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blindvictory · July 2012

auroraloo:
As someone who has been pregnant all summer, I say bish be crazy. Summer is hell on being pregnant. Those cute dresses are way less awesome when your thighs are rubbing together, and you have to wear flip flops because you can't stuff your sausages into real shoes. Then, because you have zero support AND you're carrying extra weight, your heels start to send shooting pains into your feet and calves.
Just TTC when you're ready, regardless of what season your kid will be born in, and when you'll be pregnant. You're only pregnant once for the kid, it's not like you'll be pregnant every summer.
You're so not ready for kids.

Isn't that the freaking truth.

OP, you're an idiot. You may be able to control when you conceive, (or you may start trying and not get KU for a year, whatev) but you don't get to pick how your pregnancy goes. Have fun ending up on bed rest or something sucky in your "perfect summer pregnancy" and not getting to enjoy a bit of it. If you're ready for a baby, pull your head out of your rear and get to it. If you're not, then no season or time of year or whatever will make it all perfect and sparkly and full of magical unicorns. You're making excuses and you sound like an imbecile.

And now, if you'll excuse me, my sweaty pregnant behind is going to go waddle to the bathroom to find my Gold Bond chafing stick. Because it's SO lovely being pregnant in the summer heat.

winter lady · July 2012

Thanks ladies!

I'm going to have a talk with my DH tonight and tell him that I realized the reasons I've been waiting on, might not really be the issue here.

Hopefully we'll figure this out!

winter lady · July 2012

blindvictory:
auroraloo:
As someone who has been pregnant all summer, I say bish be crazy. Summer is hell on being pregnant. Those cute dresses are way less awesome when your thighs are rubbing together, and you have to wear flip flops because you can't stuff your sausages into real shoes. Then, because you have zero support AND you're carrying extra weight, your heels start to send shooting pains into your feet and calves.
Just TTC when you're ready, regardless of what season your kid will be born in, and when you'll be pregnant. You're only pregnant once for the kid, it's not like you'll be pregnant every summer.
You're so not ready for kids.
Isn't that the freaking truth.
OP, you're an idiot. You may be able to control when you conceive, (or you may start trying and not get KU for a year, whatev) but you don't get to pick how your pregnancy goes. Have fun ending up on bed rest or something sucky in your "perfect summer pregnancy" and not getting to enjoy a bit of it. If you're ready for a baby, pull your head out of your rear and get to it. If you're not, then no season or time of year or whatever will make it all perfect and sparkly and full of magical unicorns. You're making excuses and you sound like an imbecile.
And now, if you'll excuse me, my sweaty pregnant behind is going to go waddle to the bathroom to find my Gold Bond chafing stick. Because it's SO lovely being pregnant in the summer heat.

LOL. Yeah, I know I'm being ridiculous. I said that. What I didn't say was that I also worry and am scared shiitless of being on bedrest, or not being able to carry full-term, or having health issues during my pregnancy, etc. So, it's not like I think I'll have this amazing, perfect pregnancy just because it's in the summer. I actually EXPECT the opposite. I am terrified.

PrimRoseMama · July 2012

winter lady:
blindvictory:
auroraloo:
As someone who has been pregnant all summer, I say bish be crazy. Summer is hell on being pregnant. Those cute dresses are way less awesome when your thighs are rubbing together, and you have to wear flip flops because you can't stuff your sausages into real shoes. Then, because you have zero support AND you're carrying extra weight, your heels start to send shooting pains into your feet and calves.
Just TTC when you're ready, regardless of what season your kid will be born in, and when you'll be pregnant. You're only pregnant once for the kid, it's not like you'll be pregnant every summer.
You're so not ready for kids.
Isn't that the freaking truth.
OP, you're an idiot. You may be able to control when you conceive, (or you may start trying and not get KU for a year, whatev) but you don't get to pick how your pregnancy goes. Have fun ending up on bed rest or something sucky in your "perfect summer pregnancy" and not getting to enjoy a bit of it. If you're ready for a baby, pull your head out of your rear and get to it. If you're not, then no season or time of year or whatever will make it all perfect and sparkly and full of magical unicorns. You're making excuses and you sound like an imbecile.
And now, if you'll excuse me, my sweaty pregnant behind is going to go waddle to the bathroom to find my Gold Bond chafing stick. Because it's SO lovely being pregnant in the summer heat.
LOL. Yeah, I know I'm being ridiculous. I said that. What I didn't say was that I also worry and am scared shiitless of being on bedrest, or not being able to carry full-term, or having health issues during my pregnancy, etc. So, it's not like I think I'll have this amazing, perfect pregnancy just because it's in the summer. I actually EXPECT the opposite. I am terrified.

These are legitimate concerns. Talk to your husband. Those are risks every woman takes.

blindvictory · July 2012

winter lady:
LOL. Yeah, I know I'm being ridiculous. I said that. What I didn't say was that I also worry and am scared shiitless of being on bedrest, or not being able to carry full-term, or having health issues during my pregnancy, etc. So, it's not like I think I'll have this amazing, perfect pregnancy just because it's in the summer. I actually EXPECT the opposite. I am terrified.

You're kind of answering yourself there. You're not anywhere near being ready. Part of deciding to get pregnant is accepting the fact that YOU HAVE NO CONTROL. Worrying changes absolutely nothing. Nothing. Worrying didn't keep me from miscarrying my first pregnancy. Worrying about this LO's growth hasn't kept him from having IUGR issues. You take the good with the bad and you love your kiddo regardless. The "suffering" you go through in pregnancy is pretty much just part of the game. Some deal with more than others. If you're not ready to accept that, you need to be honest with your H and tell him you're not ready. And stop pretending to be something you're not in terms of posting under your normal SN. That's ridiculous.

deelopi9 · July 2012

winter lady:
There just seem like so many better reasons to try for a summer baby. Which would mean we'd have to wait until approximately November to start TTC. I started to realize this plan in January. In January I thought okay, in case I'm being ridiculous, maybe I can go for April (a January baby), May (a February baby) or July (an April baby), but those were the only other exceptions to my summer baby, and I wasn't exactly thrilled with them.
Now, I know this all sounds utterly ridiculous, and I know I will get flamed because "I can't choose", "I'd be lucky to choose", I know, I know. I'm not saying getting KU in October/November would happen for sure. I know I have a slim chance, but I really want to take that chance.
Has anyone ever felt this way? Held off TTC for such silly reasons beyond the typical "money or work" issues?

I have several teacher friends who timed TTC so the baby would be born on Summer/Winter Break. In a perfect world with all of the star and moon aligning it would work. Chances are it might not...

If you are literally sick to your stomach then you are not ready to have a baby. My opinion is that you should have a serious conversation with your DH about this. There is no reason to fight over it - this is a major life decision and each of you need to be on the same page to emotionally be able to bring this baby into this crazy world we live in.

katharine25 · July 2012

bhjones1980:
It sounds like you are not emotionally ready to have a baby yet and are using the "perfect birth season" as an excuse.

This

Ashleyallsmiles · July 2012

Hate reading this kind of stuff, I wish it was that easy to choose what month and when my husband and I could conceive. Sounds to me like your being really selfish and superficial, not good mommy qualities, just saying you sound immature.

sugarmamma · July 2012

When I read your post, it screamed "anxiety" to me. You're a nervous wreck deep down inside about having a baby and you're using excuses to avoid it. You do need to talk to your DH about your fears. It might also be helpful to talk to other mothers- ones who will be honest with you but also understanding.

The bottom line is what you are doing now, being someone you truly are not, is dividing your relationship.

UnfortunateLemon · July 2012

Ok... I'm a little confused here. If this is not MUD, then why are you even posting on the TTGP board? You have already admitted that you make your husband wear a condom during FW. Therefore, YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO CONCEIVE. The people on this board do not purposely make their husbands or SO wear a condom... It kind of defeats the purpose, ya know?!?!?!

I don't post a lot on here, but you irritated me enough to do so! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

nessahm · July 2012

It sounds like you're making excuses. I bet you come November you'll have other reasons why not to conceive. Maybe then you'll want a winter baby? Be honest with yourself and your husband. Its okay if you're not ready to conceive. Trust me, once you are, you won't have the same silly questions or thoughts you do now.

LokiTTGP · July 2012

UnfortunateLemon:
Ok... I'm a little confused here. If this is not MUD, then why are you even posting on the TTGP board? You have already admitted that you make your husband wear a condom during FW. Therefore, YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO CONCEIVE. The people on this board do not purposely make their husbands or SO wear a condom... It kind of defeats the purpose, ya know?!?!?!

I don't post a lot on here, but you irritated me enough to do so! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Although I dost not defend the original poster, thou shalt not be irritated by those that are trying to avoid on hither. There art quite a few that post with regularity of whom art not actively trying.

PrimRoseMama · July 2012

UnfortunateLemon:
Ok... I'm a little confused here. If this is not MUD, then why are you even posting on the TTGP board? You have already admitted that you make your husband wear a condom during FW. Therefore, YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO CONCEIVE. The people on this board do not purposely make their husbands or SO wear a condom... It kind of defeats the purpose, ya know?!?!?!

I don't post a lot on here, but you irritated me enough to do so! CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I would say the majority of posters on TTGP are not looking to avoid. There are some (like myself) who are TTA, but learning how to chart so that when the time comes we feel informed about TTC.

BlueGirl9603 · July 2012

winter lady:
BlueGirl9603:
Okay wait wait wait, you do realize if you try now you'll end up with a MAY baby, right!? Next month would be around a June baby, the following month a July baby.
So you are actually in the time to get yourself a summer baby! If you wait until November, you'll end up with a fall baby FYI.
I just passed my FW for an April baby.
So yeah, my next FW would be for a May baby. Which is great, but there are a lot of family birthday's in May.
May and June I don't really consider "summer" here. July, yeah, I could do, but that would be conceiving in October.

Okay all I'm hearing are excuses then. I don't think you are ready for a baby. If you did, Oh sure you'd PREFER a summer baby. Hell, I'd prefer a baby to be born on or around Dh and I's anniversary, but I'm not going to shoot for just that. But if you 100% wanted a baby, you'd not really care when you get it.

KLN1179 · July 2012

I am going to be harsh basically because I kind of feel like my world is falling apart. Either you want a baby or you don't. There will never be a perfect time to get PG. I wanted a summer baby too, in 2011 and 2012. Considering I am still here, it didn't work. You can plan all you want and it might never happen the way you want it to. You really need to get over yourself.

weansworld09 · July 2012

curlylocks3:
I do find it really weird though that you've been participating here as if you're TTC. There are women here who are upfront about TTA and are still welcomed and supported. Its just bizarre to be saying you're TTC when you're not.

All of this. Lots of ladies are TTA here & offer lots of support, knowledge and/or input.

As PP have stated, it is clear you are not ready. GL w/your conversation w/YH & whatever you both decide. Perhaps not allowing yourself to indulge in the things that make you baby crazy could help you re-focus on things.

CurlyGirly02 · July 2012

You are a fing idiot.

PetVet2011 · July 2012

This makes me so angry that I really have nothing to say.... Mom always said that if I didn't have anything nice, I shouldn't say anything....

*head to desk*

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