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preggersin2011
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Visitation schedule question
preggersin2011
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Probably asked and answered a zillion times over, but what is your court order written like? My lawyer says it will be better if we agree on a visitation schedule rather than having the judge order one. LO is 9 months now, and I know things change and they get older. Also, I'm not sure yet if he is fighting for join physical custody....Oh and I do not celebrate xmas but her dad does.
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Re: Visitation schedule question
Most states have recommended guidelines for visitation based on a child's age/developmental needs. It's pretty great actually because in my case it supported my wishes so I was able to send it along with my proposed plan and say "see, I'm not crazy or selfish!". So I'd start there.
My son is 2 and our schedule is as folllows (STBXH and I are in the process of divorcing and just separated 2 weeks ago):
Visitation schedule months 1-3
Dad picks up every morning and takes DS to daycare, I pick up in the afternoon and DS lives with me.
Thursday nights Dad has DS for the evening. He picks up at daycare, takes him home, does dinner, etc and I pick him up before bedtime.
Every other weekend Dad has DS for both weekend days, but not nights.
Months 4-6
Dad picks up every morning and takes DS to daycare, I pick up in the afternoon and DS lives with me.
Thursday nights Dad has DS for the evening and keeps him overnight.
Every other weekend Dad has DS for both weekend days, but not nights.
Months 7-9
Dad picks up every morning and takes DS to daycare, I pick up in the afternoon and DS lives with me.
Thursday nights Dad has DS for the night
Every other weekend Dad has DS for both weekend days with nights.
This plan is set up for consistency and a gradual transition from our standard daily schedule (STBX always took to daycare, I picked up) and provides time for DS to establish my house as "home" before doing overnights with his dad. It also gives his dad a few months to get his household in order, show that he's consistently going to therapy and truly wants what's best for our son.
Oh, at some point DS will be transitioning to a new daycare center which is right next to my office. Once that happens Dad will not do daycare drop offs.
Hope this helps!!
We don't have a perm schedule yet, and Texas has no set provision for children under three. My LO is two months. Also, we were never married and broke up long before the baby arrived. Judges rule differently for that situation. Right now, it's like this:
Every Tues/Thurs 5-7 and every other Sat/Sun 10-1. I drop off and pick up at his parents' house. It's a pretty common arrangement with the exception of Sundays. Most NCPs just get Saturdays. Our perm orders will gradually increase to the Standard Possession Order unless we can agree on something else. I'm in favor of strict visitation in paper, and adjusting if need be. Is rather have less visitation and add to it than more visitation and have it be too much for LO to handle. Example, he doesn't like the every other day aspect. He gets really upset by the change in his routine, so we're looking at every Mon/Tues instead of Tues/Thurs so visits are always back to back. However, if things go to crap, we have the original order to fall back on.
Oi, this sounds so intense!