husbands say the DARNDEST things sometimes don't they?)

    I can NOT sing someone like you to save my life! You must have an amazing voice :)

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
  • Hi! Thanks for doing the check in and I'm so glad you are feeling better. My hcg was at 2, and of course AF showed about an hour after I got off the phone with the nurse. I love it when that happens :/.

    I cannot sing at all, however I am a rock STAR in my car when any Bon Jovi comes on!
  • SunshinyLees    How was your getaway to Okanagan Valley? I hope you enjoyed TONS of wine :)

    Hi Weaslewam!! The Okanagan was amazing!!!! It was the perfect little getaway of hot sunshine, mega vino and thee days straight of bding and I feel so much more refreshed now! Yay!!!

    Just currently waiting to O...I'm on cd 16 and I should have gotten a positive OPK by now( normally cd14-16) and a peak on my CBFM so I'm hoping that I'm just Oing later this cycle rather than not Oing at all. FX! Weasleman, I saw in a post yesterday that you're using the monitor. Did you get a peak on your first cycle? This is my first cycle using one and I've been peeing on the sticks since cd 6 and they've all been highs. From what I've read, it can take a couple of months for the monitor to "get to know you" and some ladies don't get peaks for a couple of cycles. Ugh well at least I'm using regular opk's as a backup but this monitor is stressing me out!!

    I loooooove kareoke! When my girlfriends and I get together for girls trips away we always hit up a kareoke bar or bring the machine! Fave songs are "Mickey", you know "oh mickey you're so fine, you're so fine you blow my mind hey mickey" and also "Don't stop believing" by Journey. That one gets everyone singing along!

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    BFP#2 CP Sept 17th 2012 at 4.5 wks. EDD May 23 2013
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  • imagea&aw12707:
    Hi! Thanks for doing the check in and I'm so glad you are feeling better. My hcg was at 2, and of course AF showed about an hour after I got off the phone with the nurse. I love it when that happens :/. I cannot sing at all, however I am a rock STAR in my car when any Bon Jovi comes on!

    Congrats on AF arriving! And your HCG being so low (I'm sure it's probably 0 now!)

     

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
  • imagekklamb10:

    imageweaslewam:


    kklamb10:    Still missing you, give us an update to let us know how you're doing if you're lurking :)

    Lurking today just for this check in!  I miss you ladies!  Glad to see our group is starting to shrink as we have more graduates.  Life has been kinda crazy for me the past few months.  I'm still having some GI issues but finally have a diagnosis and a treatment plan that seems to be working!  It's IBS and while I HATE my GI Dr, he finally seems to have found some meds that work!   I almost punched him last appointment when he asked me for like the 3rd time if I have children!  (We had the conversation about my lost my first visit.)  I managed to snap "I had a miscarriage a few weeks before all of this started!"  For a sec he looked like I had actually punched him but stammered an apology.  DH was there and told me he was very proud of me for not punching the Dr but if he asks me again about having children I have his permission to punch the idiot! 

    My GI issues were one of the reasons DH and I decided to put TTC on hold.  Now that things are getting better we are debating on what to do.  Do to some extra expenses and lost income due to my GI issues we're at a place financially where we could swing having a baby but it would be a big stretch.  We've discussed TTA until sometime next summer by then we'd be financially ready to buy a house.  I'm really not sure I can wait that long. (read this as: no way! but it sounds like a good idea financially) So that leaves us at the cross road of house first or baby first? We sat down and looked at our finances and came to the conclusion that in a few months we'll have somethings paid off freeing up around $600-$700 a month.  Any thoughts here ladies?  Also anyone know of any good sites/calculators for figuring how much a baby really costs?  I know as far as insurance approximately how much it will be but I know DH is worried about the monthly expenses: diapers, daycare, etc. We agreed to discuss a time frame for TTC (assuming we decide baby first) and I'd like to show him an idea of what a baby would really cost.  If you can't tell he's a #s guy and this isn't an emotional decision for him at all.

    Sorry that got so long!  I realized I had a lot to get off my chest!  If you made it this far thanks for listening and I'll keep you posted on what we decide.

    I'm so happy to see you here even just for a quick second (hehe actually a good long update!) I don't know of any financial websites other than just googling "how much does a baby cost" and you'll find calculators and you can check boxes like "will you use diapers or a diaper service" etc. I know you can save money buy buying secondhand clothes (which is what I plan on doing) and shopping at thrift stores. I know you and your DH will make a good decision regarding having a baby, you've obviously thought this through a lot!!!

    (((HUGS))) I hope you're back to TTC before next summer so I can see that BFP STAT!

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    BFP 1 - March 26, 2012, MMC discovered May 21, 2012
    BFP 2 - October 30, 2012, Rainbow Baby Boy born July 14, 2013
    TTC no sooner than November 2014
  • Congrats to all the grads and ((HUGS)) for all who need them!

    MeganS313:    I think whenever you're temping is working because you can clearly see a shift! When do you start TTC again?

    I PPH l-o-v-e LOVE temping!  Its soo great seeing the shift and knowing whats happening!  I'm glad I took the plunge and think this will defintiely help me stress less when we do TTC again. 
    We still havent' set a date in stone for TTC again.  Orginally we said "september."  However, ti looks like AF will come that first week and we have SOO much happening in Sept between DS's birthday and a wedding every.single.weekend. that we think it will be best to wait until October.  So for now...that's the plan.  However DH might be SOO busy with harvest that october might be out as well.  I'd like to say October or November b/c that's the most likely situation.  We are going on a cruise with DH's family over thanksgiving so I'd like to know for sure then if we are KU or not (which would be possible) but also make it VERY obvious at a VERY early stage :(  So we're still debating between October and November.  Before our loss, I was in SUCH a rush to get pregnant and have another baby.  Now, I'm more mellow and am enjoying our little family of 3.  I definitely want more kiddos but for now I'm content...I hope it stays that way until we decide to start again. 

     GTKY:  I LOVE Killing Me Softly by the Fugees...It's a favorite my 2nd choice would be "Like a Virgin."

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    My Beautiful Boys! 

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    PgAL/PAL welcome, always!
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