Did my US tech give away the gender?

leilaninbutch · July 2012

She spent lots of time measuring and checking brain, heart, kidneys, etc. etc. At no time (that I could see, watching intently) did she go near the genitals. But finising up, a hand was moving about, and she said, "look! he's waving at us!"

I actually missed the gender comment completely, but my husband picked up on it immediately. A couple of friends mentioned that their techs warned them in advance that they may say "he or she" interchangably in the room, but to pay no attention. It was just intended as a neutral term.Ours gave us no such warning.

I'm not going to lie, my "girl" intuition is being ebbed away.

Either way, that was pretty freaking amazing.

payn0045 · July 2012

Eh, my husband was asking the same thing. But honestly, even I say "he" a lot, and we don't know the gender. I think a lot of times it's the more neutral default.

KatieKim0815 · July 2012

"He" is traditionally the more neutral. I don't think it's revealing the sex.

sarahtc17 · July 2012

I had the same A/S Yest, baby waved haha! They say dont base it on if they say he or she, I call the baby he a lot too, and we dont know, I think its just a neutral term by mistake, she said to us, she actually had to look in the area to tell and didnt go near it, hope that helps!

BrittanyDoesDerby · July 2012

My tech at both ultrasounds called her a girl before we got the shot of the "goods"

twister22 · July 2012

Maybe, maybe not. At our U/S I told the tech we didn't want to know, but asked if she knew. She said she didn't, and she wouldn't know (because she wouldn't go near) unless we wanted to know. Your tech probably just used it in neutral terms.

MeaganG11 · July 2012

I know some people feel (and/or get looked at funny) if they refer to a fetus/baby as an "it". So people typically just choose a gender article and go with it. She probably thought she might get glared at if she said, "Look! It's waving at us!"

TheEditor · July 2012

I had the SAME thing happen on Wednesday. I'm still trying to work out if it was a mistake, or if the doc revealed the gender. :-S I won't deny I brooded about it all evening.

Kaylameow1844 · July 2012

MeaganG11:
I know some people feel (and/or get looked at funny) if they refer to a fetus/baby as an "it". So people typically just choose a gender article and go with it. She probably thought she might get glared at if she said, "Look! It's waving at us!"

sschwege · July 2012

Not necessarily. Yesterday at my appointment (no u/s), my MW kept saying 'she' when referring to the baby. I have not had our a/s yet, so there is no way she could know.

I think especially since you didn't notice, it makes it seem even more unlikely that she slipped. I mean if she had said, 'he' and then covered her mouth or gasped then I would think she slipped. But if it was so causal in the conversation that you didn't even pick up on it, then I don't think she gave anything away.

itsmevkb · July 2012

Our tech uses the universal "he" the same way people would say "the baby." At our scan she told us how she's been trying to stop because one couple complained to the doctor because she said to them "Oh, he's moving around so much" and they didn't want to know the sex. The doc told them not to read into it but they left insisting the tech had given it away. What they don't know is that their little baby is a girl!

chicagobridelibby · July 2012

She didn't necesseraly tell you. He is used to reference an indefinite person. He can be a gender neutral pronoun.

schmucac · July 2012

We could clearly see that she was a girl within a few seconds of beginning the ultra sound. Even though it was completely apparent, the tech still said "he" or "his" everytime she mentioned the baby. Even though we saw the gender, it still had us second guessing until the very end when she told us that we were having a little girl. So don't let it sway you one way or another.

LittleFish1 · July 2012

Whether accurate or not, there's a 50/50 chance regardless. Would you rather the tech said "look! IT is waving as us!" (could also be the tech's brain saw how the kiddo was moving inside of you & (s)he moved like a boy (or not) and said the opposite of what the person thought to throw you off....

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