If this is your last child and plan to get "fixed"...

ladeebri · August 2012

DH and I are definitely done after this. Neither of us have ever really wanted more than 2, and now that I have all these spine issues we're certainly not changing our minds. I'm having a RCS so I told DH I am totally fine with getting a tubal seeing they'll already be in there. He says I've gone through enough and that we shouldn't add anything that has the potential for complications and he would rather undergo the snip.

I don't get it. I'm letting him off the hook and he keeps insisting he would rather do it, which to me is weird. I told him we should bring it up with my doctor at my next appointment so that's where we are at for now.

What is everyone else doing? Essure? Tubal? DH getting snipped?

Mrs.G123 · August 2012

DH will do it.

AraDesi · August 2012

Whenever we're done, DH is getting snipped.

Your body is already going to have a lot of healing to do, maybe your DH just doesn't want to add to that.

mmeans1224 · August 2012

It'll be DH when the time comes. I've heard it can be awful for a woman, especially right after having a baby. Mostly because you're body as already been through a lot and plus we take longer to heal after that procedure than the guy does.

sdb421 · August 2012

We are 95% sure that we are done. I'd consider going for a 4th, but now knowing that we have a high likelihood of twins (this pregnancy started out as our second set of spontaneous fraternals), I'm fairly certain that I wouldn't go through with trying for a 4th in fear of having #4&5! I plan on getting Mirena until we are 100% sure, at which point DH will get snipped. I'm a little grossed out at the idea of an IUD, but it seems like the best option...

nealbl · August 2012

OB asked and offered to do it to me since this is a RCS. He said while Im in there I can fix things up for you if you guys are done. DH looked at me like yeah lets do it. I about started crying at the thought of not being able to have anymore.

I mean we are most likely done but I am not in a stage where I can say for sure I am done. I just keep thinking down the road we may want another. DH understood my view and said when I felt ok with it he will get the surgery.

kmitch0303 · August 2012

I think it's sweet of him. A lot of men would probably just let you go ahead and get it done. I talked to my Dr about having my tubes tied, as I am having a RCS too (not sure if that's the same thing as a tubal) and she said she doesn't really recommend doing them anymore because of all the complications that can occur. She basically said that there are too many other options that weren't available when they first started doing them. DH and I have talked about him getting snipped and he is okay with it.

daronsmommy · August 2012

There is no way I will get my tubes tied. I've told DH if we are done, he can get snipped.

mizjodi · August 2012

dh is definitely getting snipped; we'll wait until we know Pumpkin will be okay, so probably around 6 months. It's not an invasive procedure for men, and so much better!

I'll probably do Mirena or something in the interim.

armcgill · August 2012

DH and I decided that when we are done having children, he will be getting snipped.

irish city girl · August 2012

When we're for sure done (which we're not 100% about right now), DH will get a vasectomy. Even if I were to have a c-section, I would accept DH's willingness to get a vasectomy. There are fewer risks associated with it (from what I understand) and it's an outpatient procedure for him vs surgery for me.

danienross · August 2012

We're not done but have talked about what we will do when that time comes. DH knows it will be him and not me. It's my understanding that a vasectomy is much less invasive and much easier to recover from. Even if for some reason I need a csection, it will still be DH.

HarrietNJMommy · August 2012

I'm getting a tubal with this c-section (my 4th). I'm already having the major surgery (c-section), and the tubal procedure is not lengthy at all. I am DONE having kids. I want permanent birth control.

sdwyer0202 · August 2012

Sounds like I am alone here, but we'll be going with Essure. I was lucky to even have this pregnancy, as I've had a lot of complications in my lady parts since DD was born. For me, I feel since it's me who doesn't want to risk a pregnancy with high liklihood of complications and/or birth defects, I'll take responsibility.

orgnlmama · August 2012

I am 99.9% sure that this is our last child. I was 100% sure before I got pregnant and now I have thoughts like... this is the last time I will be pregnant... this is the last baby I will nurse.. etc. We live in NJ, which is a very HCOL area. 2 is really our financial limit (and sometimes it feels like we are pushing that as is!) But I would have more children if we could afford to and who knows how our financial situation could change (lottery anyone? Smile

) I have managed to not get pregnant unless I wanted to for the past (almost) 30 years. I am hoping to wait like 4 years after this guy before making a final decision. When we are ready, DH will get snipped.

numberonemama · August 2012

I was going to get a tubal but someone on here mentioned possible side effects and I have enough issues as it is without adding any potential ones. I explained this to DH and he said to do whatever I wanted and he would gets snipped if that's what I wanted. I said yes please and hopefully he will follow thru b/c I'm done with hormones!! I also will not do an IUD again or any of the other permanent options.

My main doc who's female said she had c sections and her DH had a vasectomy...she was not pushing the tubal though not against either. The male doc in the group was trying to save my DH's sperm and was really pushing the tubal!

navyandviolet · August 2012

Dh is getting snipped, although if for some reason I eneded up with a c-section this time around I would consider a tubal.

jessicaskyy · August 2012

MH is insisting on getting a vasectomy as well.

AbuDhabiMommy · August 2012

My husband is planning on being the one to get "fixed". He came to it on his own.

winminpin08 · August 2012

sdwyer0202:
Sounds like I am alone here, but we'll be going with Essure. I was lucky to even have this pregnancy, as I've had a lot of complications in my lady parts since DD was born. For me, I feel since it's me who doesn't want to risk a pregnancy with high liklihood of complications and/or birth defects, I'll take responsibility.

I am pretty sure we are done so I will do Mirena for a year or so and then get Essure for the permanent BC. I know it may be overkill, but I wouldn't mind if hubs got snipped even if I had Essure as well. Neither are 100% effective but it's kind of like taking birth control and using a condom, let's be extra sure that we don't end up with a surprise when I'm in my 40's or something!

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