ATP/TTC/PCP wednesday

madisonpeas · July 2012

How is it going?

QOTD: I'll keep it simple. What is your biggest fear about parenting? (or as you anticipate parenting)

ball.and.chain · July 2012

TTC: Had my first Clomid monitoring on Monday morning. I had 3 13mm follicles on the right side and 1 14mm follicle on the left; lining was good. I am a little unsure of where this is going. I have another ultrasound tomorrow so we will know more then; by that point my follicles should be more mature and we will know how many of the 4 really made it that far. I am kind of scared that they will all mature and we will have to cancel the cycle; I have no personal experience with this but 4 mature follies seems like a lot. I am also worried that they won't be big enough tomorrow and I will have to do the IUI Monday which is a problem because we are supposed to be leaving for vacation on Sunday (we're driving so we can delay a day or two if we have to, but we REALLY need this vacation right now and I just want to go). Or that I'll be surging tomorrow and will IUI Friday but won't get the full benefit of the trigger. I'm hoping for no surge tomorrow but 1 or 2 perfect follicles, trigger tomorrow night, IUI Saturday morning. Too much to ask? Probably.

QOTD: Is "I won't be good at it" too general? I would say that's my biggest fear!

EratMama · July 2012

ATP: Pretty good. Carrot's tantrums are settling--although, I think the reality of missing her previous foster mom (she lived there 2 1/2 years) is sinking in. We call her/visit/send letters, but I know it's hard. L and I parent pretty differently from an older African American woman from the projects so it's like a new culture to adjust to. Yesterday, I asked her to do something simple, and she broke down crying, "I am trying my best." Poor thing.

Pumpkin is more active--more "pre-crawling skills" and sounds. He gives high fives and is going to wave bye-bye soon.

Zucchini is feeling more comfortable. She's been making comments about her future here. Like, "Is this the car you are going to teach me to drive in?" "When I go to high school/college we can buy..." Her mood is very tied to biomom's. Biomom has been doing well, so she's been calmer. I don't think that will last.

Fear: Oh, yeah, easy. Just that all my baggage will screw up their issues further.

Two*True · July 2012

madisonpeas:

QOTD: I'll keep it simple. What is your biggest fear about parenting? (or as you anticipate parenting)

The only fears I can think of all involve something happening to DD. I fear her being kidnapped, killed, having an accident, etc. I don't think I will survive if anything ever happens to her. That's my only parenting related fear. The rest of it is all small stuff in comparison.

2moms2b · July 2012

How's it going? Well I am so excited to be nearing the end of the first tri. I am grateful for these LO's but I am tired of feeling constantly hung over. I guess that is the best way to discribe it. Oh and I feel officially huge. I have gained 15lbs already. My dr. said that is totally normal with my starting weight.

QOTD: I think I am most terrified of my patience. I have patience but I tend to get a little snippy when tired or I have already asked several times. I am a huge advocate about not yelling at children and using age appropriate punishment. I think I am just nervous with two of them that will be tested further. I will also agree with Two that my absolutely biggest fear is something will happen to them. I have stopped watching the news because of this.

hlke · July 2012

TTC: We're still in the TWW. C has declared it a BFN, mostly because I think she wanted to process her feelings before she left for this work trip, but I'm not sure a negative pregnancy test on 11 DPO is definitive. We'll know soon enough.

QOTD: Oh my goodness, I have a list. But I think the biggest is the patience/being able to keep my cool fear. I'm really good with kids and being rational and not letting them push my buttons in general, but I worry it will be different when they are my own kids, 24/7. That's my other major fear - the 24/7 nature of parenting, and if I'll be able to handle it.

leapgirl8 · July 2012

ATP: Had myself a little breakdown last night, complete with crying and informing Jen that "the dogs are mean and the babies are mean and I only like you." She offered to let me go sleep at my parents' to get a break, but I could never leave her alone all night at this age. I think I just needed to cry and admit that I still get overwhelmed sometimes, and to remember that it's OK to think that this is hard. I feel much much better this morning and of course I like everybody again

QOTD: Biggest fear is that I'll have @sshole/criminal/useless adult children and have to spend the rest of my life wondering how I screwed them up.

Kershnic · July 2012

2ww-ing. Not feeling too optimistic for it, but I guess we'll see. We have an appointment on Friday to talk next steps.

QOTD: I guess a lot of things... not having enough time (we both intend to work and this scares me) and not doing well on limited sleep both are high on the list.

mypalbabs · July 2012

2WW. Still waiting on the official declaration of ovulation (from fertility friend) but the timing feels good. We'll be on vacation for either the BFP or meg's period. Thinking about the mechanics of POAS in a porta-john. (I don't generally advocate peeing out in nature when a lot of people are camped in close proximity during a drought season, but I think I'll grant an exception in this case!)

What do I fear? Honestly, the crying. Inconsolable crying can be triggering for me. We have a CD of babies crying and fussing (to acclimate the dogs when the time comes). Think I'll have to use it for me, too.

2mommiesinoh · July 2012

ATP: Ky is fantastic. She is talking up a storm and is using more full sentences now rather than just singl words. The biting has stopped for now thank goodness.

Yesterday about had me in tears though. Ann came to get her and she was so excited to see dada she went running to her. I buckled her in and asked for a kiss but she was all about talking to dada and did not even tell me bye or love you like she normally does. I know she does not mean it, she is only 2 but it is hard enough handing her over and knowing I am not going to see her for 24 hours. I am sure it will get easier but oh how I want to snuggle her in my arms.

QOTD: I have two that really are equally bad. 1) Something will happen to Ky and I wil lose her. I still check on her a million times through out the night/day. 2) That she will end up a terrible person because I have went wrong somewhere in raising her. I do not just mean a criminal/loser either. I mean what if she ends up on the opposite spectrum and is a spoiled brat who thinks the world should be handed to her and does not care about people/issues or anything but herself.

madisonpeas · July 2012

ATP: E is one. And moving, hugging, kissing, babbling, and....awesome.

QOTD: (note to self: don't read the fears of others - it adds to your own. oh and maybe don't pick the QOTD if you can't pick something happier) My first fear is like Erat Mama - that my junk will not be resolved enough and he will pick up on it. My second is how to navigate some family issues and not have them affect him.

2moms2twins · July 2012

We have one year olds... and apparently they got that MEMO .. because its all about doing it themselves REALLY at one ...C'mon ... we have also walked in to the copy cat and tantrum stage ... AT ONE i ask my self .. If L does not get what she wants she throws the biggest Sh** fit and literally bright red bears down and often times poops... WHAT ????? I just ignore it ... ( anyone have suggestions) they are really not in to sharing at all and we have 2 of somethings but not everything - but other than that they are movers and shakers walking all over S gets super shy and will not walk if we are prompting her or watching her

QOTD: That I will do it all wrong ... ALL OF IT

LV1979 · July 2012

TTC/PCP- Everything is on hold for now. DW has set a weightloss goal that exceeds REs requirements so I am letting her run with it. We are hoping to start trying again next summer potentially with frozen sperm from a known donor. We are hating the waiting but with school and work and everything else it is just not the right time.

2brides · July 2012

ATP:We are having a really good week. Their behavior has been really good and they are so excited about their new beds coming this weekend (which means we need to put said beds together.) They have been tired at bedtime so no drawn out talking/procrastinating and getting to sleep at a decent hour. Gray has had a runny nose for a week and this morning he said his throat hurt. Fingers crossed it is just post natal drip from this cold heading on the way out.

I worry about stupid stuff. :P I worry that they aren't fully reading yet (nevermind that they are pretty much reading where they should be.) I worry that Carter has ADHD because he can't sit still (though I think it is still within normal ranges for a 6y old boy.) And then the not dumb stuff which I more think about than worry about - my lack of patience will have a negative effect on them.That we are so busy with life: work, commuting, etc that we aren't really focusing enough on them. They will be spoiled rotten.

ctbride08 · July 2012

Update: everyone is good. which is good, but makes for a boring update :P

QOTD: 1) i'm afraid they will have food issues/struggle with their weight like I have 2) I'm afraid we wont be the close-knit family I hope for and/or they wont be close siblings 3) teen pregancy/drug use/mental health issues/dropping out of school/criminal activity and all the other things that plague their family of origin.

Mystjava · July 2012

ATP: Little Bear has been tripping and brusing his knees. As I stated yesterday, he has begun to push certain buttons. It's funny how one of the pp has said, it is one of my fears - i get snippy and grouchy at evening time, so it is a challenge - just need to remember my newest mantra - deep breaths and relax - take a moment when you need it.

TTC : wondering if it will happen for number 2 or not - been monitoring my cm and other possible 'ovulations cues' without using prediction kits - which dont work for me. (want to try again in september/october)

QFTD: as i statted above already and i echo T*T's comment along with Etra's as well. However, as I watch Little Bear, I know he's going to be great regardless! I'm a good mom!

ssg73 · July 2012

Ella is three. She is doing a little better with the throwing and hitting when she doesn't get her way but it still is a constant battle. She has a temper. Ugh. She is still working on potty training. Pee is good but pooping is still a struggle. She is either having accidents or pooping in her pull up at night. We have 5 weeks to get this together. Fingers crossed. I think we will do it but ugh I hate potty training a strong willed independent child. Other that that she is doing great. We are going to tackle getting rid of the binky and possible going in a toddler bed in the next few weeks. We shall see. I can't decide if it is brilliant or insane to do both at the same time. I mean if her sleep is going to go to crap is it better to do that all at once in one craptastic sleep re training fiasco??

Fear- I used to fear that she would die all the time. I slept with her in the room with my hand on her chest for about 6 months with her in the pack n play when she came home from the nicu. I am constantly freaking out that something bad is going to happen to her. Although I am getting much better at that. I am afraid of longer lasting effects of her prematurity (learning disabilities and add/h) coming up in elementary school. I worry that kids will be mean to her at school

Oh and I just started my anti-anxiety meds again...probably a good idea huh!

EratMama · July 2012

I wanted to add a fear. Because it's 11pm and that's what I am thinking about.

As I think about going back to work, and our talks about taking time for ourselves.... I worry that the sacrifices I make now won't feel "worth it" if the kids grow up and aren't close to me.

My parents, but especially my mom, sacrificed a lot to give us a good start. She stayed home for 4 years, didn't go out a lot with friends, etc. She would say it was completely worth it--as adults--my brother and I both live close by, see each other & talk on the phone frequently. One of my mom's best friends is my gram, and my mom and I are friends now.

Maybe it's selfish--because I want to do whatever I can to give my kids the most options in life. But, I need to think about myself, too.

ctbride08 · July 2012

ssg73:

We are going to tackle getting rid of the binky and possible going in a toddler bed in the next few weeks. We shall see. I can't decide if it is brilliant or insane to do both at the same time. I mean if her sleep is going to go to crap is it better to do that all at once in one craptastic sleep re training fiasco??

i think its definitely a good idea to do it at once! You can just do the whole, "cribs and binkies are for babies and now you are a big girl!" thing. good luck!

hlke · July 2012

ctbride08:
ssg73:

We are going to tackle getting rid of the binky and possible going in a toddler bed in the next few weeks. We shall see. I can't decide if it is brilliant or insane to do both at the same time. I mean if her sleep is going to go to crap is it better to do that all at once in one craptastic sleep re training fiasco??

i think its definitely a good idea to do it at once! You can just do the whole, "cribs and binkies are for babies and now you are a big girl!" thing. good luck!

My sister had luck with doing both the transition to the toddler bed and the transition to not having someone there until she was asleep at the same time, and it worked out for similar reasons CT stated. My sister also recommends "The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers" if you run into bedtime battles - her daughter put up a good fight!

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