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I have another nephew

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My brother and SIL had a baby boy this morning. I know I should be happy for them but I am insanely jealous. I am having a pity party today and I should just stop. I wanted desperately to have a beautiful healthy baby like everyone else. My son is beautiful, but not so much on the healthy side. I feel like I got the last 3 weeks of my pregnancy robbed from me. I loved being pregnant. My SIL complained and wanted to have the baby last week. She has no idea how mad it makes me when people say they want to have their baby early. The poor thing needs to grow. It's in there for a reason! I wouldn't wish an unhealthy baby on anyone, but she has no clue what it's like. I love my son more than anything in this world and I don't want to feel this way. I want to be happy for them, I want to be happy in general. Sorry, just needed to vent, one of those days... I see more wine in my future.
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  • lckcdc3lckcdc3 member
    I'm sorry hun. I can't say I know how you feel but I definitely understand where you are coming from. I can't imagine everything you have been through. You're a strong woman! We're always here for you. Congrats on your nephew though!

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  • Happily OverwhelmedHappily Overwhelmed member

    I'm really sorry you feel this way. I think it just points out to some of us how fortune we are to have healthy babies and how we take advantage of that. I had a horrible 41 + week pregnancy but easily would have went longer if DS needed to be in there longer. I think it's sometimes hard for people to remember to "put yourself in others shoes". I'm sure your SIL doesn't mean to offend you---she probably doesn't know she's doing it at all. It just plain isn't fair. I hope things look much brighter for your son soon. He's got a great mama to lean on!

    Congrats on being an aunt! 

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  • emilyerin13emilyerin13
    Sending you a hug!  Although both of my children were born healthy, DD was colicky and it really hit me hard.  I saw all of these other new mamas with happy, sleep-loving babes and here I was in no-sleep-cry-all-the-time hell.  I know from your posts that your LO has had some challenges but also know that your love has not waivered.  Please know that I'm not comparing colic to your LO's medical issues.  A friend told me that when LO's have challenges that it brings us as mamas even closer to them and I try to remind myself of this when I'm feeling down about things. 
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  • jokesonyoujokesonyou

    It's not a pity party, it's the reality that you and your little guy have a whole lot more to deal with on a daily basis than most people. I can't imagine not feeling jealous (and maybe even bitter at the compaints) if I were in your situation. You are very strong and brave. Enjoy your wine!

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    Thanks for letting me vent guys. I feel so much better. I stay at home and I think I'm lacking adult interaction badly. The glass of wine sure helped though!
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