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July 2011 Moms
AnnaMPAdams
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NBR, SIL Wedding=Slutty BM dresses
AnnaMPAdams
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My SIL is getting married in May, and DH, DS and I are all in the wedding. I'm not super close with SIL, but DH is and she was in my wedding so I guess she's just returning the favor. Today, she picked out her bridesmaid dresses and sent me over a text picture. Please note that I realize this is not my wedding, and it isn't at all about me, but these dresses are SO slutty!. They're very, very short and skin tight with a very deep sweetheart neckline and strapless. I would never wear a dress like this on my own, and to be honest I feel like I'm going to be uncomfortable in it. Also, I can't imagine chasing around a toddler wearing a dress that small/tight. She has picked another option for us to chose if we prefer, but it is the exact same dress with halter straps. Her FI's sister is a bigger girl, and I don't think she's going to be too happy with this dress either, and I feel bad for her to have to wear it. Do you think it's totally out of line to bring this up to SIL and ask if she can chose a dress that is maybe A-line and knee length as the second option, or should I just suck it up and wear her choice. I don't want to be a brat or take over her wedding, but I would have personally been OK with someone voicing this concern with my own wedding. I wanted everyone to feel comfortable. Thanks!!
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Re: NBR, SIL Wedding=Slutty BM dresses
Wow, that dress sounds like it is totally NMS either. Personally, I would say something due to my own feelings about wearing such a dress and consider it a bonus that I was helping out FI's sister too.
Personally, while it is not your wedding, it is your body and you wearing the dress. You should be allowed to recommend and/or voice your opinion in those matters.
ITA. I feel like there should be a balance between her wishes as the bride and your comfort as the person buying/wearing the dress.
I would talk to her and hopefully she takes your concerns to heart. Maybe you could suggest a few dresses that you'd feel more comfortable wearing?
I've been to several weddings where the dresses are so poorly chosen that half the BMs are literally falling out of the top. If they are that bad, maybe have DH say something to her since they are close. Does she really want half her guests snickering and making bets as to who will have the first wardrobe mishap?
If she won't change it....order a few sizes larger and find a good seamstress who can make a non-slutty form fitting dress from it.
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I'd just take it to a seamstress to make it acceptable and not say a word.
As much as speaking up in reality sounds like a great idea (and believe me I'd want to) 9 times out of 10 it ends up with a pissed off over reacting bridezilla.
And btw, didn't any other bridesmaids go along with her to pick out dresses? Isn't that how it usually works? The rational brides I know take a couple along to say, "yes, no, maybe."