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Golly Gee.. on to the bump!
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Re: Golly Gee.. on to the bump!
I am coming over from GP to set the record straight. No one was really rude to her. No one gave enough of a sh*t to respond given what our community is going through right now. What she did was not fine. What she did was the equivalent of going to a funeral and rubbing it in the faces of mourners that she was still alive and healthy. It was completely inappropriate and quite frankly, she is lucky no one really opened fire on her. It would have been well deserved.
Wait, where does "I want to have multiples" fit in? Not infertility...
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You made the comment, that is enough for your to be seen as insensitive. Frankly, you seem a bit dim too. Do you honestly think that you are going to come to a pregnancy board and NOT run into women who now are pregnant and had infertility issues so they are sensitive to the plight of others? What you did was poor taste, and shows a lack of concern for others emotions and difficulties in life. Many women here have struggled to get their LO's so take that into account before you pop off with "but I didn't say it TO her"... just behind her back.
As a GPer, let me see if I can explain this to you. And by the way, I'm one of the nice ones, so take this as about the best you're going to get.
Support - Yes, these boards are for support. You tend to give as much as you get. You post count and your admission that your posting was spotty means that you lent very little support to those on the GP board. You are a relative stranger. You got as much as you gave.....very little. FTR, 50% of the responses to your post were positive.
Timing - Through no fault of your own, your timing was bad. The GP community is mourning a loss. We are also dealing with a troll. Our nerves are frayed. If your feelings were hurt, I'm sorry. It's not JUST you.
Etiquette - I don't expect newbies to understand the rules of the Knot, Nest, or Bump. But let me explain them to you so you can understand and save yourself some grief. (You don't have to agree with them, but you're doing yoruself a favor to understand them). You should LURK before you post. Get to know the regular posters and find out if you think you'll fit into them. The boards are different. Some are heavy with the snark, some are more puppies and rainbows. However, you are not going to change them. LURK before you post to see if you will fit. POSTING - as mentioned before, you need to GIVE support to GET support. Like it or not, many of the women on GP have been there a long time and are still trying to GET pregnant. It's been very, very hard for most of us. When someone achieves a pregnancy, most times she will annoucne quietly and move further pregnancy related posts to a pregnancy board. Because you were really, really new, you are considered a driveby. You've done very little in the way of supporting us as we've struggled, and now you have what we want. Be happy! Celebrate! Enjoy your pregnancy! Every baby deserves to be cherished. But please, don't rub our faces in it.
Taboos - Do not, ever, in any way, comment on where or how IFers should post. It will get you flamed. In addition, you don't have any idea what it's like to walk in our shoes, and I hope you never do.
Lurk, learn, support, and THEN you will understand what it mean to be part of an online community. It's not all about you.
I'm sorry that was long winded. I hope I was as clear as possible. Congrats on your pregnancy, I hope it is perfect in every way.
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Harley, this is a bullsh!t move on your part to come over here and have the nerve to talk about "infertiles" not having the right to post on GP. Those "infertiles" actually post and offer support, and are actually part of GP. And yeah, if you think that GP was snarky, good luck on the bump. I'm sure you'll do just fine. LOL that you didn't think things through far enough to realize that GP was going to see this.
Perhaps you should just leave then? Because you won't get anything but nasty responses with your attitude.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
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She was randomly chiming in on Multiples, too.
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
Agreed this is not a colt, it's open to the public some of these people are just rude ignorant people that we can feel sorry for their kids.... Bullies deserve to get bullied
anyway congrats and I wish you a happy healthy pregnancy 
GL on here
Yay! Someone feels sorry for my kids! I would love the trifecta from another NEWBIE about feeling sorry for my husband and how I am a miserable person! PUH-leeeeeeeeeez?!?!??!
You know what, I belong to that Getting Pregnant board and I was one to Congratulate you on your BFP. But now I am starting to regret being so nice.
You are right the purpose of these boards is to in fact share stores, successes, ask questions, console, and trouble shoot. But where were you in any of that but the success part?!?!?!??!
And you questioning why a person struggling with IF is on a TTC board.....well I have no words for what that makes you.
I was wondering the same thing. Maybe my doc will let me do IVF if I tell him I want twins really, really badly. Like, really badly.
Baby boy 7.10.13
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
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You can do that here too. The OP chose to post on a board that she didn't belong on, hence the problem. There would have been no snark at all if she had made an effort in reading comprehension.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
She made an honest mistake and *** hits the fan? It's uncalled for.
You are right! This is not a male horse! It is open to the public, but so aren't public restrooms. I wouldn't walk in to one of those and announce something to total strangers with out expecting a few weird looks and some tongue lashing for being rude while interrupting people who were conducting their business.
She wasn't being bullied she was being corrected. You clearly don't get it.
Unmonitored Clomid must have been her sure-fire way of getting twins https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/67878032.aspx
Since she opened this thread I have had this image of the OP walking into an infertility clinic, sitting down for a moment so she felt she was part of the group, then blurting out "I"m KTFU!" and then proceeding to throw the biggest hissyfit when the ladies make a funny face and direct her to the OB/GYN offices down the hall. On the GP thread, not one person was "rude", they were just a bit confused and pointed her to TB. Harley is seriously lacking in social skills, but seems to feel that they don't apply to online message boards. Oddly, other ladies lacking in those skills are agreeing with her.
Word.
Congrats and sorry you had to go through that
when I was on the TTC board a few people didnt believe that I had a BFP in one month of TTC, I was blessed. Some days those people make you want to say something so mean to them. God doesnt like ugly, if you dont have nothing nice to say dont say anything at all!
Congrats and welcome
Don't let it bother you. There are rude people everywhere you go. I can see where you are coming from - you just wanted to announce your pregnancy - no reason for anyone to get snarky about it. Anyway, like I said, don't let it bother you. Congrats! And have a happy and healthy pregnancy! Don't let the stuff people say ONLINE stress you out. It's not good for you the little one L)
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I think you were shockingly nice for the lack of relationship and obvious AW of the OP. I understand that being new is no fun but that doesn't mean you can skip the intros and relationship building just bc you are excited. OP, hope you learned your lesson.
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LMAO Did she really post that? Noooo. Really?!
Ginny DX 21-Hydroxylase Deficiency Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia
Charlie DX Specific Antibody Deficiency & ASD
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Harry - born 04.18.2016
The Nest is full of snarky....females (I'll use a nice word). Not ALL of them but in my case there were lots.
I once deleted my account and started over because they were so incredibly harsh. I felt their goal was to make everyone look like an idiot. This was about two years ago so maybe they changed but I left those boards as fast as I could, and I started posting on here when I found out I was PG.
You're welcome on these boards. Congrats!
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