My mom just doesn't get it (Vent)

crystalknpp · August 2012

My mom had zero trouble getting pregnant with me or my brother. Her and my dad pretty much got pregnant as soon as they started trying and she had a completely uneventful pregnancy with us both. The only complication she had was needing to be induced with us both because we were late.

She doesn't understand why I've had so much anxiety through out this pregnancy. Now that I am technically full term I've made comments that I cannot wait for this baby to be here. She will then in turn lecture me about how this baby will come when its good and ready, I need to stop complaining, I still have plenty of time, or that as long as the baby is inside he or she is safe and sound and I have nothing to worry about.

She doesn't understand that I don't trust my body anymore. It has proven to me 4 times now that my LO's were not "safe and sound" inside my belly. I feel like until this little boy arrives and is safely in my arms I have no control over how he is doing in there and his safety. I know it sounds crazy and I logically know the closer I am to my due date when I deliver the better it is for him but the selfish, scared, PGAL part of my brain wants him here ASAP!

adoxyinherear · August 2012

*hugs* I'm sorry your mom doesn't understand. I hope the next few weeks fly by and he is home soon!

zombiemommy · August 2012

I am so with you. I actually read your post aloud to the DH because it's exactly how I feel as well. When I say that I'd be fine with the boys being born at 35-36 weeks (average for twins) people treat me like I'm some sort of monster and then tell me stories about how they know some lady who went 40 weeks with twins.

So in short, I don't think you are crazy at all. I think you're reacting in a very normal way.

cmumama · August 2012

((hugs!))

My mom is the same way. She doesn't make too many comments, but every now and then she does and it really gets under my skin.

nattn · August 2012

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My mom had 7 fairly uneventful pregnancies and has 7 children. She is incapable of understanding what I'm going through this pregnancy. I am very close to my mom, but I just can't even talk about baby related stuff with her any more.

lotus88 · August 2012

I'm sorry your mom doesn't understand, but we sure as sh!t do. I think when I had DD something hugely therapeutic happened. I actually was proud of my body. Impressed by it even. Before it had done nothing but let me down. Worse - let my LOs down. That lack of confidence and guilt is hard for other people to understand. ((hugs)) We do.