Here is something I don't think we've discussed yet...

puzzlepieces · August 2012

Sex. In the mood? Not in the mood? I feel terrible because I am just completely uninterested in sex right now. Pretty sure that happened about 5 months earlier than either of us expected. Hoping the second trimester is a different story.

Anyone else shirking their wifely duties? (JOKE)

Funnygirl34 · August 2012

Ugh, I feel terrible but I'm uninterested too :-(. I'm either just too tired or feel too sick. Someone please tell me this changes!

CloudBee · August 2012

The past week or two I have just been too sick in the evenings. I think once morning (evening!) sickness is gone, I will be back in the game.

mentalmel · August 2012

We haven't been sexing

Its not even that I don't feel like it, its just that I always feel I'll in the evenings&the past couple times we have, I've bled.

total buzz kill. Poor dh. I can't even stomach the thought of a Blowie either! I DID offer an H.J last night at least. He declined. *phewf* lol

alzi · August 2012

I feel too sick to be in the mood. I hope this passes soon.

MrsRags5412 · August 2012

Sex? Ew! I'm not interested in the slightest. I hope that changes for DH's sake. I've managed to forfeit twice so far after finding out we are pregnant, but that's it.

sgb721 · August 2012

not interested! I'm on suppositories daily until 12 weeks. It doesn't scream 'sexy time' to me.

Stellarpuppy · August 2012

DH and I have a had sex once this month but we've been staying up WAY too late doing other things that we are too tired at night. However, I recently got some toys for him and me so hopefully we can use them soon. I just hope he doesn't go crazy on my boobs. They have been hurting for weeks now!

krisztina33 · August 2012

Not interested in the least. I actually cut him off once we found out until after the first u/s. I know sex can't cause a miscarriage, but it can cause spotting which would have been too stressful. He was fine with that, but as soon as we were done at the doctors he wanted some! LOL! So I caved and he got his sexy time. I'll probably try and perform my wifely duties twice a week as I am not feeling sick yet--just uninterested

KatK421 · August 2012

I'm so uninterested it's unbelievable. The other day I was putting on my pjs, and when my DH saw my boobs he said, "Nice!" (They've gotten a bit bigger) and I totally went off on him. He keeps trying to get me in the mood and such, and I feel SO guilty turning him down. I know he means well, but I'm just too tired/sick/bloated.

shellyamf · August 2012

My poor DH! Between feeling ill in the mornings and evenings and being super tired all the time, I am SO NOT in the mood. It's been three weeks without sex which is the longest we've ever gone. He's being a good sport about it, but I really hope 2nd trimester is better.

ProfessorPedals825 · August 2012

You're going to hate my response, but I'm in the mood all the time! But... I'm too scared because I don't want any spotting. We have fooled around but not actually had sex.

ChevyFam717 · August 2012

I'm either tired... or don't feel very good... so... DH has been a bit limited on his extra-cirricular activities... Hopefully after the first trimester things will get a bit better...

swelniak · August 2012

I'm either so exhausted or nauseous that it hasn't happened but maybe once or twice in the past month. I feel awful. If only I could partake in a red bull, things may be different haha. I always find the longer it's been since we last had sex, the less interested I become. Poor thing. Hoping this turns around soon!

Heartstrings13 · August 2012

I really want to... I'm just too damned tired. It's leaving us both fairly frustrated. Last week I kind of let him just do it. I tried to act interested, but he knew better. haha. I felt terrible and just told him that it's due to my exhaustion. He's not really even trying now unless he knows I'm in a good place energy-wise. haha.

happy_un-bride · August 2012

I've been so bloated and sleeping sooo much that we have not been intimate much... this weekend tho, we sure made up for it. With my bloated belly, its hard to feel attractive, but my DH does an excellent job of making me feel pretty, which helps. Not to mention he wanted to take my new and improved larger boobs out for a test run (tho I had to warn him to be VERY gentle).

CloudBee · August 2012

I will say that I have been really tired lately as well, as we've been staying up way late to watch the olympics.

BabyRN2006 · August 2012

Its been a while for us. First DH had his surgery and was in recovery for that, then we had the IVF and didn't/couldn't do it then. Afterward DH was too worried to do it and then the past couple weeks I have felt like crap. Hopefully the dry spell will end soon!

mon.petit.chou · August 2012

As of about 2 days ago, I am wanting it like crazy. We haven't had sex since about a week before my BFP - so about a month now? DH is way too nervous about messing something up and he won't do it. He won't even really kiss me because he doesn't want to get aroused.

I'm hoping that once we get to talk to the doctor next week he will be reassured and this won't go on forever.

Katie1898 · August 2012

i feel the same too. not in the mood at all Sad

mrskitton · August 2012

Oh I want it so bad! But, told DH we aren't doing it until we hit 1st tri.....call it an irrational fear, but oh well.

ksmakal · August 2012

I'm in the mood often, but unfortunately with the spotting we're on standby in bedroom activities, well at least for me. Embarrassed

luvsdogs2 · August 2012

krisztina33:
Not interested in the least. I actually cut him off once we found out until after the first u/s. I know sex can't cause a miscarriage, but it can cause spotting which would have been too stressful. He was fine with that, but as soon as we were done at the doctors he wanted some! LOL! So I caved and he got his sexy time. I'll probably try and perform my wifely duties twice a week as I am not feeling sick yet--just uninterested

I made mine wait for the u/s, too. I knew he was going to want to last night after the appointment, but I was sooooo tired, I put on a dirty shirt from the laundry to sleep in so as soon as he went in for the move he'd back off :P Got a lot of sleep last night, so we'll see how tonight goes.

homemaker5711 · August 2012

Funny so many people are participating in intimacy. My midwife encouraged us not to stop. Its definitely not as frequent, but I think pregnancy makes our experience better.

I encourage you ladies to get back to the bedroom with your husband and don't worry too much!

laurenmichael725 · August 2012

Totally disinterested. I keep swatting my husband away! The last time we had sex I felt weird cramping and was so paranoid about spotting. I know sex is supposed to be fine in a normal pregnancy, but I'll stick to cuddling until after I see a heartbeat (sorry DH!).

wittyschaffy · August 2012

The idea doesn't repulse me but the problem is that DH is totally a "boob guy" and when he gets in the mood, it is like all ability to realize his strength abandons him and he sorta manhandles the girls. With how sensitive things are right now, that is a recipe for complete disaster.

Plus, I am zonked out by 9:00 these days and he doesn't typically show up for bed until 10-10:30 and I'm dead to the world by then and don't wake up until about 4:30 when I have to pee. You could send a marching band through my bedroom these days and I probably wouldn't even flinch.

ctmom2011 · August 2012

No real interest but I take a medication that kind of blocks being in the mood.

mnj05 · August 2012

It's been since May for us. We weren't allowed during IVF and our RE said not until at least the first u/s, which was a few weeks ago. I'm also on progesterone suppositories so it's kind of a turn off for DH. I've been wanting it but waiting until I'm done with the meds, which will hopefully be next week!

Boysenberry · August 2012

My heart goes out to all of you, and your husbands...

I'm horny 24/7 and my husband is loving every second of it! We've always been incredibly active, and now we just can't get enough (literally every day, sometimes twice) - and it feels soooo amazing every time.

I hope all of my beautiful mama friends start feeling better soon, because you're missing out on wonderful experiences, and your husbands hands could start cramping. Better sex is in your futures!!

Wink

NBBride05 · August 2012

Not interested and I have a cyst on my left ovary so we both agreed to wait.

00jennifer00 · August 2012

I actually really want to, but I've been too nauseous when the opportunity arises. Sometimes dh comes home for lunch, and if I feel good we'll lock ourselves in the bedroom for a little while. He's never really been a night time guy though, and unfortunately I feel best about 10pm, so it's not happening as often as I wish it would. When dh goes 2 or 3 days without, he can easily go 10. When I go 2 or 3 days without, I get cranky and with pg hormones I get cry-y too. My boobs never hurt anymore (I guess it comes with bfing for almost 9 straight years, they're just used to the action), but thinking back to how badly they hurt with my first pregnancy makes me glad my dh isn't a boob guy.

5dogs · August 2012

I'm still kinda in the mood but the constant hangover feeling + the progesterone suppositories are kinda killing the mood but I am still trying for 1-2x a week. 2nd trimester was a whole different game when I was pregnant with DD (literally was jumping DH as soon as he'd come home from work) so I am hoping I have that to look forward to again.

ann_jeremiah · August 2012

My interest/lack of hasn't changed at all.. I do remember with my last pregnancy.. that it increased at some point... especially due to the crazy sexy dreams I was having...

shibby00 · August 2012

When we do it, I'm absolutely loving it. Between nausea, exhaustion, and my DD not sleeping well anymore I haven't had much energy. Poor DH.

Mindish · August 2012

My hormones and my m/s are currently at war for domination in this area. It makes me feel crappy when we do it and I'm afraid to do to much cause I don't want to set off my stomach, but I want to! And when I don't, I just end up dreaming about it every night and wake up feeling disappointed. (sorry, tmi.)

steph620 · August 2012

Not interested either. I did tell DH last night to let me know when he wants it (he hasn't been attempting, I think he is nervous and knows I'm not in the mood), to let me know. But he is a boob guy too and last time I told him they were off limits and he couldn't touch them. I even wore a bra! Lol he didn't like that very much.

oliversmom03 · August 2012

Last pregnancy I was like a teenage boy! This one I have the get the heck away from me syndrome.

benmel31 · August 2012

Up until early this week, everything was great between us. The last few days, I have been crampy, tired, and emotional. I haven't really been in the mood. Bad timing since we just celebrated our anniversary.

I hope to just ignore things this weekend and get back in the mood!

mrs.birdie · August 2012

I am always in the mood. Too bad DH just started his field training with his department and works from 10pm-8am. Grrr....

miakrita · August 2012

MrsRags5412:
Sex? Ew! I'm not interested in the slightest. I hope that changes for DH's sake. I've managed to forfeit twice so far after finding out we are pregnant, but that's it.

I love it. "Forfeit".

EmilyB15 · August 2012

Looks like I'm in the minority here, but I want it all the time! I haven't been feeling that bad and I don't get m/s often, just now and then. I can't keep my hands off of DH and he's the same. We haven't had any problems. No bleeding or spotting. And we go at it about 4 or 5 times a week! On the weekend (when I'm not working and not as tired) I ask for it about 3 times a day! DH is happy to help!

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