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October 2012 Moms
God-Parents?
Speaking of PP, baptism. Who of you are picking God-parents for your LO?
If you are: Are you picking/have you picked someone younger than you and SO, or older, or doesn't it matter to you?
Are you picking family or friends?
?Married 11-1-08 ~ dxPCOS 9-1-11 ~ BFP 2-14-12 ~ T.J. born 11-1-12?
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Re: God-Parents?
My DH is not really religious either, but baptism and god-parents are REALLY important to me. I have always felt like someone younger is what people 'usually' do, I just don't feel like I have good choices... Ack, that's horrible to say! I have been struggling with this since before I got pregnant?!
We are pretty sure we'd like to ask our best friends, who are married and I am their son's godmother, and DH is going to be their new LO's godfather.
My family tends to ask other family members, and I always thought I'd ask my sister, but she's been a complete nightmare to me and other members of my family for a few months now, and I just don't feel right asking her to be a role model for my child when she's behaving this way. (Not to rant on like that, it just really bothers me!)
DH did mention that if his nephew was a little bit older, he would love to ask him to be a godfather. Nephew is 14, but we're very close with him... I don't know the age requirements or anything, but we would probably pick him for #2!
We are picking my brother (hes 13) and DHs sister who is 24. I know my brother is young, but I wanted to stick with family simply because I have seen friends as godparents andddd it just isnt a great idea. family will always be family, friends can change. (not saying that family cant but still) My brother is so excited for our little man it just makes my heart melt. Even though he is young, we are still pretty close and I think he will be so excited!
I feel the same way about my sister right now, I'm BOTH of her son's godmother...but she's been such a ***** lately... I can't even think about asking her this right now.
And I was a godmother at that age... I was SO excited and I loved it. I don't think 14 is too young!
This is a touchy subject with us, but we will have them but not sure who. Last time we did my sis and DH's bro, this time we wanted my bro and his cousin. But MIL has gotten herself involved and wants DH's sis to be the godmother and I think has already said something to her...I don't really care BUT our church is now requiring both god parents to be practicing catholics which does not fit my little bro, so now everyone's PO'd about the whole thing. MIL wants both god-parents to be on DH's side...I'm almost ready to say DD's not getting baptized in the Catholic church and go the Episcopalian route since I'm not Catholic anyways and when I go to church myself I go to an Episcopal church. I'm also not opposed to good friends. I know things can change but so can family members.
We are still on the fence about this but we are probably going to go with people who are about our age and a little younger. I told my hubby that I would love to have my brother be a godparent but we have an 18 year old gap (he's older than me) and I wanted to make sure that whoever we picked would be around in case something were to happen to us at any time. I'm actually kind of leaning on the idea of choosing two couples to be our little one's godparents. But we shall see. I would like to keep it in my family for at least one person but my younger sister and brother are still trying to find their way and I really want the godparents to be people who have their lives together and share the same values that me and DH share. I think it's important to have those things in a godparent because it will make you feel more confident that someone would raise your child the way you would want them to be raised if something were to happen to you. I suggested my bff and her hubby, and my DH's sister and her hubby. But I'm not sure if that's who we'll go for yet. We shall see!
We just became god parents for my dh niece. We had to attend a baptism class where we learned to be a god parent u have to be at least 16, u have to have made ur own baptism, communion and confirmation, and if u are married u have to have been married in the catholic church. Dh and I got married on the beach so this became an issue for us. Luckily my brother in laws church was not as strict and let it go but our church wouldnt seem to budge.
U also have to be a practicing catholic but we just joined the local church and asked them to provide a letter that we are members. I think some require u to make donations though or they will. Check to see how many donations u have made (ie how many visits u had and when)
For DS, we have my sister (she's now 25) and DH's friend from high school and his wife (they are 30 and 28). I'm not 100% sure who we'll be using for DS2. Probably my sister and maybe DH's brother (but he's not religious, so I'm not sure how that works).
My parents used friends for my god parents and I never saw them because my parents didn't remain friends with them for long. For my sister, they chose siblings and I feel like that worked better. When DH and I were considering godparents we wanted to make sure whoever we picked we would remain in contact with so they would remain in DS's life. I'm sure we'll still be friend with DH's friends for quite a while, but they haven't shown much interest in being godparents aside from attending the baptism.
This is precious!! Totally made my heart melt! Congratulations, that is the sweetest thing!
My husband is a god-parent to one of his friend's kids (My hubby and his ex-gf are actually the god parents...good thing her and I are pretty good friends so it's not weird for us).
I'm not sure if we will be picking God-Parents...I'm assuming this is a religion based thing? We aren't religious....
Catholic and we already picked Godparents for DD#1. DD#2 will ahve the same Godparents. They are my aunt and uncle. They are also Catholic, nobody else in my family is. DH's family is Catholic but my Aunt and Uncle were more suitable choices.
Their role will be, to be there for all major religous events and to make sure we are continuing to raise our kids with the Catholic faith.
My brother and his wife are guardians if anything were to ever happen to us, and the Godparent role would become even more important at that point making sure our children stay in church. My brother and his wife do not go to church.