Am i making them dysfunctional?

JustcallmeGG2 · August 2012

I have a twin question.

My hubbie usually feeds our daughter because she is a picky eater, and for some reason she feeds better with him. I have more patience for our son, so that works out.

Are we making them dysfunctional if we always feed the same twin? Obviously we are spending more time with one than the other, but still give attention to the other one.

greyeyes15 · August 2012

do whatever works for you. we normally take turns with who we feed but hubby naturally picks DD up more and I naturally pick up DS more...maybe its that daddy's girl/momma's boy thing...

im sure your kids will not be dysfunctional because you found a feeding process that works best. and it is a process with multiples isnt it?

Rynleigh · August 2012

Doesn't sound dysfunctional, to me. I would say that it's a good idea to switch things up when you have the patience to, so you can have that bonding time and maybe see some change over time before they get into high chairs (when I would assume you want them both to be comfortable with either one of you feeding them solids). But they're very young - right now it could be something as simple as the different positions you hold them in! So try not to take it personally, and don't feel like you're damaging them.

Switzerland87 · August 2012

I think at this age, preferential eating is only an issue if you're BFing, because it can mess with your supply. Since you're bottle feeding, I don't think you can create bad habits right now. Do what you need to do, and don't worry about it right now!

DoingItRight · August 2012

We do the exact same thing.

crystaleyes39 · August 2012

I dont think so at all! I tend to feed one of our daughters more than my DH because she's a little more fussy with her burps and bottle in general. DH never can seem to get her to burp. I dont see any harm in it. With multiples you have to find what works for you and stick w/ it otherwise things can be overwhelming.

kiwi443 · August 2012

I don't think you're messing them up.

I remember that when DH and realized we were each gravitating toward a specific twin, we did make an effort to switch it up. It sounds like you're already doing that during non-feeding times.

bearfootz · August 2012

I think you're fine. Funny how DD has always gravitated towards DH and DS towards me.

Of course it's probably too soon to tell if mine are dysfunctional or not so you might not want to take my advice....

E&RMommy · August 2012

Not one bit. Do what works.

DH always fed DD; he could get more food into her system.

At 2 years old she's just a whopping 24 lbs. She's a little thing. He still gets her to eat more than I can.

So do what you need to do to get your kids to eat.

lmydogally · August 2012

One of our girls would only ever eat if I fed her. Something about the way I held her, was the only way she was comfortable (Torticollis). Now at 6 months, pretty much anyone can feed her. The only feeding from a bottle only last 6 months and I bet she won't care who feeds her solids and by the time she's 9 months she should be able to hold her own bottle. It's just a matter of time before who feeds her wont even matter.

JustcallmeGG2 · August 2012

Thanks so much for the reassurance!

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