Husbands weird about NIP?

geekychic · July 2012

My hubby hates NIP! I BF. I BF in public! He says its gross and inappropriate. (Now, he would never say anything to a nursing mother or take a picture and tweet it. I doubt he has even noticed other moms doing it.)

He just gets all skeevy when I do it. I wish he were a little more supportive. He just leaves the area that I am doing it in and comes back when he thinks I am done. Its kinda funny when he comes back too soon. I am pretty discreet. He will walk back up to me and not even realize I am still nursing. His face when he figures it out is kinda priceless and he promptly turns around and walks away.

It hasn't stopped me and I basically have told him to deal with it. I was just wondering if anyone else's hubby is the same way.

Mamasaurus · July 2012

My H isn't as bad as yours, but he's a little weird about it. I always use a cover, but still. He's even weird about either of us using the mimijumi bottle in public because it look so much like a breast.

GlinkaGirl · July 2012

Yes, my husband seems bothered by it. I am fairly discreet, but my priority is to get the baby set up correctly then I will fix the cover/ ensure modesty. Sometimes a boob flashes here or there. I know my husband doesn't like this, but I am doing my best and that's what I've explained to him. He is supportive in general of BF, so I think he would just prefer that no one else saw my boobs, which is understandable.

jkfranklin · July 2012

DH doesn't like me nip because he thinks people are trying to get a look at my boobs. I really couldn't care less if they do because they are no longer anything to look at. More like 2 boulders with a road map of blue veins and stretch marks. If you get off on that, more power to ya!

hass2001 · July 2012

My hubby is more overprotective about me NIP. He doesn't want anyone else to see the goods and always makes sure I'm in a quiet area with no people and my nursing cover on.

jessandandy09 · July 2012

Dh was a bit odd at first and kept trying to hold up a recieving blanket in the air in my general direction so no one could see my breast while we were latching on. I gently explained to him that he was making a big production of it and probably drawing more attention for other to look at than if i just slip the boob out and slip the baby on. He finally is used to it. It only took several people walking up to us and saying "oh, is the baby sleeping?" for him to realize no body else really was looking or figuring out that I was nursing.

Mrs.Teddy · July 2012

My husband is very supportive about me BF including NIP however he likes me to be covered. He does not like other people to see my boobs. I guess this is understandable. I hate using a cover and have gotten very good about being discrete without one or just using a blanket not totally covering us.

SilverJM78 · July 2012

My husband is very supportive of me BF, but he is a little anal about making sure I'm covered. He just doesn't want any other men seeing my bewbs I think.

gisa886 · July 2012

My husband doesn't care an if he did I'd tell him to quit being a wussy about it. If he tried to tell me to use a cover I'd probably go apeshit. No milk no opinion.

aggieamber05 · July 2012

Thankfully DH backs up what I want to do. My Dad freaked out about me trying to do it at a restaurant one day when we went to lunch. But I think they all got over it when they heard how defensive I was about it using the "we can eat why cant she" type of answer or "everyone has seen a boob before, its not hurting them". I basically get defensive and say its common in so many other cultures and I want to make it ok here too. The more people see it in public the more it will be accepted. Yadda yadda. In all fairness, I am always covered with a blanket or scarf and no one can really tell what I'm doing. But I live in TX and I find that even at places I least expect to get it, I get side eyed by a lot of people. And I am covered. Hell, people even side eye me just when shes in the moby and looks like she's nursing. WTH is wrong with people. OK, sorry, rant over :-)

geekychic · July 2012

jessandandy09:
Dh was a bit odd at first and kept trying to hold up a recieving blanket in the air in my general direction so no one could see my breast while we were latching on.

I am picturing this and it is hilarious.

gisa886:
No milk no opinion.

Ha ha! Seriously!

Every time I do, I tell him all about how nobody noticed, not even people sitting on the same bench as me. I just wish he would keep me company. I can't play my phone as easily in public.

He was raised Catholic and I think it goes back to Catholic values. I keep pointing out how there is not an image of Mary that she doesn't have a boob out. And that girl was NOT discreet.

MrsGreen620 · July 2012

Early on, he was the only one that I cared how someone else felt about it - "are you sure you don't mind me not using a cover" Now he doesn't care and I do it everywhere. My mom is the one who doesn't like it. She'll hand me a blanket to cover up, and I like to remind her that she is the only one staring at DD's face, which is why she is the only one seeing anything!

tiannalee · July 2012

gisa886:
My husband doesn't care an if he did I'd tell him to quit being a wussy about it. If he tried to tell me to use a cover I'd probably go apeshit. No milk no opinion.

This, exactly.

lauranicole91 · July 2012

I currently use the one shirt up one shirt down method. But my hubby wouldn't even care if I were just to nix the double shirt and plop the girls out bare flesh. He would be quick to bark down any nay-sayers throat if they were to approach me negatively. Sooo basically he is supportive.

Torani · July 2012

DH just makes sure I am comfortable and have everything I need. I always use a cover, but Michael likes to pop off and smile at me constantly, so I would be flashing boob all over if I didn't. I don't use a cover at home unless another man besides DH is in the room, or we are in an enclosed room like the patient room at the doctor's office. He does side eye ladies that don't use a cover and are not at all discreet.

jenwet · July 2012

tiannalee:
gisa886:
My husband doesn't care an if he did I'd tell him to quit being a wussy about it. If he tried to tell me to use a cover I'd probably go apeshit. No milk no opinion.
This, exactly.

x3. I think he's eagerly awaiting a comment/side-eye from a random passerby just so he can tell them off. It's both cute and annoying at the same time.

gisa886 · July 2012

Torani:
DH just makes sure I am comfortable and have everything I need. I always use a cover, but Michael likes to pop off and smile at me constantly, so I would be flashing boob all over if I didn't. I don't use a cover at home unless another man besides DH is in the room, or we are in an enclosed room like the patient room at the doctor's office. He does side eye ladies that don't use a cover and are not at all discreet.

Then you should tell him to stop.

stacieann15 · July 2012

geekychic:
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He was raised Catholic and I think it goes back to Catholic values. I keep pointing out how there is not an image of Mary that she doesn't have a boob out. And that girl was NOT discreet.

These certainly aren't Catholic values I grew up with! As for me, I think my husband is more gung ho about NIP than I am, ha! Because of the way I have to support my breast, it's difficult to nurse without a pillow, which makes NIP a little harder.

thadsrad · July 2012

My husband hates it. I think he hates it because at home I am not remotely discreet. I just whip it out. So, he thinks that is how I am in public. Since I don't particularly care to NIP anyways, it isn't a big deal. For him, it is more about being respectful to everyone around us, not being hung up on boobs. He knows how uncomfortable some people are about NIP and doesn't want to make them uneasy. Is that ok? Maybe not. But, that is so his personality.

llizzyb · July 2012

DH is a little uncomfortable with it, but he knows he has to get over it (or at least hide his discomfort). He just thinks other people notice far more than they actually do.

AshleyDG83 · July 2012

gisa886:
No milk no opinion.

Lol, love this. MH is very supportive of it, but he doesn't like the boys to be around.

JFH2010 · July 2012

jenwet:
tiannalee:
gisa886:
My husband doesn't care an if he did I'd tell him to quit being a wussy about it. If he tried to tell me to use a cover I'd probably go apeshit. No milk no opinion.
This, exactly.
x3. I think he's eagerly awaiting a comment/side-eye from a random passerby just so he can tell them off. It's both cute and annoying at the same time.

x4. DH sees it as feeding the baby, not some inappropriate semi-sexual weird behavior. In fact, he's so casual about it that a few times he's tried to reach over and help me with positioning during a latching problem. I've had to tell him that he is not allowed to participate in NIP, so clearly he doesn't find it offensive!

MrsE05 · July 2012

DH doesn't seem to mind. He doesn't even really react at all. The way he looks at it is: I'm BFing, we are out and the baby is hungry so I'm going to feed her. Also, is it weird that I don't think he cares if someone sees by boobs? I'll have to ask but he's never given off the impression that he's worried about it. We were at a restaurant last week eating and chatting and I decided to feed the LO. He just keeps eating and talking like nothing is going on, it doesn't really phase him at all.

xproudxnerdx · July 2012

I'm naturally a little shy, so I chose to use a cover, but DH is totally supportive of NIP. When we're at restaurants, DH will cut up my food like I'm 5 so I can eat better with one hand. It's really cute.

jsillyfun · July 2012

My DH is super supportive about NIP. He encourages me to do it, even though I am the one who feels more awkward about it. We would have a big problem if he acted that way towards me.

jenbelsan · July 2012

This just happened to us this weekend! We were at a restaurant, and realized I forgot his bottle, so I said I would just nurse real quick. His reply? What, in the car? I said no, right here as we are eating dessert. He almost freaked. His ex wife used to whip it out everywhere, including hanging over the carseat while he was driving, so I think he's a little gun shy, but I am so over his shyness.

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