Wine

vcosta285 · August 2012

Oh my dear sweet baby jesus I never thought having something be off limits would be so hard. I swear I dream of wine and can almost taste it in my sleep. It sucks so bad that I can't have it- what sucks more is my friend drinks a glass a night (she is 6 months preg) and was told by her midwife that its ok. I just can't do it. I don't even drink caffeine, no soda, no coffee, nothing. I know what I am doing is best for the baby- and plan to stick with it, but oh do I want to be one of the more care-free moms that are ok with wine, redbull, and even turkey sandwiches that havent been nuked in microwave.

I know this was not a question- just needed to rant a little.

SummerOH · August 2012

I feel ya. I love wine and used to have a glass or two several evenings each week. I thought I'd be one of those women who is ok with drinking an occasional glass during pregnancy. Nope, not so much. I don't judge anyone who does because I know it's perfectly safe, but I always get this weird mental pic of my baby being all woozy from it. Logically, I know that's not the case but I still just can't do it. I'm going to BF so I'm not sure how long I'll feel this way - probably for a long time!

Wild_flower25 · August 2012

Strangely, I don't crave wine I crave beer (I usually hate beer). So I take a few sips from DH's occassionally

A happy mom equals a happy baby. I don't deprive myself of anything.

WVUPetunia · August 2012

vcosta285:
I want to be one of the more care-free moms that are ok with wine, redbull, and even turkey sandwiches that havent been nuked in microwave.

I'm okay with turkey sandwiches and eat at least two a week (gasp! cold!) because my OB told me not to worry about it. They've found listeria more in cantaloupe (saw a story on that today) and salad mix (that was in the last month or so ago) and apple slices at McDonalds and Burger King (saw that one today too) than in turkey lately, from what I've read. Yeah, it can happen, but turkey sandwiches are certainly not the only listeria risk out there.

rnfromtn · August 2012

My doctor's office stated in the new mom info that an occasional light beer or glass of wine is okay. I plan on having a nice glass of sangria once I hit third trimester. My doctor always says, everything in moderation.

vcosta285 · August 2012

MandJS:
Only you can decide what you're comfortable with. Me, personally? I went to Sonoma a couple weeks ago, and I definitely tasted some and drank some. The thing is, a lot of this stuff is "off limits" because they just haven't done the research. BUT. For hundreds of years, pregnant women drank more wine than water and babies were born alive and healthy all the time. (Yes, some weren't, but I also blame the lack of prenatal care, vitamins, etc.)
All that said... I've heard there are some okay alcohol free wines. Or just get sparkling cider or the sparkling peach or grape juice and pretend?

Lol, I for sure put raspberry flavored gingerale in a wine glass last night to have with dinner. My SO looked at me like I was nuts, but I just wanted to see if I could trick myself... I failed.

AshleyLecker · August 2012

Everyone's comfort level is different. I think doing what make you most comfortable is the important thing. I stayed away from wine till about the mid point of my second trimester. I am just about to enter the 3rd and have one glass when out to dinner.

I also never bought the deli meat thing either....That is just my comfort level and, like I said, we are all different when it comes to that.

ashcody2 · August 2012

I've had maybe 3 beers this entire pregnancy and honestly, I just felt guilty the whole time drinking it I was like I wonder if baby is feeling loopsy, not that I was haha. I just found it hard to enjoy each time.

BLuvsE · August 2012

I had one glass and was completely freaked out until I felt LO moving around a lot the next day. I just couldn't enjoy it.

That said, I will occasionally take a sip of DH's beer or wine. I don't want to drink the whole thing, but, especially with wine or craft beers, I do want to taste.

I definitely don't judge women who do drink a glass here and there. To each her own. I will probably drink red wine in late pregnancy as I've heard it can help with labor.

SummerOH · August 2012

MandJS:

Only you can decide what you're comfortable with. Me, personally? I went to Sonoma a couple weeks ago, and I definitely tasted some and drank some. The thing is, a lot of this stuff is "off limits" because they just haven't done the research. BUT. For hundreds of years, pregnant women drank more wine than water and babies were born alive and healthy all the time. (Yes, some weren't, but I also blame the lack of prenatal care, vitamins, etc.)

All that said... I've heard there are some okay alcohol free wines. Or just get sparkling cider or the sparkling peach or grape juice and pretend?

Exactly. People used to drink beer (albeit weak beer) instead of water because it was safer due to the beer-making process killing harmful bacteria. Some of the brightest minds in human history emerged during that time. Also, numerous studies have shown that light-to-moderate drinking has no adverse effects on the fetus nor the child years later (Denmark studies). Sigh. Maybe I can get over this hangup the further I progress. Some nights I'd just love a glass of wine to unwind.

sadsadie · August 2012

Hear ye, hear ye! Read this and rejoice!

https://www.bjog.org/details/news/2085661/Danish_studies_suggest_low_and_moderate_drinking_in_early_pregnancy_has_no_adver.html

sadsadie · August 2012

But seriously, they are now seeing (in very well executed and controlled studies) that light to moderate drinking in pregnancy poses no significant risks to baby, and in some cases may even result in higher IQ than in the kids of teetotalers. The reason countries would never say to pregnant women "go ahead and drinking moderation" is because some people would see that as a green light to binge. Overall, from a public health standpoint, blanket bans on drinking during pregnancy are much easier to promote.

So go ahead and have that glass of wine! Stop feeling guilty/like you have to be perfect/totally paranoid!

xxaliciaxx · August 2012

vcosta285:

Oh my dear sweet baby jesus I never thought having something be off limits would be so hard. I swear I dream of wine and can almost taste it in my sleep. It sucks so bad that I can't have it- what sucks more is my friend drinks a glass a night (she is 6 months preg) and was told by her midwife that its ok. I just can't do it. I don't even drink caffeine, no soda, no coffee, nothing. I know what I am doing is best for the baby- and plan to stick with it, but oh do I want to be one of the more care-free moms that are ok with wine, redbull, and even turkey sandwiches that havent been nuked in microwave.

I know this was not a question- just needed to rant a little.

Agreed! I had cravings for Vodka of all thing so bad. An I smoked before I was pregnant and that still pops up every now and again. It sucks because my husband still smokes and says he can not quit. I dont know where my will power came frm, but I am glad I found it. Keep up the good work , and remember its only temporary

hansonam446 · August 2012

MandJS:
Only you can decide what you're comfortable with. Me, personally? I went to Sonoma a couple weeks ago, and I definitely tasted some and drank some. The thing is, a lot of this stuff is "off limits" because they just haven't done the research. BUT. For hundreds of years, pregnant women drank more wine than water and babies were born alive and healthy all the time. (Yes, some weren't, but I also blame the lack of prenatal care, vitamins, etc.)
All that said... I've heard there are some okay alcohol free wines. Or just get sparkling cider or the sparkling peach or grape juice and pretend?

This is my plan. Just can't bring myself to drink alcohol. At all.

MexiCali · August 2012

I had a glass of red wine poured at the wedding we went to last weekend. Thanks to M/S I couldn't drink it. With Z I had one half glass of champagne for NYE and one glass for christmas, that I lost while trying to get everyone served.

I probably won't drink again until the holidays if I do.

I had turkey unnuked this weekend. I need carbs to kick the M/S and sandwiches are amazing.

SittinUnderAPalmTree · August 2012

I miss it too!!! I went out to dinner with DH and friends and they were all drinking wine... I had a few sips, but I can't bring myself to have a glass. My doctor said that in the third trimester, it would be okay once in a while, but I feel guilty. Anyway... I don't want just one glass... I want three! lol

Todd&Laura · August 2012

I couldn't care less about alcohol, but I miss my sushi. I know some women eat it anyway, but like you, I just can't bring myself to do it. Like after my first pregnancy, though, I plan for sushi to be my first real meal...delivered to me at the hospital by my husband:) I don't know the policy on wine, but maybe your hospital would allow you two to have a celebratory toast!! Just a thought

Starfish+77 · August 2012

sadsadie:

But seriously, they are now seeing (in very well executed and controlled studies) that light to moderate drinking in pregnancy poses no significant risks to baby, and in some cases may even result in higher IQ than in the kids of teetotalers. The reason countries would never say to pregnant women "go ahead and drinking moderation" is because some people would see that as a green light to binge. Overall, from a public health standpoint, blanket bans on drinking during pregnancy are much easier to promote.

So go ahead and have that glass of wine! Stop feeling guilty/like you have to be perfect/totally paranoid!

I agree with sadsadie! I had a glass of prosecco last week and it was delish.

PS - sadsadie I love your siggy about the birth plan - you & I sound alot alike :-)

mest1215 · August 2012

Wild_flower25:
Strangely, I don't crave wine I crave beer (I usually hate beer). So I take a few sips from DH's occassionally

A happy mom equals a happy baby. I don't deprive myself of anything.

Me too, totally agree! i treated myself to a glass of wine on our anniversary. im sure one glass is just fine

blueeyedgirl27 · August 2012

I'm a regular wine drinker when I'm not PG, but I haven't craved it at all during this pregnancy. I was also told that a half glass of wine here and there after the 1st tri was okay, though I don't do it. But DH and I are going away for our 5-year anniversary and I do plan on having a glass of champagne to celebrate (I'll be 23 weeks then).

terri1024 · August 2012

I have an occasional glass of wine... I had a few sips of my friend's prosecco the other night at dinner and it was sooo nice!

I also am a sandwich fiend - before I got pregnant sandwiches were pretty much my favorite food, and now I crave carbs even more. I avoided non-nuked meats in first tri, and much of second, now allow it once in a while. I agree with some of the other posters, moderation is the key for anything! Indulge once in a while if it strikes you, but I totally understand not being able to enjoy it, I get that way sometimes too.

Looking forward to having a couple drinks without a second thought in a few months!

Drea926 · August 2012

I'm with you...I miss wine like CRAZY! I've taken to asking people (friends and family of course) that are drinking it around me if I can smell their glass! Haha!

sadsadie · August 2012

Nice to find others who share my sentiments. :-)

DMG122183 · August 2012

Sometimes I put water or orange juice in a wine glass... Just to feel fancy. I think it helps a little bit.

Kingston54 · August 2012

It is weird, I never really drink alcohol, wine, beer etc. But this pregnancy and last, I could really go for an ice cold beer in a frosty mug. LOL

terri1024 · August 2012

If you all are going out to eat - be sure to ask your waiter about non-alcoholic options. I've found a lot of places that serve specialty cocktails will make virgin versions that are (almost) as good, and some have other great options... one place even had a special "Temperance Cocktail"! In addition to having a fun drink to keep you from feeling deprived, it's interesting to see how different place handle the request. Some are quite lame, but some really come through for us preggos!

Sometimes my DH will mix up something for me at home with fresh fruit and sparkly water or juice.

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