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Intro- soon to be single mom

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First, I'm on my phone, so forgive lack of formatting. My H of 5 years and I are splitting up. He's moving out at the end of the month. It's nothing dramatic, just one of those sad cases where things just didn't work out. I'm keeping the house we bought a year and a half ago, so money will be tight. I'm most worried about DD, who is 2 and a half. She loves her daddy and, in fact, often prefers him to me. She's going to be absolutely devastated. Our son is 9 months old, so it  will be much easier for him. At this point, everything is very amicable when it comes to custody, splitting our stuff, and child support. Hopefully it continues to stay this way. Anyway, I just wanted to say hello. If anyone has any advice to offer on helping Dd cope with the soon to happen disappearance of H from her daily life, I would be so grateful.   Also, please disregard my siggy. I haven't been able to change it for a very long time and gave up quite a while ago. 
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  • andrew's_brideandrew's_bride

    My XH and I are very amicable as well. There is a lot I could be angry at him for, but I just feel its not healthy for DD or I. We split when DD was 16 months old, so she wasn't really affected as much, but now she is 2.5 and misses him when he's not around. So it doesn't matter what age they're at when the split happens, I guess, as long as XH wants to and has a relationship with them. When she asks where he is, I tell her the truth. If hes working, he's working. If he's at his house, I tell her that too. Its like if I don't make a big deal out of it, neither does she. Although it will just burn your butt when you say "I love (childs name)!!!!!!!" and they reply "I love DADA!" ugh LOL But I just say thats great or something like that. Just as long as you try your best to work together as co-parents, she'll be ok. If XH already has a place lined up, you might take her over there before he moves and say this is dadas new place and you get to come visit!!!! try to make it like its normal, cause its going to be soon. Sorry to hear about your situation, it sucks and will be hard no matter what. But you guys sound like you are going about it the best way you can. Good luck!

     

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  • lovemarriagebabydivorcelovemarriagebabydivorce
    I think I needed to read this. I'm hew too! My divorce was final last Monday. It's been hard. I'm still angry at him, but we are trying to be amicable for the sake of our 4 month old son. I don't know if he loves him, per se...Mostly because he's only seen him twice a week since April...That's not much time. My XH is hurt, angry, and an alcoholic. It's difficult to determine his moods. I think I'm just leaning to really stay away from him. I think that if we don't talk or anything, it will make things much easier. That's just how it has to be. Every situation is different, though.
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