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I told my family...

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I just told my mom, dad and younger sister about our loss. I posted a while ago about my older sister naming her baby Olivia, which is the name we had picked out. My parents  and younger sis (until now) didn't know about our loss and were confused on why I was so pissed at my sister (she knew since day one about the m/c). 

I'm feeling a mixture of relief and regret. Relief that everything is out in the open and I don't have to feel like I'm hiding something and regret because I don't want to deal with my mother's sympathy. I just hate people feeling sorry for me and fawning over me. 

There's really no point to this post, I know...I just needed to get my mixed feelings off my chest. Did anyone else feel this way if they told? 

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  • rlajamberlajambe member

    I'm glad that your finally felt safe enough to tell your family about your loss.  While they might have that "Oh poor girl" attitude to begin with, likely you'll find great support from them over time.  Personally, I know that my family has given me great strength through all of this.

     

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    imagerlajambe:

    I'm glad that your finally felt safe enough to tell your family about your loss.  While they might have that "Oh poor girl" attitude to begin with, likely you'll find great support from them over time.  Personally, I know that my family has given me great strength through all of this.

    Definitely this.  Our families knew because we had already told them we were pregnant at 8weeks.  And I had thought I would not want to have to "un-tell" people, but it was great to have support from friends and family, even if it was just a single text to say "I'm so sorry, let me know if you need anything."

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  • HopingforChangeHopingforChange member

    imagencchnat:
    I'm sorry that you have to deal with your mom's feeling sorry for you, but good for you for telling them about it. This way, they at least understand why you're so upset, both in general and specifically with your sister.

    All of this.  I am glad you felt like it was the right time to tell your family.  I hope they don't pity you for long and instead choose to provide meaningful support.

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