Suck it up and get over it DH!!

bigbear · August 2012

VENT!!

Yes my hormones and PMS are crazy now (need BCP asap) but I did warn DH about it and I do "yell" at him but dammit he deserves it! lol

We got home from work yesterday and he immediately sat on the couch. I went and started doing the dishes and laundry. DD was sitting next to him on the couch playing. She tips over reaching for a toy and starts screaming. I give it a few seconds thinking he's got it. Well she keeps crying and all I hear is him laughing and saying "you're just fine". I walk over and she's still tipped over on her side and he's just touching her with the back of his hand, the other hand still holding a plate with PB sandwich. So I said in louder voice NOT yelling' Jees M just pick her up don't just look at her" So he flips out at ME saying WELL I GOT PB ON MY HANDS, YOU COULD HELP! So here I am having to walk back, wash my hands and drop everything I do to comfort her. I pick her up and he continues to eat his fn sandwich. So I snapped at him again and said "how about you take over, why do I have to drop everything at any time while you just sit there".

He just got quiet and didn't say a word! This morning he tells me that I am being condecending and disrespectful.

WHATEVER!!!! I"m ticked and I think I"m right.. There! Angry

aboynamedbarry · August 2012

ugh! frustrating! well, I have to say I think (from what you posted) you are both right and wrong. right that he should be allowing you to do what you have to and watch the baby, but wrong maybe in how you told him... however, i DO understand how things like that go! I try so very hard not to flip out, though I do sometimes just lose it. I try to save things like that for bedtime when we talk about the day. and it gives me time to cool down before bringing it up. I tell him that I don't want to be mean, but that I need more help or that it really frustrated me today when... etc. and then try to tell him that we have to work together. it's hard to do that but so effective! at least for me it has been...

bigbear · August 2012

aboynamedbarry:
ugh! frustrating! well, I have to say I think (from what you posted) you are both right and wrong. right that he should be allowing you to do what you have to and watch the baby, but wrong maybe in how you told him... however, i DO understand how things like that go! I try so very hard not to flip out, though I do sometimes just lose it. I try to save things like that for bedtime when we talk about the day. and it gives me time to cool down before bringing it up. I tell him that I don't want to be mean, but that I need more help or that it really frustrated me today when... etc. and then try to tell him that we have to work together. it's hard to do that but so effective! at least for me it has been...

OH I completely agree with you. We really do communicate very well and there isn't much arguing in our house. I"m definitely blaming my hormones for it all so I want to be right HAHAHAHA

It is frustrating and sometimes I just react that moment b/c I feel like things need to get done and he's just lollygagging around. I have very little patience when my baby is crying and he's just standing there NOT doing anything about it until I get there. I got mad b/c I kept thinking, OK so if I hadn't walked over to check on her how long would he have her lay there and cry? He only said to help when I walked over there, he was laughing prior to it. Not that he would do anything to hurt her, she was obviously fine and we are both the type to NOT overreact and run to the baby like she's had the worst injury ever every time she tips over. But she was obviously scared and it was time to help her out. She's too little to understand "oh you just tipped over you are fine" KNow what i mean.

And dammit I have an excuse to overreact, he can't be hormonal, too HAHAHAHA Devil

namara5532 · August 2012

Lol! Your reply made me laugh. Sounds like you're enjoying the hormonalness.

Often if I see DH ignoring DS crying, I have to directly ask him "can you get him?" I think sometimes he doesn't think there's anything he can do for it or he's just waiting for me to get DS. He's gotten better at it the more I ask him to get DS.

bigbear · August 2012

namara5532:

Lol! Your reply made me laugh. Sounds like you're enjoying the hormonalness.

Often if I see DH ignoring DS crying, I have to directly ask him "can you get him?" I think sometimes he doesn't think there's anything he can do for it or he's just waiting for me to get DS. He's gotten better at it the more I ask him to get DS.

You know, I am definitely enjoying this! I"m usually the quiet type so it's nice to just say what you think and fly off the handle every once in a while LOL Stick out tongue

Ya I think men are just different and have a different mind set. In a way just way more relaxed. Which probably isn't a bad thing always...

meg_2006 · August 2012

DH does the same thing all. the. time. When he gets home I can finally start making dinner. So what does DH do while I'm working in the kitchen? Prop him up in the Boppy, open his computer, and ignore DS when he gets mad because he rolled out. So I have to come in and give him "the look" to which he says, "I was about to get him!" Yeah, DH, you're always "about to get him."

CuppyCakes88 · August 2012

Oh ladies how I you!!! Instead of "the look" I stomp my foot (when I'm in the kitchen) and then I see DH put the computer down and start to reach for her.

Yesterday I called out of work bc DD is not feeling well. He came home at 3:45pm and stayed with DD while I fixed dinner...maybe a total of 45 minutes. Afterwards I started to feed her and HE started falling asleep. I rolled my eyes and he said "I came home early to give you a break".....ummm really?!?! I COOKED DINNER WHILE YOU SAT WITH HER FOR 45 MINUTES...that's a break??? MEN!

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