To take the job???? TORN & Confused

Re: To take the job???? TORN & Confused

• MrsKM82 member

  August 2012

  This is purely my own opinion but if it were me I would not take the job....if you can afford it I would take a few years off. I was a teacher, had a baby in January, went back to work hated it then got laid off so I am currently staying home although I would love to permanently. Teaching was super hard when pregnant. However, I know some teachers who were fine till there due date... I had kindergarten and a tough class and carried my baby very low so I could barely walk or stand to top it off so that made it harder for me personally. It also killed me to leave my baby and I found my passion gone. I wanted to be taking care of my baby, not spending time with other children.
  Of course I was still quite hormonal so things could have gotten better in time.
  
  However this is just my experience and only you can decide if you want to work or stay at home and what is best for you and your family. One thing on the other side to think about is depending on your area, teaching jobs can be hard to come so this might not be an opportunity to let pass if you are leaning toward working.

  

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• carlyrenee member

  August 2012

  I am actually teaching now and would love to stay home...however I was wondering what their policy is on leave.  We can take as much childcare leave as we would like.  We don't get paid obviously and drop our insurance but when you want to go back if ever they have to offer you first dips on job opening...as long as you've kept up with schooling.  Just a thought.  This is what my husband and I are thinking for when baby #2 comes along hopefully next year.  Good luck with whatever choice you make, both are tough.

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• ariel06 member

  August 2012

  What would happen if you didn't go back after leave?  Could you do a nanny or something to finish out the school year? 

   Not sure what the job market is like in your area, but around here teaching/education jobs around here are scarce.  If you you turn down a position, your chance at getting another position at that school district is pretty much zilch.  If you're only planning on staying home two years or so, be careful not to burn bridges. 

  

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• littlemermaid member

  August 2012

  If your goal is to go back to work after a year or two then I would take the job now.  I know where I live if a teaching job falls in your lap in this economy you better scoop it up because there are a ton of other people in line behind you that wouldn't think twice.

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• lexusolsen member

  August 2012

  Take it! I agree that teaching jobs are hard to find and if you plan to work, you need to keep your networking skills up. I was laid off and when I was called up to come back LO was three months. I didn't take it and took the year to be with LO. Now that I am starting back, it has been difficult.
  
  The first day of a training I attended I was in a complete fog and had a hard time using the lingo and getting back into it. Its doable but it would have been easier to do if I had gone back last year.

  

  
  

  
  

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• vlagrl29 member

  August 2012

  for me personally I would not.  once that baby is born you really don't want to leave her at daycare.  is there a way you can still use the subject you teach on a part time basis?  I teach private music lessons but not in the school district so I'm still doing what I love but it's on a part time basis and we don't have to do day care.

  

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• With baby member

  August 2012

  If you need money, you should take the job

  But if you can stay at home you should... But its your choice 

  some days i wish i had a job at lest once a week so i can get out and met people, i can talk to

   

    

  

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• vlagrl29 member

  August 2012

  also, if you can afford to live on one income then don't take it unless your are absolutely sure you want to.  If it's something you LOVE to do and need it in your life DO IT.  If you would rather stay home with the baby do that.  Also, if there is a way you can teach in any sort of way, not necessarily full time and still be able to be with your baby, then maybe that's also an option.

  

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• segerama member

  August 2012

  I would take the job.  From your post, it sounds like this is your first child.  I think you will be really bored staying home while pregnant.  I also would give daycare a fair shot before staying home.  I didn't decide to stay home until my daughter was 2 and now I am back to teaching.  I enjoyed my year of staying home but am happy to return to my career.  I plan to take another leave of absence with any future children.

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• ssers002

  August 2012

  Thanks so much for all the great advice!

  My husband's job is pretty secure. He is army helicopter pilot. This is our first child, so right now I do feel like I have tooo much time on my hands. I also know once the LO is here my feelings and life will change. Teaching jobs aren't hard to come by hear, just basically they hire once year. So if you don't have one by fall, better luck next year.
  

  I ended up taking the job. My principal was super supportive and she said she didn't expect to know about my SAHM feelings right now. Said we can discuss it closer to my due date, and that there are lots of options for me for leave. She also said if that is what I choose she fully supports me, because she did it too. 

  It was great to have that support from her.  I can not thank you ladies enough. I thought maybe I was going crazy, it's nice to know what I was feeling was normal. I feel really relived and at peace with my choice. So for now I am working, but we will see what happens in January.
  

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• mrsrobinsontobe member

  August 2012

  i wouldn't...it's so all-consuming trying to prove yourself those first years in a school system...if money's not an issue, i'd sit the year out and enjoy getting ready for, being with your little one!

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• ack2002 member

  August 2012

  You know daycare isn't the worst thing in the world, right?? I work full time-not because I HAVE to, my DH makes enough money for the both of us. I work because I love my job and I worked really hard to get it. People have a tendency to act like the only reason women work is because their husbands doesn't make enough money. At least that's the perception where I live. Anyway, there are a lot of really good daycares out there and I really like mine. Plus her immune system is a lot stronger since she is exposed to germs on a daily basis and I don't have to worry about setting up playdates, etc. to build her social skills. She is around people all day.

  I would go crazy if I sat at home waiting to give birth.  

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