DW and I are talking about baby #3, and though we're 80% likely to go with AI, I want to look into adopting from another country this time around. We have an open adoption with DD, and though it's amazing and I'm happy with our arrangement, I don't think it would be the right thing for us again, for a myriad of reasons.
The only couples I know who have done international adoption are heterosexual, and I know that some countries have bans on gay adoption, and that a lot of the international orphanages are Catholic which makes gay adoption nearly impossible. We're also atheists, and that's what led us to go through with an independent adoption the first time around. When we looked at agencies many of them required you to be Christian. I live in MA where people love gay adoption and it was never an issue for us before, but our lack of religious identity were an issue for most of the agencies we went to. I even looked into it with the ACLU and apparently it's very common for secular couples who want to adopt being rejected on religious basis. It's such obvious discrimination and it's so common, but there's so little that I can do about it, other than lie about our religion but I refuse to be forced into hiding over my lack of religious persuasion.
Does anyone with IA experience have any insight? Were the agencies you went through religious organizations or secular organizations? Did they make a big deal about your religious persuasion?