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To take the job? Torn and confused
So last year I spent I was hired mid year by one of the schools in the area to finish teaching for a teacher who left.
At end of the school year I was informed that they would not be able to offer me contract extension until budget approval had been met, but wanted me to know that I was there first choice. They would contact me during the summer.
2 weeks before ended school year, I find out I am pregnant!!! YAY! We are thrilled, I just figured if I got the offer great, if not no problem stay at home Mommy for the year!
All
summer passed, no job offer. I was really depressed at first about not
having a job, I felt as if I had no purpose. I have worked every day of
my life sense I was 16, so this is all new to me. Eventually I accepted
my future as being stay at home mom for next year or two. A decision I
had a hard time accepting at first but has now grown on me. I took it as
sign, this was what the universe wanted for me.
Today, I receive the CALL! They want me, I have to start Monday. They need decision by 8 am tomorrow. I am due in January. Maternity leave would give me till March. Then baby would be in daycare till June! I just don't know how I feel about this. I am so torn. Taking job would keep me occupied till baby is born, but when push comes to shove I don't know how I feel about putting our 12 wk old in full time care. Then again it would only be 3 mo.
I am so so torn. Money isn't an issue, my husband very supportive either way. Did anyone else have lots of self conflict with leaving there career? I need some input I am so confused at this point.This discussion has been closed.
Re: To take the job? Torn and confused
Do you want to be a SAHM or a WM? I thought I would be ok staying at home, but when it came down to it I decided I would be happier at work... I was in essentially the same position as you money ok, supportive husband.
Is this a school that you enjoyed teaching at? Could you see yourself there long term? If so it might be a good idea to take the job good teaching positions are hard to come by!
Also, MarchJune is a great trial period for being a WM, could you go back for this year and make another decision next summer if needed?
Good luck!
I would take it. You can alway reevaluate it at a later time. Once you turn it down you will have no other options. Full-time daycare for 3 months is nothing in the big picture. A lot of working moms would love to be in that position - 3 months working, then almost 3 months off for the summer. If you hated working those 3 months then you know you want to be a SAHM. However, if you enjoy it, then you know you want to be a WM. You will never know if being a WM is for you unless you try.
It is hard to go back to work after a maternity leave, but hopefully 3 months will give you time to get into a schedule and really evaluate if you want to work.
It's hard to say how you will feel after your LO is born. I wouldn't pass up this opportunity just yet. You could always reconsider in January; I'm sure the school system can replace you next term, if necessary.
Thanks so much for all the great advice!
My husband's job is pretty secure. He is army helicopter pilot.
I ended up taking the job. My principal was super supportive and she said she didn't expect to know about my SAHM feelings right now. Said we can discuss it closer to my due date. She also said if that is what I choose she fully supports me, because she did it too.
It was great to have that support from her. I can not thank you ladies enough. I thought maybe I was going crazy, it's nice to know what I was feeling was normal. I feel really relived and at peace with my choice.