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ssg73 · August 2012

Let me have it ladies.

ctbride08 · August 2012

I recall there being some friction b/w you and your sister in the past - how are things now? How is she as an aunt to Ella?

ssg73 · August 2012

Well the tension is still there but it is actually better. We don't see her all the time so that helps and she is actually a good aunt to Ella. Which I am surprised about. I must say that she totally stepped up when E was in the hospital and took care of our dog. She drove right to our apt and picked him up, brought us things to the hospital (we had nothing when I got taken by ambulance to the other hospital), and walked the dog every day for the entire time E was in the hospital (2.5 months) in the evenings so that we didn't have to come home from the hospital to do it. She still is an ass and always has to be better, smarter cooler than me. But I just ignore it mostly now. It just isn't worth my time. Do i wish I was closer with her. Kind of. I guess I wish I had a sibling I wanted to be closer to.

ctbride08 · August 2012

Does S have siblings? How are they?

ssg73 · August 2012

S is the youngest of three. They are all very close. Her brother is Ella's favorite person in the world she loves her Uppa Jeff. Sue is only 18 months younger than her sister. They were closer when they were younger but i think S coming out put some strain on the relationship. Although she is very supportive and was really helpful with the rest of the family I think being from a small town and never moving out of it makes it hard for her to relate to S who is a lesbian in the big city. I love her sibling and their spouses though. I am very lucky. We see them about 1 or two times a month.

FlemFam718 · August 2012

I think I remember that you're a teacher. What do you teach? Do you feel like your school is open and accepting of staff?

ssg73 · August 2012

yes I am a teacher. I teach 6th grade science (but have taught 7 and 8th as well). My school is very open and accepting. We have a pretty large number of gay staff members. Including one of the assistant principals, a guidance counselor, the librarian, and about 6 teachers. We also have a gay straight alliance (one of the few middle schools). My town is known for its progressive and supportive of gay educators. We also have a gay teacher organization that holds meetings and get togethers. I am very lucky. I usually have at least one child with gay parents every year. Last year we had three kids with two moms.

thiswillbe · August 2012

Which one are you in your sig? And is there any particular reason you don't have an avatar other than the bump one?

leapgirl8 · August 2012

What would you say was the happiest time in your relationship? What about the strongest time?

Are you like me and you have secretly already picked out a college and a career for E, even though you know it's her choice and you can't/shouldn't have any say in it? If so, what are they? If not, do that now and tell us what you picked, just for fun.

ssg73 · August 2012

thiswillbe:
Which one are you in your sig? And is there any particular reason you don't have an avatar other than the bump one?

I am on the left. I don't have an avitar because I am lazy. I also should get another picture in my siggy since that one is 2 years old! My kid is three not 15 months!

ssg73 · August 2012

I think the happiest time in our relationship was the beginning when we first moved in with each other. Things were just so easy. We had no real responsibilities and since we were both working we had some cash to spend on fun stuff like going out. I think we loved the freedom to go grab dinner or drinks when we wanted or to do special things for each other. It was also a time that we were really focused on each other and our relationship. Now we are torn in so many directions. We are trying to give each other time and attention but it is so much harder now. The strongest time was when E was in the hospital and when I was so sick. We were so on the same page and focused on getting her better and home. The NICU will either bring you together or tear you apart and we were lucky because we never fought the entire time. We were strong for each other and for E. We all had our days where we were mad, discouraged or just plain sick of being at the hospital but we seemed to be able to have our off days at different times. When one of us was down the other carried the load. I wouldn't say it was a fun time in our life but there are times and in some ways that I actually miss it. We literally had one thing to do every day. We didn't clean, cook or do laundry (our family and friends did that for us). It was a very intense but amazing experience to see that scrawny little chicken of a person who could not eat or breath on her own transform into a person that we got to take home in the end.

EratMama · August 2012

What do you want to pursue as E gets older and you have more time? Is there a hobby or goal you are putting off?

butterflygrooves · August 2012

How has being a teacher influenced your parenting?

Mrs._F · August 2012

How are you feeling? Did I miss an update on your health?

will gladly come back and edit if you don't want this here

2moms2twins · August 2012

Regarding the issues you and DW are having - and being in a similar boat and feeling that I am connected to you because I think you both helped me stay sane while our girls went through the NICU scene and I totally know that "WE WERE SO ON AND IN SYNC feeling " during that time ... and run on sentence

Anyhow have you tried counseling? If so what do you thing about it and was DW on board? or what have you done to help things and what would you recommend if someone was in a similar boat ?

ssg73 · August 2012

EratMama:
What do you want to pursue as E gets older and you have more time? Is there a hobby or goal you are putting off?

I would love to take a photography class at some point. I used to knit and have not done that in forever. I hope at some point I will get some free time again to have more me time.

ssg73 · August 2012

butterflygrooves:
How has being a teacher influenced your parenting?

I think being a teacher has allowed me to have lots of patience. I am very good at screaming swears in my head while calmly explaining to a child that they need to finish their dinner or put something away. I also think it has given me some perspective about the different rates kids develop and that there is all sorts of ways "normal" can look.

ssg73 · August 2012

Mrs._F:
How are you feeling? Did I miss an update on your health? will gladly come back and edit if you don't want this here

I am actually feeling so much better. It is looking like my symptoms were anxiety related and now that I am back on some meds they are almost all gone. Thanks for asking. I am so very relieved.

Mrs._F · August 2012

Oh good! So glad to hear!

ssg73 · August 2012

2moms2twins:
Regarding the issues you and DW are having - and being in a similar boat and feeling that I am connected to you because I think you both helped me stay sane while our girls went through the NICU scene and I totally know that "WE WERE SO ON AND IN SYNC feeling " during that time ... and run on sentence
Anyhow have you tried counseling? If so what do you thing about it and was DW on board? or what have you done to help things and what would you recommend if someone was in a similar boat ?

Things are better but not fabulous. We are talking more and I think we are working towards a better place. DW is still struggling with some depression so until that is resolved things are going to be tough. DW is in therapy and I think when things calm down a bit we will add couples therapy too. Talking about how we are feeling and trying to make time for each other has helped. i think finally just admitting that things were not going well and deciding that we wanted it to be better has helped. We still have work to do but we are on the right track.

Mrs._F · August 2012

ssg73:
Things are better but not fabulous. nbsp;We are talking more and I think we are working towards a better place. nbsp;DW is still struggling with some depression so until that is resolved things are going to be tough. nbsp;DW is in
therapy and I think when things calm down a bit we will add couples therapy too. nbsp;Talking about how we are feeling and trying to make time for each other has helped. nbsp;i think finally just admitting that things were not going well and deciding that we wanted it to be better has helped.
nbsp;We still have work to do but we are on the right track. nbsp;

Um, parallel lives. You've got an email coming from me.

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