Ask a bitter, bored, bed-rested lady.

Venus04d · August 2012

I'm bored and lonely. Please to entertain.

Manateearmz · August 2012

What did you pick for your pumpkin pie topping?

Venus04d · August 2012

Manateearmz:
What did you pick for your pumpkin pie topping?

Cool Whip all the way.

ThePolishHammer · August 2012

How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )

Venus04d · August 2012

justAphase:
Who's gonna win big brother? Who do you want to win?

I kinda think it would be awesome to see Frank pull it off, even though I think he's been a pig lately with some of his comments on the live feeds and after dark.

I think Danielle, Shane, and Ian have a good shot.

RedWingsFan · August 2012

Are you allowed unlimited pumpkin pie at the hospital? I bet if you told the nurses that the babies are staying inside because of the pie, they will give you a lot more of it

Oh, and E and M have started talking to each other and they can 100% understand each other but we can't....reason #48532 that twins are awesome and yours are going to be the cutest (after they are out in several weeks, of course).

Is your daughter allowed to come visit you?

Venus04d · August 2012

ThePolishHammer:
How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )

Well, I feel banged up physically. Everything is sore and achey tonight. I'm in a warm bath now and headed to the heating pad. Emotionally, I'll be honest I'm struggling. I'm stressed about keeping the babies in, I'm lonely because I'm by myself so much, I'm sad because I get so little time with my outside daughter, and I'm having a hard time living only to bake babies. I've had zero control over what I want to do for 11 weeks now. If things go right, I still have another 6-8 weeks of no say in what I want. It's frustrating. I'm also still dealing with losing my mom in February and it compounds the loneliness. If she were alive, we'd be on the phone nonstop or she would have already come out to keep me company. Right now, I desperately want my mommy.

However, I'm relieved my babies are still baking, my DH is man enough to step up and care for me and DD1 and our house and our finances without complaint, and that I have you ladies to vent to. Things could absolutely be worse and I'm trying to keep focused on the good.

Venus04d · August 2012

RedWingsFan:
Are you allowed unlimited pumpkin pie at the hospital? I bet if you told the nurses that the babies are staying inside because of the pie, they will give you a lot more of it
Oh, and E and M have started talking to each other and they can 100% understand each other but we can't....reason #48532 that twins are awesome and yours are going to be the cutest (after they are out in several weeks, of course).
Is your daughter allowed to come visit you?

I actually got sent back home tonight. After I got the second steroid shot, the MFM said that if I wanted to go home he thought my cervix could handle it as long as I strictly stayed in bed except to pee. It's a blessing so I can see my daughter more, but I'm anxious about not having a nurse 10 feet away. I just hope it doesn't prove to have been the wrong decision.

Venus04d · August 2012

chicala:
Venus04d:
ThePolishHammer:
How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )
Well, I feel banged up physically. Everything is sore and achey tonight. I'm in a warm bath now and headed to the heating pad. Emotionally, I'll be honest I'm struggling. I'm stressed about keeping the babies in, I'm lonely because I'm by myself so much, I'm sad because I get so little time with my outside daughter, and I'm having a hard time living only to bake babies. I've had zero control over what I want to do for 11 weeks now. If things go right, I still have another 6-8 weeks of no say in what I want. It's frustrating. I'm also still dealing with losing my mom in February and it compounds the loneliness. If she were alive, we'd be on the phone nonstop or she would have already come out to keep me company. Right now, I desperately want my mommy.
However, I'm relieved my babies are still baking, my DH is man enough to step up and care for me and DD1 and our house and our finances without complaint, and that I have you ladies to vent to. Things could absolutely be worse and I'm trying to keep focused on the good.
Wow so sorry you are going through this, thoughts and prayers with you. Focus in those gorgeous little ones when they are all squishy and new. So sorry about your mom too, that must be really hard. Question, what are you doing to pass the time, other than bumping What are your top 5 favourite tv show s of all time?

To pass the time, I'm bumping, obsessing over Big Brother, shopping for the babies online, crosstiching, and reading. I also work some from home for a publishing company.

Five Favorite of all time? That's tough.

Wonder Years, Freaks and Geeks, The L Word, Arrested Development, and Criminal Minds are my answers tonight, but my answer would probably change daily.

ThePolishHammer · August 2012

Venus04d:
ThePolishHammer:
How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )
Well, I feel banged up physically. Everything is sore and achey tonight. I'm in a warm bath now and headed to the heating pad. Emotionally, I'll be honest I'm struggling. I'm stressed about keeping the babies in, I'm lonely because I'm by myself so much, I'm sad because I get so little time with my outside daughter, and I'm having a hard time living only to bake babies. I've had zero control over what I want to do for 11 weeks now. If things go right, I still have another 6-8 weeks of no say in what I want. It's frustrating. I'm also still dealing with losing my mom in February and it compounds the loneliness. If she were alive, we'd be on the phone nonstop or she would have already come out to keep me company. Right now, I desperately want my mommy.
However, I'm relieved my babies are still baking, my DH is man enough to step up and care for me and DD1 and our house and our finances without complaint, and that I have you ladies to vent to. Things could absolutely be worse and I'm trying to keep focused on the good.

Aww man... I can imagine how rough it must be. But you're right, thank goodness the babies are still baking!

I totally understand how you feel about your mom. It's been a couple yeas since my dad passed away, and I still feel like that sometimes.

Thinking of ya and praying for those babies!

RedWingsFan · August 2012

I'm glad you are home, but I understand being anxious.

Huge hugs to you. I was on strict bed rest for 10 weeks and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. In hindsight it was obviously worth it, but during that time, it was an everyday struggle and you definitely lose yourself because your only job at this point is to be an incubator.

If you need to vent or anything you can message me on FB at any time I know it seems like forever, but you are so close and you have done such an amazing job so far.

I'm also sorry about your mom - I'm sure she is very proud of you right now.

((hugs))

Venus04d · August 2012

chicala:
What kind of cross stitch are you doing? I did a beautiful baby name one when I was pregnant, with a border of toys, jack in the box, teddy bear and animals. I found it very relaxing

Right now, I'm just doing the silly, easy ones that you buy in store patterns. Kids could do this stuff. I haven't dne it in a long time so I'm having to refresh my skills. I'm hoping to do something for all three of my girls soon.

Venus04d · August 2012

Thanks RWF and HP. I really appreciate the kind words. I have some great friends, but none are parents yet and they've really not been around since I went on bed rest. It's sort of pathetic how much the encouragement I get here means to me. It definitely helps to beat down the loneliness some times.

RedWingsFan · August 2012

Venus04d:
Thanks RWF and HP. I really appreciate the kind words. I have some great friends, but none are parents yet and they've really not been around since I went on bed rest. It's sort of pathetic how much the encouragement I get here means to me. It definitely helps to beat down the loneliness some times.

Anytime

We are all here for you.

Here are some mindless questions:

1. Favorite dessert?

2. Dream job?

3. Dream vacation?

4. Cake or Pie?

5. Team Angelina or Team Jen?

6. Is Tom Cruise crazy?

7. Would you rather lose one of your hands or one of your feet?

8. Wine or beer?

9. Would you rather be deaf or blind?

10. Celebrity crush?

11. Have you ever had a perm?

LOL, these are random, but I've been consuming wine.

jorkz821 · August 2012

Venus I'm so sorry about your mom. It's been almost 20 years for me and I still miss my mommy sometimes.
You're such a strong person! You're doing a great job, and just think how much you can hold this over the girls' heads when they're older. "Oh, you don't want to tidy your room? Well mommy didn't want to be on strict bedrest and daily trips to LD for 3 months when you were little so DO IT.". No?

MoonlitPlumeria · August 2012

Venus, I want to say that you are definitely one of the strongest women I know! You are sweet and kind but tough when you need to be! I admire you! Also, you are definitely one my my all time favourite Bumpies!

Here are some jokes for you:

What do you get if you cross a hedgehog with a giraffe?

A very long hairbrush!

What weighs two tons and has flowers in its hair?

A hippie-potamus!

jorkz821 · August 2012

What did the snail say when he was riding on the turtle's back?

Wheeeeeeeee!!

Venus04d · August 2012

RedWingsFan:
Venus04d:
Thanks RWF and HP. I really appreciate the kind words. I have some great friends, but none are parents yet and they've really not been around since I went on bed rest. It's sort of pathetic how much the encouragement I get here means to me. It definitely helps to beat down the loneliness some times.
Anytime
We are all here for you.
Here are some mindless questions:
1. Favorite dessert? (Cherry Cheesecake)
2. Dream job? (A college history teacher.)
3. Dream vacation? (Greece)
4. Cake or Pie? (Cake, as long as it's not chocolate.)
5. Team Angelina or Team Jen? (Jen, but Angelina will always be sexy.)
6. Is Tom Cruise crazy? (Clearly!)
7. Would you rather lose one of your hands or one of your feet? (A foot.)
8. Wine or beer? (Beer, good beer.)
9. Would you rather be deaf or blind? (Deaf)
10. Celebrity crush? (James Franco or Dave Grohl)
11. Have you ever had a perm? (In 7th grade and I looked gooood.)
LOL, these are random, but I've been consuming wine. (I'm super jealous.)

Venus04d · August 2012

mbenit4:
Venus -- I have been praying your babies stay in.
(I hope me saying this doesn't offend you).

Absolutely not. I appreciate support in every form.

Venus04d · August 2012

jorkz821:
Venus I'm so sorry about your mom. It's been almost 20 years for me and I still miss my mommy sometimes. You're such a strong person! You're doing a great job, and just think how much you can hold this over the girls' heads when they're older. "Oh, you don't want to tidy your room? Well mommy didn't want to be on strict bedrest and daily trips to LD for 3 months when you were little so DO IT.". No?

Lawlz. Very, very true.

Venus04d · August 2012

MoonlitPlumeria:
Venus, I want to say that you are definitely one of the strongest women I know! You are sweet and kind but tough when you need to be! I admire you! Also, you are definitely one my my all time favourite Bumpies!
Here are some jokes for you:
What do you get if you cross a hedgehog with a giraffe?
A very long hairbrush!
What weighs two tons and has flowers in its hair?
A hippie-potamus!

Haha, you're so adorable. I see where your DD gets.

Venus04d · August 2012

jorkz821:
What did the snail say when he was riding on the turtle's back? Wheeeeeeeee!!

Hahahaha!

Venus04d · August 2012

mbenit4:
Who has been visiting you?
If I was coming to see you what would you want me to bring?

My "BFF" has come once in 11 weeks. Two former coworkers have come twice. One other former coworker once.

A meal so DH could have a night off from cooking and a bottle of sparkling cider or grape juice for me because it's yummy! Oh! Or a good book!

MoonlitPlumeria · August 2012

Venus04d:
MoonlitPlumeria:
Venus, I want to say that you are definitely one of the strongest women I know! You are sweet and kind but tough when you need to be! I admire you! Also, you are definitely one my my all time favourite Bumpies!
Here are some jokes for you:
What do you get if you cross a hedgehog with a giraffe?
A very long hairbrush!
What weighs two tons and has flowers in its hair?
A hippie-potamus!
Haha, you're so adorable. I see where your DD gets.

Aw thanks, that made me blush!

*Why are mountain climbers curious?

They always want to take another peak!

*What do you call the girl on a trombone player's arm?

A tattoo!

Venus04d · August 2012

MoonlitPlumeria:
Venus04d:
MoonlitPlumeria:
Venus, I want to say that you are definitely one of the strongest women I know! You are sweet and kind but tough when you need to be! I admire you! Also, you are definitely one my my all time favourite Bumpies!
Here are some jokes for you:
What do you get if you cross a hedgehog with a giraffe?
A very long hairbrush!
What weighs two tons and has flowers in its hair?
A hippie-potamus!
Haha, you're so adorable. I see where your DD gets.
Aw thanks, that made me blush!
*Why are mountain climbers curious?
They always want to take another peak!
*What do you call the girl on a trombone player's arm?
A tattoo!

Bahaha. I love the trombone player one.

nancy30005 · August 2012

Girl, I am so sorry. You must be losing your mind.
I wish you were closer, I'd come over and play!
Is anyone there to help you? KY is only 6 hours from ATL....what if we move the GTG? LOL

Hang in there!

Venus04d · August 2012

nancy30005:
Girl, I am so sorry. You must be losing your mind.
I wish you were closer, I'd come over and play!
Is anyone there to help you? KY is only 6 hours from ATL....what if we move the GTG? LOL

Hang in there!

I would definitely vote for moving the GTG. My DH's family have always been incredibly helpful and supportive, but my FIL is currently battling cancer. So for now, until we kick cancer's_ass we're pretty much on our own.

MoonlitPlumeria · August 2012

*What's the definition of an optimist?

A folk musician with a mortgage.

*Why is crossing the road like playing the piano?

C sharp or B flat.

And that's all folks. I'm off to bed, but I'll be here all week!

Venus04d · August 2012

car seat:
(((hugs)))

I know this sucks, friend. And I know this is going to continue to suck for awhile.

But you can do this. It's not ideal. It would be much better if you could be doing this the way everyone else gets to, and it's not fair that you can't. Be angry about it all that you need to.

Then refocus. You've already come so far, love, and now when those babies do come they're going to get through it because of everything you've already done for them. Everything now is an investment in how your next few months will look, and sweetheart, that's going to be so valuable when they're here. It's going to make all of this worth it, every moment of rest.

And now I'm going to tell you something that I've told myself a lot over these past years. Someday this won't be your life anymore. All of this is temporary, and on the other side of it there will be life and living again. This will be in your past, and much more beautiful things are waiting for you on the other side. So hold on during these rough weeks. It's going to suck, but dammit, then it's going to be so good you won't know what to do with yourself.

(((hugs))) You're doing a great job.

Super huge hugs back. That was exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you so much for always being such an awesome friend. ((hugs)) Thank you.

Venus04d · August 2012

CTGirl30:
car seat:

(((hugs)))

I know this sucks, friend. And I know this is going to continue to suck for awhile.

But you can do this. It's not ideal. It would be much better if you could be doing this the way everyone else gets to, and it's not fair that you can't. Be angry about it all that you need to.

Then refocus. You've already come so far, love, and now when those babies do come they're going to get through it because of everything you've already done for them. Everything now is an investment in how your next few months will look, and sweetheart, that's going to be so valuable when they're here. It's going to make all of this worth it, every moment of rest.

And now I'm going to tell you something that I've told myself a lot over these past years. Someday this won't be your life anymore. All of this is temporary, and on the other side of it there will be life and living again. This will be in your past, and much more beautiful things are waiting for you on the other side. So hold on during these rough weeks. It's going to suck, but dammit, then it's going to be so good you won't know what to do with yourself.

(((hugs))) You're doing a great job.

Oh my - those words have been ones I say to myself, too, when going through rough patches. Nothing remotely close to what Venus is doing right now, though. But they are so, so true and have helped me.

Venus, I think you're an amazingly strong mama and while these weeks have been really challenging for you, you have come so far and the homestretch is in front of you now. In a matter of weeks, those little girls will be here and you will be up and running around in no time. In a year or two or ten, you will look at their little faces and think back on this difficult time and wonder how the eff you did but be so grateful you did.

I wish I lived anywhere close to where you are - I'd bring over a homecooked meal and some books for you! I make a mean lasagna. :-))) Hang in there!

Oh my. Now I really want lasagna. Lol.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. :-)

michaels_girl · August 2012

Seriously, can I bring you pie? I'd be glad to go grab a pie at the Kroger and some cool whip and bring it to you. I'm rather not scary. Except for being a ginger, which is, you know, frightening b/c of the soul issue.

Kadyra · August 2012

I feel for you, Venus. I've been off and on bedrest since 12 weeks. I'm 28 weeks now. I've been in the hospital for 10 days for this damn bleeding previa. I'll be here until I deliver, whether that's an hour from now or 8 weeks from now. It's super stressful and very isolating. Have you tried getting a buddy from sidelines.org? I love my buddy. She rocks and is super supportive and helpful. Best of luck to you.

Venus04d · August 2012

BostonKisses2:
Venus04d:
ThePolishHammer:
How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )
Well, I feel banged up physically. Everything is sore and achey tonight. I'm in a warm bath now and headed to the heating pad. Emotionally, I'll be honest I'm struggling. I'm stressed about keeping the babies in, I'm lonely because I'm by myself so much, I'm sad because I get so little time with my outside daughter, and I'm having a hard time living only to bake babies. I've had zero control over what I want to do for 11 weeks now. If things go right, I still have another 6-8 weeks of no say in what I want. It's frustrating. I'm also still dealing with losing my mom in February and it compounds the loneliness. If she were alive, we'd be on the phone nonstop or she would have already come out to keep me company. Right now, I desperately want my mommy.
However, I'm relieved my babies are still baking, my DH is man enough to step up and care for me and DD1 and our house and our finances without complaint, and that I have you ladies to vent to. Things could absolutely be worse and I'm trying to keep focused on the good.
Aw hun, I'm sorry. It's normal to feel that way when you're on extended bed rest. I feel you on the pros and cons. I'm glad that the girls are still baking though! ::hugs::

I'm glad they are too! Thank you, BK. You've been such a pillar of support throughout the last few months.

Venus04d · August 2012

michaels_girl:
Seriously, can I bring you pie? I'd be glad to go grab a pie at the Kroger and some cool whip and bring it to you. I'm rather not scary. Except for being a ginger, which is, you know, frightening b/c of the soul issue.

I actually just started thinking yesterday when I saw where you lived we should GTG. I'd hate for the first time for you to be bringing me things though! My daughter is a ginger, so that doesn't scare me one bit. :-)

Venus04d · August 2012

michaels_girl:
Seriously, can I bring you pie? I'd be glad to go grab a pie at the Kroger and some cool whip and bring it to you. I'm rather not scary. Except for being a ginger, which is, you know, frightening b/c of the soul issue.

I actually just started thinking yesterday when I saw where you lived we should GTG. I'd hate for the first time for you to be bringing me things though! My daughter is a ginger, so that doesn't scare me one bit. :-)

Venus04d · August 2012

Stardust225:
Venus04d:
ThePolishHammer:
How are you feeling?

Well ... Besides bitter and bored. : )
Well, I feel banged up physically. Everything is sore and achey tonight. I'm in a warm bath now and headed to the heating pad. Emotionally, I'll be honest I'm struggling. I'm stressed about keeping the babies in, I'm lonely because I'm by myself so much, I'm sad because I get so little time with my outside daughter, and I'm having a hard time living only to bake babies. I've had zero control over what I want to do for 11 weeks now. If things go right, I still have another 6-8 weeks of no say in what I want. It's frustrating. I'm also still dealing with losing my mom in February and it compounds the loneliness. If she were alive, we'd be on the phone nonstop or she would have already come out to keep me company. Right now, I desperately want my mommy.
However, I'm relieved my babies are still baking, my DH is man enough to step up and care for me and DD1 and our house and our finances without complaint, and that I have you ladies to vent to. Things could absolutely be worse and I'm trying to keep focused on the good.
I also understand how you feel. I cry about my mom still sometimes. At the end of a shitty day we just all want our mommy. I wrote her letters for almost the first year. She would call me every day, the second she clocked out of work. It was the hardest adjustment.

Ugh, it's the worst adjustment. She and I didn't always have the world's greatest relationship, but she was still my mom. She was still who I could be most honest with about how I felt about things. She was still someone who would always comfort me. She was still someone who would always answer the one for me. I'm sorry you're feeling this void, too.

Venus04d · August 2012

Kadyra:
I feel for you, Venus. I've been off and on bedrest since 12 weeks. I'm 28 weeks now. I've been in the hospital for 10 days for this damn bleeding previa. I'll be here until I deliver, whether that's an hour from now or 8 weeks from now. It's super stressful and very isolating. Have you tried getting a buddy from sidelines.org? I love my buddy. She rocks and is super supportive and helpful. Best of luck to you.

Oh, no. I'm so sorry you're facing this. I can't imagine how hard it has been for you.

I had never heard of sidelines.org. I will definitely check it out, thanks!

michaels_girl · August 2012

Venus04d:
michaels_girl:

Seriously, can I bring you pie? I'd be glad to go grab a pie at the Kroger and some cool whip and bring it to you. I'm rather not scary. Except for being a ginger, which is, you know, frightening b/c of the soul issue.

I actually just started thinking yesterday when I saw where you lived we should GTG. I'd hate for the first time for you to be bringing me things though! My daughter is a ginger, so that doesn't scare me one bit. :-)

I offered! Don't turn down pie! I work on the east end and live in Old lville, I could visit with you over lunch some day or bring DD over to play with your DD in the afternoon sometime depending on where you are located. PM me and let me know.

RedWingsFan · August 2012

I Heart The 80s:
Hang in there. Bed rest was the hardest thing I have ever done. Truth. But it was also the best thing I've ever done. Bed rest saved my twins, I firmly believe this. There were days when I went hour by hour. You are past 28 weeks, and that is an amazing milestone. Take it day by day.
Each day when I went to bed I took out my calendar and put an X through the day. I had made it through another one! The thing about bed rest is that it's not just physically difficult...it's also very hard emotionally. Sounds like you have a great DH, and a wonderful DD. Glad you have support.
Vent anytime! And get some more pumpkin pie!

Exactly this. Even two-and-a-half years later sometimes I look at E and M and get teary-eyed because there were days when we didn't know if M was going to make it, or if they were going to come super early, early, or make it to term. It sucks 10000% right now, but it will be SO worth it in the end. 28 weeks was our first milestone too and it is a HUGE one, and you are sailing right on to 30 weeks, lady! Amazing.

Venus04d · August 2012

michaels_girl:
Venus04d:
michaels_girl:

Seriously, can I bring you pie? I'd be glad to go grab a pie at the Kroger and some cool whip and bring it to you. I'm rather not scary. Except for being a ginger, which is, you know, frightening b/c of the soul issue.

I actually just started thinking yesterday when I saw where you lived we should GTG. I'd hate for the first time for you to be bringing me things though! My daughter is a ginger, so that doesn't scare me one bit. :-)

I offered! Don't turn down pie! I work on the east end and live in Old lville, I could visit with you over lunch some day or bring DD over to play with your DD in the afternoon sometime depending on where you are located. PM me and let me know.

That sounds great! I am getting ready to take a bath and to get to see my DD after spending the last two days in the hospital, but I all PM you tonight with the deets. :-) But, I have to get my DH to clean up around here before you come, lol.

Venus04d · August 2012

RedWingsFan:
I Heart The 80s:
Hang in there. Bed rest was the hardest thing I have ever done. Truth. But it was also the best thing I've ever done. Bed rest saved my twins, I firmly believe this. There were days when I went hour by hour. You are past 28 weeks, and that is an amazing milestone. Take it day by day.
Each day when I went to bed I took out my calendar and put an X through the day. I had made it through another one! The thing about bed rest is that it's not just physically difficult...it's also very hard emotionally. Sounds like you have a great DH, and a wonderful DD. Glad you have support.
Vent anytime! And get some more pumpkin pie!
Exactly this. Even two-and-a-half years later sometimes I look at E and M and get teary-eyed because there were days when we didn't know if M was going to make it, or if they were going to come super early, early, or make it to term. It sucks 10000% right now, but it will be SO worth it in the end. 28 weeks was our first milestone too and it is a HUGE one, and you are sailing right on to 30 weeks, lady! Amazing.

Thank you both. It gives me so much encouragement when I think about your adorable LOs and how happy and safe things turned out. I can't wait to meet my girls and for all of this to finally feel worth it and over. I just don't want to hold them for another 6-8 weeks. We're getting so close. I would give up anything to get there.

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