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scared of anoother loss

SQuaidSQuaid
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I am back again... This will be my fourth pregancy in the past 12 months only 1 ended in a D & C, the rest were very early.  Now I am just over 7 weeks and I finally called my doctor, usually I don't wait this long.  I am just so scared that this one is going to end too.  I am constantly in fear.  I am trying not to get too attached as I don't think I can handle another loss.  Does anyone else feel this way?
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  • Ladiebug710Ladiebug710 member
    Big hug and welcome!  I am sorry to hear about your previous losses.  You are in the right place, we totally understand the uncertainty.  Congrats on your pregnancy, hopefully they will get you in for an ultrasound soon, and then hopefully you can begin to relax and enjoy the process of bonding with you LO.

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  • MrsRidge2005MrsRidge2005
    I'm sorry that you're feeling this way and you've had to go through so many losses.  I've felt this way a lot, especially very early on.  I wouldn't test early and was afraid to go to the doctors and get bad news as well.  Unfortunately if you have had losses in the past it's basically impossible not to worry.  It does sound like things are going better with this one so hang in there and try to be positive.  Maybe if you take it day by day it will help.  I would also talk to your doctor about how you're feeling and they can maybe give you some extra looks at the baby to ease your mind.  Good luck to you!
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  • pamiva1pamiva1 member
    Congrats. I think it's totally normal to feel this way. I know I did. Just try to relax and take each day as it comes. Fingers crossed everything goes perfectly with this pregnancy.
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  • luvinlifeMNluvinlifeMN member

    First off, congratulations!  Secondly, what you are feeling is 100% normal.  I did not let myself get very attached until probably 18-20 weeks.  I would dread each and every doctor appointment just feeling like something was going to be wrong (I had a missed m/c that was found at a routine OB appointment at 12 weeks).  I wrote weekly letters to my first baby and still haven't written one to this baby - I kept my heart very guarded. 

    Ultimately though, guarding your heart will not prevent a loss from happening or from the grief that occurs with a loss.  Try to remain present in TODAY as hard as that can be.  Remain thankful that today you are pregnant and remind yourself that you cannot control what tomorrow may bring so enjoying this day is what is important. 

    I hope this baby is your take-home baby. 

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    BFP#1 8/24/11, EDD 5/5/12, D&C 10/24/11 due to missed m/c

    BFP #2 2/1/12, EDD 10/11/12.  Baby arrived 10/9/12

    BFP #3 5/6/14, EDD 1/14/15

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