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roadrunner8383
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Mother hates my girl name....."It is Horrible"
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My DH and I have a favorite girl name picked out. Cora Noelle. We think that it is really pretty. I mentioned it to my Mom and she HATES it. She's not afraid to share her opinion! Now if we pick that name I will always know that she hates it. Has anyone else been affected by a parent's opinion of your choice of name? How did you handle it? We have a few more names that we are considering, but it is still at the top.
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Re: Mother hates my girl name....."It is Horrible"
Precisely why it's better not to share with those who like to give opinions...
FWIW - I think that's a beautiful name. I really love Cora and it goes well with Noelle. Very classy.
nice of her. I like it, it's pretty. She'll get over it, the question is, can you?
Both Cora and Noelle are beautiful names. I say stick with it. She'll just have to get over it. Good Luck
Thanks everyone!
I think I can live with her not liking it if we end up going with that name. She thinks it sounds "like an old person in the nursing home"......oh well.
Y Oughta: Your story made me laugh!
Sounds so like a Mom to change their mind like that.
the great thing about having your own child is that you get to name it, just like your mom did with you.
my mom hated my oldest boys name....too bad for her...i didnt give a crap
You may be interested in this article explaining why people of different generations have such starkly different opinions about names:
https://www.babynamewizard.com/archives/2010/4/the-generational-sweet-spot-or-why-your-parents-have-such-bad-taste
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We made the mistake of sharing our top girl and boy name my last pregnancy. Everyone ruined the girl name for me by making up some horrible nickname. I litereally cried over it and told everyone I will never name a child that now. Luckily, we had a boy and they loved that name.
This time - we are staying tight lipped on names. Your baby, your choice. Your parents have already had their turn at naming children. Cora is beautiful! It is on our short list for girls right now.
Thanks for the link! I loved this article.
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That's why we're not sharing our name choice until it's set in stone. Even then, I know my mom will be forthcoming with her (potentially very negative opinion). It stinks.
FWIW, Cora is lovely. I'd do my best not to let her opinion have any effect on your decision making.
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Cora is on my short list for potential girls' names. And Noelle is the middle name of my first daughter (see siggy.) So I love it.
My mom HATES my daughter's middle name, Corinne. She refuses to even tell people what it is.
I think it is a beautiful name and that your mom needs to keep her trap shut. Honestly, who gives a crap if she likes it, it's not her baby.
DH's grandmother said something similar about our DS's name when we told her, but that didn't stop us from using it, and honestly I've rarely ever thought about it since, and she has never said it again since he was born, only before. As long as your mom does the same, I think eventually you will forget she said it, and I also think that eventually once she realizes that it suits your LO, she will get over it and come to like it as well.
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My Mom did the same thing to me with the girl name we chose when we were expecting DS (Eliza). We obviously didn't end up using it since we had a boy, but when we were choosing names for this pregnancy, I didn't even consider it because of the negative comments. When she asked me about names this time, I told her flat out that I didn't want her opinion or input.
ETA: I think the name you've chosen is beautiful!
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My parents felt the same way about DS's name. They love it now and feel it fits him. I did not let their opinion affect my decision because I was truly comfortable with it. If you're not, maybe you should reconsider.
A lot of people were vocal about disliking my daughter's name before she was born. Now that she's here nobody says anything about. Next time we are not telling anyone. It's not my style but I think it sounds very classy as well. Hopefully your mom will forget about disliking the name once your precious girl is here.
I love the name Cora.
I mentioned Eloise to my mom [it's the name as long as this LO is a girl so clearly she didn't change my mind] and she said "isn't that a famous mental hospital?"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eloise_(psychiatric_hospital)
Apparently it was. That was her way of sharing that she doesn't really like it but really she's grasping at straws. I also plan on using the NN Elsie and OMG that's the cow! Well yes but my LO will have no idea what these things are.
Your mom would've hated the name wether you told her now or after LO was born. I'd rather know than have her say things behind your back after LO is born about how she wished you'd pick a different name. Give her time & it should grow on her and if it doesn't... too bad!
Cora is very pretty. Noelle is NMS, but I think they sound nice together.
If you love the name, don't let her get you down. She already had a chance to name her kids and now it's your turn. There was some disappointment from my H's side about not using his mother's middle name as our DD's middle name, but we weren't going to be pressured into it because we liked the one we chose much better. They got over it pretty quickly.
This is why we're not sharing our choices this time around. We had this issue last time. If I were you I'd stop discussing names with her.
Also, fwiw, I think Cora Noelle is a beautiful name.
Jeez. She knows its not her child to name and its rude to say things like that, right?
My mom said she hated most names we threw out in early pg so we decided to keep the names to ourselves until they were born. We plan on using some of the names she hated for our next child. We really love them and at the end of the day, its just not up to her. She'll get used to it. If you love the name (Its really pretty) I'd use it. She'll get over it.