The Baby Whisperer pick up put down method HELP!

Thinkerbelle80 · July 2012

My daughter is six months old. I tried Pick up Put down last night for the first time. She went to sleep with no problems at 8:45 at night and I made sure she was slightly awake when placing her down because she rolled over and adjusted herself. I did a dream feed at 11:30 and she went back down from that ok and rolled over and adjusted herself. But, she woke up five minutes after going down at midnight. She was fussy and wanted me to nurse her back to sleep. So, I tried shushing and patting on and off for two hours as her cries got progressively worse. Then she got really upset so I picked her up around 2 AM. Then she was full on screaming like a banshee from 2 - 3 AM. I had loud white noise playing and tried singing to her and patting and walking around with her. I sat down with her on my lap and just held her for a while till she finally calmed down and started to get drowsy again. Then when I placed her in the crib, she started screaming like crazy again. At that point, I was soo tired and upset, I tried to pat and shoosh but I was really really upset so I backed off and went to my bed and I was screaming into the pillow and pounding the pillow. While I was taking five minutes to pound the bed and get my frustrations out, her crying escalated into a high pitched frenzy then she passed out from exhaustion. So after all of that, I let her cry it out anyway. I feel so defeated. If I had just picked her up and let her nurse back to sleep, she would have taken maybe thirty minutes to an hour. But, that hasn't been working for me either because she keeps waking up soo much. What can I do?

lcourter24 · July 2012

I think PU/PD works for lots of babies but not for mine. He seems to get more worked up if I'm in the room, same thing with the progressive check ins. He's better left alone. I've even tried going in and shh/patting while he's in the crib but he again gets so upset if he see's me. I'm not sure if you are completely against CIO but she might do better than you think. If it's not for you I completely understand and I would just say what ever you do be consistent that really is the most important thing I think. GL! Sending sleepy vibes your way!!!

Thinkerbelle80 · July 2012

I tried the progressive waiting crying it out with the Sleepeasy method but I stopped after two days because I didn't feel it was working. The book says to get them up after an hour of crying at naps and try again an hour later. So, she would cry the entire hour and I'd get her up and try again an hour later. She'd go a whole day without naps and then fall asleep in a highchair or wherever she was for a catnap at 6:30 to 7. At night, the CIO worked OK but then she still woke up in the middle of the night even when I did a dream feed. It didn't matter. And she cried for over two hours in the middle of the night so I gave up at that point. I also felt horrible and disgusting about it. I felt like I was torturing my child and like she thought I didn't love her anymore. It was a terrible experience. When I read things from people who said it worked they all say things like... Oh my child cried for an hour, it was so awful. BLah blah. If my child only cried for an hour, I'd be grateful. But, it was hours and hours.

namara5532 · July 2012

CIO may just not be the right method for your LO. It sounds like she's stubbornly refusing it. You may need to do something else for now, such as rocking to sleep. You could also try putting a burp cloth or shirt with your scent on it. My DS snuggles with a burpcloth we used during breastfeeding.

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