disappointed in board

momofone0901 · August 2012

before thebump existed, those of us ttc chatted through theknot. i was a regular member of the ttc board and had my son in 2005.

i am currently ttc baby#2 and came here for support and empathy, since i assume we are all here for similar reasons. what i have found has been rude, 'mean girl' behavior that is not only immature but downright mean.

people come here because they are excited and many seeking the unknown. they ask questions because they know you have been or are in their shoes. if someone asks a question that you could easily answer, either ignore it or answer it. no need for snarky remarks and re-directs to the newbie board.

many of you who are quick with a rude cut-down when somebody asks about symptoms would likely be lying if you said you never obsessed over symptoms while ttc, esp during 2ww.

if you are here, i assume you are ttc and therefore will bring children into this world. i hope you teach them better manners than you display to others.

purplepeanut6 · August 2012

Really?

You think your post is going to change anything? If your so disappointed than I suggest you find a different site. Not to be mean, but it's always been this way, and it wont change. Sorry.

kaleyandjason · August 2012

Interesting...

Foxlover · August 2012

Oh no! Someone told me I was being mean on the Internet! I like this board the way it is... ok I liked this board a bit better about a year ago, but I digress, leave the board if you don't like it. We aren't here to make the Internet a happy fun time place.

SamJustice · August 2012

It's the internet. No one should ever expect everyone (if any one at all) to be nice to them. That's just not how it works.

SCSmith2011 · August 2012

I just gave myself a headache rolling my eyes.

madasm0530 · August 2012

I will say in my first couple threads I posted, I got some snark.

I'm not mad about it.. I apprecaite it. We are all TTGP but read the darn FAQs before asking a question that has been asked 7 million times.

momofone0901 · August 2012

ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.

i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

JulianneJacks · August 2012

bdcram:
You are the first person to ever say this! Congrats!

Yes

Akiesha · August 2012

Could you post some examples, please. If ppl would just read the newbie link we wouldn't get so snarky about these posts. It's not there for show! It is very helpfull, and takes maybe 3 minutes to read....maybe.

JulianneJacks · August 2012

momofone0901:

ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.

i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

You're calling us ugly!? That's not nice.

bitty94 · August 2012

i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.

kaleyandjason · August 2012

momofone0901:
ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.
i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

So why are you here? Just leave and you won't have to deal with being "disgusted" but us. Seems pretty simple to me.

PrimRoseMama · August 2012

momofone0901:
before thebump existed, those of us ttc chatted through theknot. i was a regular member of the ttc board and had my son in 2005.
i am currently ttc baby#2 and came here for support and empathy, since i assume we are all here for similar reasons. what i have found has been rude, 'mean girl' behavior that is not only immature but downright mean.
people come here because they are excited and many seeking the unknown. they ask questions because they know you have been or are in their shoes. if someone asks a question that you could easily answer, either ignore it or answer it. no need for snarky remarks and re-directs to the newbie board.
many of you who are quick with a rude cut-down when somebody asks about symptoms would likely be lying if you said you never obsessed over symptoms while ttc, esp during 2ww.
if you are here, i assume you are ttc and therefore will bring children into this world. i hope you teach them better manners than you display to others.

I am a grown woman, not your kid so don't lecture me on manners.

I'd rather teach my daughter to be smart, self-sufficient & witty. I also plan to teach her about how her body works so that later when she wants to TTC that she can either read for herself or interact intelligently with others on a TTC message board.

We get people asking us these questions all the time. Seriously, rationally, logically how the flick are we supposed to know? Are they pregnant? Maybe? But a list of symptoms doesn't mean diddly squat. We are here to pass the time during TTC. That's it. You know what they say about the heat in the kitchen? If you can't take it then quit your bitchin* & go. No one is forcing you to stay.

No one is out to be mean, we are just blunt. If you want sugar coating & hair petting then try elsewhere. We are not your girlfriends. We are Internet strangers. Some of the posters get to know one another, but ultimately it's all for entertainment.

People who are easily butthurt or sensitive don't last long. Suck it up & quit being so damn serious. God, I want a drink now.

tinamorgan · August 2012

Welcome to the "Disappointed with the Board Club". You will notice there aren't many here, because well, they have either left or given up on trying to change the board. I suggest you do one of the two.

Have a nice day!

MandaPanda518 · August 2012

momofone0901:
'mean girl'

TammyDoubleB · August 2012

momofone0901:

ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.

i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

It is good that wasn't your intention; because this same post shows up here often, and the people on this board are never intimidated by it. But welcome and good luck to you. Hope that your stay here is short.

RockyR12 · August 2012

momofone0901:
before thebump existed, those of us ttc chatted through theknot. i was a regular member of the ttc board and had my son in 2005.
i am currently ttc baby#2 and came here for support and empathy, since i assume we are all here for similar reasons. what i have found has been rude, 'mean girl' behavior that is not only immature but downright mean.
people come here because they are excited and many seeking the unknown. they ask questions because they know you have been or are in their shoes. if someone asks a question that you could easily answer, either ignore it or answer it. no need for snarky remarks and re-directs to the newbie board.
many of you who are quick with a rude cut-down when somebody asks about symptoms would likely be lying if you said you never obsessed over symptoms while ttc, esp during 2ww.
if you are here, i assume you are ttc and therefore will bring children into this world. i hope you teach them better manners than you display to others.

It's hard to take a scolding seriously from someone with no regard for grammar and punctuation.

PrimRoseMama · August 2012

bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.

No you came here looking for other teens who are trying to get pregnant on purpose. There are not many of those, hint hint, most of them are busy being kids. Why should we be nice if we think people are stupid?!

PinkGlitter2012 · August 2012

CLECyclist:
momofone0901:
ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.
i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

LOL There was a little surprise after that sweet wave!! I'm easily amused.

kristykay123 · August 2012

Blah flucking blah

SCSmith2011 · August 2012

bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.

It's *advice* not advise.

TeamAwesomeBaby · August 2012

Personally, I like the snark. Yeah, sometimes it gets a little intense, but it's the Internet - better that we're bishes here than IRL.

momofone0901 · August 2012

since nothing i say will be listened to or even considered, i will leave with this. my examples speak for themselves in this thread, as i have been told i have given a headache, called a whore and told off in various other ways. seriously, people?!?!

i stand by my words. notice i did so without name-calling, and by fully explaining with no vulgarity what i thought. this is a discussion board after all.

and i do hope none of your children, present or future, get treated with the disrespect you have shown me today.

bitty94 · August 2012

PrimRoseMama:
bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.
No you came here looking for other teens who are trying to get pregnant on purpose. There are not many of those, hint hint, most of them are busy being kids. Why should we be nice if we think people are stupid?!

but the thing is, you dont have to be such a witch about it

PrimRoseMama · August 2012

momofone0901:
ew. case in point. thank you for rearing your ugly heads. not here to attempt intimidation or to make people feel bad. i realize that the people who exhibit this type of behavior are likely to be on the defensive and not willing to self-check and see if they are behaving in the ways i mentioned. just needed to get this off my chest, since you feel free to state whatever YOU feel.
i suppose i misused the board TRYING TO GET PREGNANT to attempt to chat with other people with a similar interest. no need for me to look for another board or site. i've been sufficiently disgusted by enough of the people who frequent these types of forums.

LOL please self-check & realize you are behaving like a holier-than-thou douchbiitch. You can go elsewhere because the bump doesn't forget. Don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you. Kthanxbai.

Babydust muthafukkers! Stick out tongue

davis0905 · August 2012

If there was a "like" button, I was "like" your post a hundred times over. Despite what you have experienced so far, there are people here who can offer sensitivity and will give you the support you are reqesting and certainly deserve. So I hope you'll stick around. Snarks aka Bullies are everywhere and probably are found in higher numbers on community forums...it sucks but you just gotta ignore them and don't give them the attention they are so despereately seeking.

BellaLux · August 2012

Generalizations carry little weight...if you are serious, speak directly to the people you have the issue with. That's what adults do.

hjk5000 · August 2012

JulianneJacks · August 2012

momofone0901:

since nothing i say will be listened to or even considered, i will leave with this. my examples speak for themselves in this thread, as i have been told i have given a headache, called a whore and told off in various other ways. seriously, people?!?!

i stand by my words. notice i did so without name-calling, and by fully explaining with no vulgarity what i thought. this is a discussion board after all.

and i do hope none of your children, present or future, get treated with the disrespect you have shown me today.

You said we were ugly- on the inside- that's almost as bad as being ugly on the outside!

PinkGlitter2012 · August 2012

kicius56:
Your post is the cherry on top of another crazy Tuesday around here.

Ahhhh!!! I love Killer Klowns!

PinkGlitter2012 · August 2012

kicius56:
Your post is the cherry on top of another crazy Tuesday around here.

Ahhhh!!! I love Killer Klowns!

kristykay123 · August 2012

davis0905:
If there was a "like" button, I was "like" your post a hundred times over. Despite what you have experienced so far, there are people here who can offer sensitivity and will give you the support you are reqesting and certainly deserve. So I hope you'll stick around. Snarks aka Bullies are everywhere and probably are found in higher numbers on community forums...it sucks but you just gotta ignore them and don't give them the attention they are so despereately seeking.

Ummm, who are you???

SemperFiPurpleHeart · August 2012

kristykay123:
Blah flucking blah

THIS!!!

Top right corner is a red "X". Click it!! Good-bye.

PrimRoseMama · August 2012

momofone0901:
since nothing i say will be listened to or even considered, i will leave with this. my examples speak for themselves in this thread, as i have been told i have given a headache, called a whore and told off in various other ways. seriously, people?!?!
i stand by my words. notice i did so without name-calling, and by fully explaining with no vulgarity what i thought. this is a discussion board after all.
and i do hope none of your children, present or future, get treated with the disrespect you have shown me today.

Not only are you a turd-sandwich, but you are also a lying liar who lies. You called us ugly & told us how disgusting we are & we have no manners. So yeah, not such a shining example of humanity there yourself. Take that finger you are wagging & shove it up your bum.

Mrs JillB · August 2012

SCSmith2011:
bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.

It's *advice* not advise.

Good lord, thank you! This is one of my biggest pet peeves.

artistlife · August 2012

Here is some advice for you- that little bubble by your name let's us know you are still here. If we are so horrible stop reading and log off. Grow some thicker skin. We are not your BFFs.

PrimRoseMama · August 2012

bitty94:
PrimRoseMama:
bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.
No you came here looking for other teens who are trying to get pregnant on purpose. There are not many of those, hint hint, most of them are busy being kids. Why should we be nice if we think people are stupid?!
but the thing is, you dont have to be such a witch about it

I think it is stupid & anyone who is 18 or younger considering active TTC is behaving immaturely.

Here: I am sorry snookums, no no honey lets not do that, it's not a good idea. I know you want it & want it now. Yes, I know, there there.

JulianneJacks · August 2012

bitty94:
PrimRoseMama:

bitty94:
i came here to get advise and because i was excited that my fiance and i were going to try for our first child. all i got within the first post was a ton of bad and rude comments. i thought this site was nice.

No you came here looking for other teens who are trying to get pregnant on purpose. There are not many of those, hint hint, most of them are busy being kids. Why should we be nice if we think people are stupid?!

but the thing is, you dont have to be such a witch about it

Excuse me? Most of the people who responded to you were genuinely offering you advice. You will need to grow a thicker skin if you're going to be a teen mom. People are very mean to my two friends who had teenage pregnancies and treat them like they are trailor trash even though one of them has become very successful later in life.

I think it's terrible my friends are treated this way- but it's a fact of life. Unfortunately people look down on teen moms.

kacelle · August 2012

I'm pretty sure haters have this exact post saved somewhere so they can just copy and paste every Tuesday. Forreal.

TeamAwesomeBaby · August 2012

momofone0901:
since nothing i say will be listened to or even considered, i will leave with this. my examples speak for themselves in this thread, as i have been told i have given a headache, called a whore and told off in various other ways. seriously, people?!?!
i stand by my words. notice i did so without name-calling, and by fully explaining with no vulgarity what i thought. this is a discussion board after all.
and i do hope none of your children, present or future, get treated with the disrespect you have shown me today.

See, I think the whole "You're mean on the board so you're mean to your future babies" argument - even if it's implied rather than directly asserted - is just as mean, in my mind. I agree that name-calling is wrong, but to imply that a group of women who desperately want to have babies are going to be bad moms is pretty rough. I know that's not exactly what you said, but that's how it comes off - and I think it's what you were insinuating.

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