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April 2012 Moms
metucker
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Am I the only one that thinks a GTG is kinda weird?
metucker
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It's okay if I am. I'm just sort of surprised. It is one day after there is some mystery troll and that is enough to make everyone take their sig pics down, but you want to split hotel rooms with someone that could potentially be that troll? And you are going to spend your one (I'm assuming) vacation away from YH and your kids and your real life friends to do this? I dunno. I very well could be the only one. But I can't imagine explaining that to MH or anyone in real life. Like, "sorry, DH, but I'm flying to Vegas without you to meet up with some Internet friends. Have fun with the baby!"
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Re: Am I the only one that thinks a GTG is kinda weird?
Anonymous internet assh0les are usually only tough because no one can see them. The likelihood of crazy pants coming to something where someone would see their face is highly unlikely.
ETA: I met my H playing online video games and I've met people from my Knot month board. My H would think this was normal for me.
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Maybe it's just that I have a real life and don't spend every waking moment of every day on here like some ppl but I seriously don't care about being a part of "bump legend"
I think it depends how it is organized and who goes. Maybe Gisa or AshleyC is "the troll" but do you really think so? I guess I'd be willing to risk that. I likely would not attend unless it was in driving distance and could incorporate my family. By next March some of us will have been chatting for over 18months and it would be nice to meet many of you if all the other factors worked out.
But no, I don't think your opinion is weird. I'm bummed that the recent troll thing hit right when I discovered how many mama's are local.
This board, unlike many others, seems to rally when the dramz hits.
Judgey much?
You seem like a miserable b!tch. No offense, but damn.
Calllllllmmmm dowwwwwwnnnnn
Yep
lol.. my point is that I'm skeptical about it actually going down. There is one being organized on my regular board too.
That said, I have been to a number of nest GTGs, and I am pretty sure no one I met at them is the person/people who fuccked with me here. But.. there have been people who have been stabbed in the back by so-called friends, so. I guess it's a crapshoot. But so is real life.
True true!
Yeah, I'm not saying I wouldn't get together locally. But in fact, on my local board it turned out that the crazy pants troll was one of the regulars who went to the gtgs. So maybe that's why I'm jaded.
And Gisa, I'm not saying its weird to go on vacay without your kids. But I'm sure I can't afford a bunch of big trips, so to go without MH, I'm sure he would be less than thrilled.
My husband is the only person I ever spend time with so he would understand. Plus, someone has to watch the children.
And you seem like you need to get out more and make some real life friends. No offense!
ugh, really? That sucks.
I have made some real-life friends through nest GTGs. Guess I'm not the best example of the value of putting yourself out there right now, though, lol.
Since she's the care taker for a toddler and an infant, I could see how getting out would be a little more difficult.
I have anxiety issues. I find it easier to cultivate relationships online and meet people after. I've forced myself to join real life mommy groups, but that would be a helluva lot harder with a toddler.
And where do you suggest I do that? All the local mom groups have monthly fees and most of the kids aren't in my kid's age range. My cousin is local, but doesn't go out because she doesn't like leaving her boys. My best friend passed away a year and a half ago and I don't work. I'm open to suggestions on how to meet people.
I really don't mean this in a snarky way but I don't see a point in coming on here every day and putting in all this time and making these relationships but secretly thinking everyone is up to something. But I think that just depends on what you personally use this website as. Personally, I don't have any "mom" friends IRL so this was a good way for me to connect with a lot of them all at once, and I would love for these relationships to turn into real world relationships because that is the point to me. Does that make sense? If I had no trust/faith in the relationships here then I wouldn't post, and I wouldn't come on here and vent personal stuff.
I guess I picture it just like any other relationship: sometimes you get burned, sometimes you meet someone life changing-ly awesome.
I agree with Monkeybabe, and I'll add: Why are you here then? What is the point for you? I'm sure any baby related questions are things you could ask your real life friends or your pedi or Dr. Google. I don't get it.
Kudos to you for being too busy and all but why judge? Just don't go if it actually happens.
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It was really weird. Like, anonymous letter sent to your house/bringing your work into it weird. No, thanks.
And I've gone away wo my husband. I guess it's just been a life changing year and I would feel weird using money to leave him home when he deserves to get away as much as I do.
This is me exactly. I seem to have kind of alienated most women in my age group as they are just now getting ready to settle down, maybe get engaged, start their "5 year baby plan" or whatever. I love my son more than anything, but I would love some girl time and 90% of the people on this board are people that I would love to meet IRL
I hope you are not talking about me, because that's not at all what I was saying.
I'm not saying I don't trust people in here, either. I like forming relationships with people. But to me, the whole thing would just feel awkward. To me.
Well, duh, people are everywhere! Just go up to someone in the grocery store and be like "Hey lets hang out! Bring your child to my house, we will get to know each other
" trust me, they won't be creeped out at all!
Me too, kind of. All of my close friends got married and moved away. By away, I mean in other parts of NYC and Long Island. These areas are huge and not one of my friends is closer than 50 minutes drive and I don't have a car. it sucks big time. DH has a lot of friends with wives and girlfriends and I get along with most of them but we just don't have much in common. I just joined a moms group in my neighborhood so I am hoping to meet someone fun.
Story time at your local library
Hardware stores often offer free classes for kids
A park
The playground at Mcdonalds
Free kids summer movie club
Playground at the mall
local pool
There is a weeks worth of activities, most free or very inexpensive
Offense taken. Is that what you really think? That everyone who spends time here has no "real life" and no friends? That may be true for some, but I'm willing to bet that it's simply a group of women who have something pretty life altering in common, and are going through it at the same exact time. Perhaps you have a similarly large circle of mom friends with very young infants to chat with on a daily basis? I have a few, but none I can chat with at 3am or noon while nursing about my experience with a baby. The fact that topics range beyond that is only natural for people who've spent this much time together. I find it odd that you're so defensive about this. My real life friends would get sick of this much baby talk real fast, particularly since we're all juggling families and jobs, etc. And only manage to get together on weekends, and then, only briefly. after investing this much time with these ladies, I think it would be cool to meet the more sane ones. Don't really see the big deal. shrug
ETA: stupid mobile bump hates punctuation.
This. I think it's a fun idea but I probably wouldn't go all the way to Vegas without DH (probably DD at home though). And I would be sharing a hotel room with him!
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Agreed. I have fabulous friends but barely any with kids. And its awesome to relate to people who just had a kid the same age as yours and is experiencing this life changing situation.
And this is a seriously lame excuse
I was not referring to you. It is great there is a place to talk about all that stuff. I agree.