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June 2012 Moms
acbfreire
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alone again..
acbfreire
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DH was gone for work out-of-state when LO was 10 days, MIL came to stay with me for 10 days, then I was alone for 2 weeks. We have no family near by and my "friends" totally disappear even though we live in the same apartment complex.
I had a c-section and was very emotional/ exhausted the first couple of weeks. Being alone with a newborn is not easy, so I hired a neighbor to help for a couple hrs/day after MIL was gone, but that's it.
My dad came to stay with me and has been here for a month. SM came to join him last Sunday. They leave tomorrow and DH only returns on the 2nd.
I love being a mom and I love DD more than anything, but these have been the hardest months of my life. Being tired, feeling lonely and having to care for my LO without a break is a challenge. I know it will get better but it is been an emotional rollercoaster.
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Re: alone again..
Awwww, I'm so sorry you feel this way. It's very understandable. I get really lonely too. Hang in there, you become stronger and a more capable mommy with each new challenge. And don't forget your cyber-mommy-friends here on TB!
Take good care of yourself, emotionally and physically, and don't try to take on too much until you have more help.
Sending you hugs and smiles!
I totally understand too...DH is gone a lot and I'm alone 5 out of 7 nights with LO...And when he is home, he's not much help because he's asleep. It was really hard for me as well in the beginning...Now that I'm back to work, my mom watches LO for a few hours 3x a week. It really isn't easy...
When DH comes back on the 2nd is that for good? Or will he have to leave again?
I can relate! Although I have my DH here with me, we have no family nearby at all, and we aren't all that close with any friends here, and the friends we do have here don't have any children so we're in completely different points in our lives. I knew that having a newborn would be a challenge, but I didn't realize how lonely and isolating it can be!
Feel free to PM me if you like. Things will get easier soon
*hugs* It must be so hard with your H away for work and no family near by. I know it's not the same but you always have us if you ever want to talk or just vent.
You are doing a great job! Hang in there.
You are so brave for getting through it! I couldn't imagine being alone with DD all the time... Even now that things are a little easier and I'm not bluesy anymore, I still rely on others (DH and parents) for company and sanity after being by myself with a 2 1/2 month old all day long. We recently moved so no friends around, and as PP said the ones from our old place don't have kids and wouldn't understand what it's like anyway.
I'm sorry that this is happening to you, but the 2nd will be here soon
I know this might sound silly, but when I really need to feel like a certain time period isn't as far as it seems, I try to make counts out of random things. For example, going through 2 boxes of breast pads got me from DD being 2 months to her almost turning 3 months old (counting in breast pads made it seem like time went by faster!).
Will your DH be able to stick around for longer after he returns?
He is back for good, as of right now.
yep, I am in central MN