I think I am riding a *** Storm!!! (VENT)

Adele 1981 · July 2012

"We were letting whatever happen happen, and it just so happened to happen."

Heehee.

It also sounds like maybe some of the people living in this house need to move out... so far there are the parents-in-law, the siblings-in-law, and then OP and her H and child. (Anyone else I'm forgetting???) Sounds a bit too close for comfort to me!

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HubbyHelper · July 2012

ChancieMark:
HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:
HubbyHelper:
Yeah seriously. Need me to type more slowly for you?
You obviously learned how to post a gif instead of put your thoughts into a coherent post. Cute.
Actually, that's a jpg.
https://i47.tinypic.com/6911ty.jpg

Oh come on honey, if you are going to attempt to school me, at least get your formatting right.

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censoredinpajamas · July 2012

HubbyHelper:
ChancieMark:
HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:

HubbyHelper:
Yeah seriously. Need me to type more slowly for you?

You obviously learned how to post a gif instead of put your thoughts into a coherent post. Cute.

Actually, that's a jpg.

https://i47.tinypic.com/6911ty.jpg

Oh come on honey, if you are going to attempt to school me, at least get your formatting right.

Actually, I think she was trying to show you the .jpg extension since you know, it wasn't a gif and all that.

https://druls.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/ac325ef3-5beb-454d-847f-f62022361758.gif

mrsz2008 · July 2012

HubbyHelper:
ChancieMark:
HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:
HubbyHelper:
Yeah seriously. Need me to type more slowly for you?
You obviously learned how to post a gif instead of put your thoughts into a coherent post. Cute.
Actually, that's a jpg.
https://i47.tinypic.com/6911ty.jpg
Oh come on honey, if you are going to attempt to school me, at least get your formatting right.

The problem being?

HubbyHelper · July 2012

Bliss+Berry:
HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:

HubbyHelper:
Yeah seriously. Need me to type more slowly for you?

You obviously learned how to post a gif instead of put your thoughts into a coherent post. Cute.

And since you've been here so long, we can just conclude that you're a creepy AE troll. Cute.

Let me go find a gold star for you.

kellyrn9956 · July 2012

Wow. I really feel sorry for the parents that you are living with. I'd have kicked your sorry asses out yesterday. I only hope my own children don't expect to live off of me when they grow up because of their own choices to incur debt.

I'd appreciate having a roof over my head if I were you. I'd find a damn way to scrape up the money they are asking for. And if I couldn't, I'd get out and do it on my own.

But then again, I have common sense and a conscience.

And to the poster who said we're "judgy" on here - yes, I judge people who put information out like this. She opened the gate.

BankerBSN · July 2012

PrimRoseMama · July 2012

Banker&BSN:

Indifferent OMG SO CREEPY.

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veggieegarden · July 2012

$200/month for a family of 3 and you're complaining about what?

watermellens · July 2012

purplepeanut6:
watermellens:
kelleighxnicole:
Wow, people are pretty mean here.
We are mean b/c we think that two grown adults with one child and another on the way that are clearly making their own choices are throwing a fit because they're being asked to pay $200 a week to cover rent, electric, gas, food, water, sewer, internet, cable and every other living expenses?
Hmmm okay. Sounds like you think you are just as entitled as the original poster.
Watermellens- $200 a month! not even a week!

whoops! Typo - I totally meant to say month

kaleyandjason · July 2012

OP, all the things you are b*tching about are the things normal adults do! If you have so much money saved up get on your own insurance and move out. Or quit complaining about paying $200 a month to mooch off your ILs. I can't believe you don't even pay for food for your own family. You should seriously be ashamed of yourself, but you think it is funny! You are pretty much what is wrong with this country. Mooch, mooch, mooch and expect handouts.

KMAXON · July 2012

ChancieMark:
HubbyHelper:
UGH WTF is wrong with some of you? Judge much?!
All day, every day.
Any rational adult who is busting their asss trying to provide for their family is going to take issue with this girl's non-problems.

This.

Shayliz · July 2012

Bliss+Berry:
Ventura and Andrew:

If you actually read the post I made before about the insurance, it isn't that we don't have enough money to get our own insurance, it is that it is cheaper to be on my parents insurance. Again, trying to pay off the debt while we can. I wasn't going to pay the near equal amount as out of pocket to be on DH insurance, and I found another way. We have plenty of money to move out if we want, we just wanted to have some of our debt payed down before we did. That is seeming less possible now, but it doesn't mean that we shouldn't have tried it at all.

And you act like I have no idea what happens when you have your own place. I am not stupid. I was clearly stating that we do things around the house that would otherwise not get done, and they look over it. Again if they would have come to us like adults and told us the situation things would be different, but they didn't and that is part of the reason this has turned into a big deal.

So you have tons of money to get your own place, your own insurance, etc. but you'd just rather mooch of your parents and IL's and gripe about $200 a month for rent.

Awesome.

Yes

If you have plenty of money, you should be living on your own and stop putting sh!t on credit cards. If you have so much debt - no, you shouldn't have been "trying because I was told I couldn't have kids" - you should have been preventing.

Stop replying on parents to support you. Your dad provides your insurance (which was added AFTER you got pregnant - are you 100% sure they will cover your delivery?) and your MIL/FIL now provide your housing. You say you have enough money to live on your own, so you should move out or pay them the MINOR amount of $200 a month that they are asking for. Maybe they didn't come to you like adults because you are living like children.

watermellens · July 2012

Ventura and Andrew:
HAHAHAHA! You guys crack me up. FIL got a new job and was going to be gone for majority of the week so we moved it to make sure MIL didn't go crazy. She was already freaking out when he applied for the job, so we wanted to do what we could to help them out. It was also a benefit for us because we could pay off debt. You all must of skipped over the part that says We work for my MIL to pay our way. She owns a business that she runs out of her home, and is in desperate need of help. She would not be able to do all she does on her own. So we help, before we moved in we were helping her and she was paying me $10 an hour. Now we do it for free and whenever she needs help, which is daily. So it isn't like we are living here for nothing. In addition to helping her with her business daily we also do things around the house because she doesn't. She doesn't clean her own house, and I refuse to let DD play where it is filthy. DH also mows the lawn, and takes care of the new dog they got that MIL doesn't take care of either. We do more than our share here.
I should also add that DH brother and sister live here too. They are both adults and don't help out at all. In fact we end up looking after them more than his parents do. SIL nearly got into a drunk driving accident because she was making stupid decisions and didn't tell anyone where she was. Luckily I called her and she came home. BIL has asbergers and needs to be reminded to wake up in the morning for work. We do that too.
So I believe we do more than our fair share of helping everyone out around here, we pay for majority of our own groceries and all that, and now they are asking for more money even though we had an agreement. And they are trying to be sneaky about it. It would be a lot different if they came to us and told us what was going on and what they needed, but that is not the case.
And on the point of us having another child even though we have a lot of debt I would like to just say that I was told I couldn't have any more children, but I also think I am too young to get my tubes tied to really kill any chance of having kids of my own. We were letting whatever happen happen, and it just so happened to happen. You can not tell me that if you were told that you couldn't have kids that you wouldn't still try, and if you wouldn't that shows what kind of person you are. We tried and we got lucky, and I wouldn't change that for the world.
So thank you to all you lovely ladies who think I am a "sorry ass" or a "little brat", but times are hard for a lot of people and we have to make it any way that we can. And that is exactly what we are doing. I happy you all seem to get some amusement out of all of the this, but I am sure you all have amusing things in your lives as well. I find it funny that majority of you ladies find a new person to gang up on every week and get your kicks out of bullying them. So again thank you for your support, and I hope you all continue living in your perfect bubbles looking down on everyone else.

All things that you should have put in your original post. But I still think you need to grow up and realize that paying $200 a month is a steal. You should be thanking them.

And that's wonderful that you got pregnant again even though doctors told you it wasn't likely, but there's always a chance if you're having unprotected sex and "letting whatever happen, happen" so that's 100% on your shoulders. You're having the child and you need to find out how to pay for him/her even though you have a lot of debt.

kittaywhiskers · July 2012

As I'm reading through this thread, the word "ungrateful" flashes in my head in bright, bold letters. If I felt the need to move back home, or move in with my FIL, in order to pay off my debts... I don't care even if I was told it would be rent free. I don't care if I agreed to work for my stay. I would STILL contribute and pay SOME form of rent because that's what a grateful person does. Even if it was pennies, even if it was cleaning and running errands and doing chores if I didn't have the money.

Obviously not all people have this mentality, but I would definitely show them my gratitude by helping out in some way. Especially if I was moving another adult and child in along with myself.

Also, $50 is NOTHING. This is just sad.

mamasmurf12 · July 2012

I am disgusted by the over-judgmental responses on this thread. To be honest, if she shouldn't be complaining about the $200 they originally did not have to pay, then NOT ONE OF US should ever post anything about "ugh, I'm SOOO nauseous" or "I feel bloated" or "I can't LOOK at food anymore w/o puking" b/c it's a "non-problem" when you consider how many people can't get pregnant! Stop picking at the speck of sawdust in her eye, when we all have big logs in our own!!! Don't you ever vent about your problems that are seeming "non-problems" to other people? How do you think someone in South America responds to us complaining about our air-conditioners going out, or to how our pregnancy hormones make us gag on random foods when they are pregnant and starving on the street? Oh geez, I guess they should have considered their all-powerful financial plan before getting pregnant!

It doesn't sound like that $200 was for food, she said they buy their own groceries. It sounds like her in-laws lost some of their secondary income and thought "we'll fix that" and asked them to change the agreement. They have OFFERED to move out if it was a financial strain on her in-laws.

Sure, we bust our butts to make it on our own and she is being given a great opportunity to pay off their debts in order to ensure a better future for their children. And, no, she is not entitled to "free rent" (although it sounds like they agreed on a different form of rent than cash originally). But have a little perspective, people. All you know of her situation is from a 3 paragraph post that she put up there b/c she was blindsided by her in-laws request and needed somewhere to vent. Just like we need to vent about our pregnancy woes.

Sorry to rant, I just really feel these responses were totally unjust (in case you couldn't tell, lol).

kittaywhiskers · July 2012

ChancieMark:

This is probably one of the funniest gif's I've ever seen!!! Once again, I love you Chancie!!! xD

82Sonia · July 2012

mrsz2008:
mrsz2008:

You are hopeless. You're right, how DARE them want money from their adult children and grandchild for living with them??

Of COURSE it's cheaper to be on your parents insurance and of COURSE it'd be wonderful to have all the things you need in life and still be able to pay off your debts, but this is the real world. If you have so much freaking money, then move the f*ck out, get your own insurance and stop bitching.

OMG YES! This is exactly right but some people just don't get it. You are a married woman with a child. Take care of yourself.

missesru · July 2012

mamasmurf12:
I am disgusted by the over-judgmental responses on this thread. To be honest, if she shouldn't be complaining about the $200 they originally did not have to pay, then NOT ONE OF US should ever post anything about "ugh, I'm SOOO nauseous" or "I feel bloated" or "I can't LOOK at food anymore w/o puking" b/c it's a "non-problem" when you consider how many people can't get pregnant! Stop picking at the speck of sawdust in her eye, when we all have big logs in our own!!! Don't you ever vent about your problems that are seeming "non-problems" to other people? How do you think someone in South America responds to us complaining about our air-conditioners going out, or to how our pregnancy hormones make us gag on random foods when they are pregnant and starving on the street? Oh geez, I guess they should have considered their all-powerful financial plan before getting pregnant!
It doesn't sound like that $200 was for food, she said they buy their own groceries. It sounds like her in-laws lost some of their secondary income and thought "we'll fix that" and asked them to change the agreement. They have OFFERED to move out if it was a financial strain on her in-laws.
Sure, we bust our butts to make it on our own and she is being given a great opportunity to pay off their debts in order to ensure a better future for their children. And, no, she is not entitled to "free rent" (although it sounds like they agreed on a different form of rent than cash originally). But have a little perspective, people. All you know of her situation is from a 3 paragraph post that she put up there b/c she was blindsided by her in-laws request and needed somewhere to vent. Just like we need to vent about our pregnancy woes.
Sorry to rant, I just really feel these responses were totally unjust (in case you couldn't tell, lol).

*Lurking cause well, yeah...*

Dear Quoted PP..... I really am having a hard time seeing anything but "log" in your post... oh and "over judgemental". Is there a proper level of judgemental that these responses over-shot?

LnR70707 · July 2012

HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:
HubbyHelper:
Bliss+Berry:

HubbyHelper:
UGH WTF is wrong with some of you? Judge much?!

Good choice for your first post.

Says the girl who has been here a month

I don't go around telling grown women how mean they are or get all butt hurt if I get opinions I don't like.

I also had the common sense to lurk quite a bit before joining and posting here and I posted quite a bit on TK as well, so not as much as a newbie as you'd like to think.

Ive been here for awhile. Trust.

Oh honey, don't even try that. No one who would get that, would ever be a spineless little #/ with an AE. Try nice though. Holla.

southrnbellmeg7 · July 2012

kaleyandjason:
OP, all the things you are b*tching about are the things normal adults do! If you have so much money saved up get on your own insurance and move out. Or quit complaining about paying $200 a month to mooch off your ILs. I can't believe you don't even pay for food for your own family. You should seriously be ashamed of yourself, but you think it is funny! You are pretty much what is wrong with this country. Mooch, mooch, mooch and expect handouts.

Yes

dande2129 · July 2012

Ventura and Andrew:
HAHAHAHA! You guys crack me up. FIL got a new job and was going to be gone for majority of the week so we moved it to make sure MIL didn't go crazy. She was already freaking out when he applied for the job, so we wanted to do what we could to help them out. It was also a benefit for us because we could pay off debt. You all must of skipped over the part that says We work for my MIL to pay our way. She owns a business that she runs out of her home, and is in desperate need of help. She would not be able to do all she does on her own. So we help, before we moved in we were helping her and she was paying me $10 an hour. Now we do it for free and whenever she needs help, which is daily. So it isn't like we are living here for nothing. In addition to helping her with her business daily we also do things around the house because she doesn't. She doesn't clean her own house, and I refuse to let DD play where it is filthy. DH also mows the lawn, and takes care of the new dog they got that MIL doesn't take care of either. We do more than our share here.
I should also add that DH brother and sister live here too. They are both adults and don't help out at all. In fact we end up looking after them more than his parents do. SIL nearly got into a drunk driving accident because she was making stupid decisions and didn't tell anyone where she was. Luckily I called her and she came home. BIL has asbergers and needs to be reminded to wake up in the morning for work. We do that too.
So I believe we do more than our fair share of helping everyone out around here, we pay for majority of our own groceries and all that, and now they are asking for more money even though we had an agreement. And they are trying to be sneaky about it. It would be a lot different if they came to us and told us what was going on and what they needed, but that is not the case.
And on the point of us having another child even though we have a lot of debt I would like to just say that I was told I couldn't have any more children, but I also think I am too young to get my tubes tied to really kill any chance of having kids of my own. We were letting whatever happen happen, and it just so happened to happen. You can not tell me that if you were told that you couldn't have kids that you wouldn't still try, and if you wouldn't that shows what kind of person you are. We tried and we got lucky, and I wouldn't change that for the world.
So thank you to all you lovely ladies who think I am a "sorry ass" or a "little brat", but times are hard for a lot of people and we have to make it any way that we can. And that is exactly what we are doing. I happy you all seem to get some amusement out of all of the this, but I am sure you all have amusing things in your lives as well. I find it funny that majority of you ladies find a new person to gang up on every week and get your kicks out of bullying them. So again thank you for your support, and I hope you all continue living in your perfect bubbles looking down on everyone else.

::eyeroll this whole rant::

Back peddle much? YOU crack ME up. I love how in your OP you said that you moved in in order to pay off debt, came to the agreement that you work (for 'free') to her and then are pissed that you have to pay $50/week when your husband has a decent enough paying job that you couldn't get state aid anyway. But NOW.... you moved in to "keep MIL from going crazy." Riiiiight.

So.... you were told you couldn't have more children, but still tried to anyway, but the fact you were told you couldn't have more children means that....? You aren't supposed to use BC? You're supposed to TTC and then act surprised when it happens when you're living under your ILs roof?

I'm sorry you see being truthful about something that you willingly posted to a bunch of internet strangers as picking on you, then wanted to change your story.

EllaJax · July 2012

kaleyandjason:
OP, all the things you are b*tching about are the things normal adults do! If you have so much money saved up get on your own insurance and move out. Or quit complaining about paying $200 a month to mooch off your ILs. I can't believe you don't even pay for food for your own family. You should seriously be ashamed of yourself, but you think it is funny! You are pretty much what is wrong with this country. Mooch, mooch, mooch and expect handouts.

Usually a lurker, but this. Totally this.

Genie0120 · July 2012

Aaahhhhh now I remember you! The girl who was whining because your dad wouldn't move fast enough to put your married and pregnant butt back on his insurance. I hate when people take advantage - and while you think it doesn't cost any extra so why not, please understand that the rest of the people who are working in your dads company are getting increased rate premiums for their insurance because of you. Do you really think insurance is free? Aaaahhh no. Your claims are now factored in to their premiums - so you should be thanking all the other employees for your "free" insurance. You are such a gem.Ummm yeah so if you are old enough to get married and be pregnant, you are old enough to figure out your own insurance.

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sararn2004 · July 2012

mamasmurf12:

I am disgusted by the over-judgmental responses on this thread. To be honest, if she shouldn't be complaining about the $200 they originally did not have to pay, then NOT ONE OF US should ever post anything about "ugh, I'm SOOO nauseous" or "I feel bloated" or "I can't LOOK at food anymore w/o puking" b/c it's a "non-problem" when you consider how many people can't get pregnant! Stop picking at the speck of sawdust in her eye, when we all have big logs in our own!!! Don't you ever vent about your problems that are seeming "non-problems" to other people? How do you think someone in South America responds to us complaining about our air-conditioners going out, or to how our pregnancy hormones make us gag on random foods when they are pregnant and starving on the street? Oh geez, I guess they should have considered their all-powerful financial plan before getting pregnant!

It doesn't sound like that $200 was for food, she said they buy their own groceries. It sounds like her in-laws lost some of their secondary income and thought "we'll fix that" and asked them to change the agreement. They have OFFERED to move out if it was a financial strain on her in-laws.

Sure, we bust our butts to make it on our own and she is being given a great opportunity to pay off their debts in order to ensure a better future for their children. And, no, she is not entitled to "free rent" (although it sounds like they agreed on a different form of rent than cash originally). But have a little perspective, people. All you know of her situation is from a 3 paragraph post that she put up there b/c she was blindsided by her in-laws request and needed somewhere to vent. Just like we need to vent about our pregnancy woes.

Sorry to rant, I just really feel these responses were totally unjust (in case you couldn't tell, lol).

I like your post. Good points.

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