First, let say thank you for all of your thoughts, prayers, and encouragement. We are no where near out of the woods. I also must say that the doctor and the team at West Penn are FANTASTIC. They were straight forward, sympathetic, and honestly some of the nicest docs that I've worked with so far. They also had wonderful things to say about my OB's, and my RE's. So, they were great...
Now onto the not-so-good news. First we went over all genetics and they did a pedigree chart for DH and I. She noted that she saw nothing in our immediate family to cause concern and that our cystic fibrosis test was also found to be negative. I brought along with me all of our test results from our RE, which included karyotyping and recurrent pregnancy loss tests. All of our previous genetic testing have all come back normal.
We went over the probability of downs syndrome and trismony 18. Which are very scary, but I agreed that we would be tested if the doctor felt that we needed it.
Once we started the ultrasound, the doc. was concerned. She stated that the babies head is in a figure 8 shape, it starts out wide, comes in again and then goes out again. This looks as though the brain is not forming inside the skull. The stomach is also protruding, where the umbilical cord would be forming, leading the doc to believe that some intestines or other body parts maybe forming outside the baby. She discussed with us that it is still early in our pregnancy and this could change, but that she is very concerned and had it not take us 4 years to get to this point, she would be having a different discussion with us.
So, we will go back in two weeks to see what the baby looks like and will take it from there. She discussed with us, quality of life, and the probability of the baby not making it full term because of complications. We will need to make a decision in two weeks if thins are still the same about termination or the risks involved. We will also need to discuss the probability of this occurring again.
Doc explained that this is called a neural tubal defect and occurs during weeks 2-4 when the spinal column and brain is being formed. There is nothing we can do to change the outcome or what happened. DH and I are discussing if this will be the end and we will actually continue along with our adoption process and actually go back to using birth control. I just don't think I can take one more loss.
Re: update from u/s today....
I'm tryin to hold on what hope I have, but the doc. is very concerned and told me to make sure my husband comes to our next appt. and that we are prepared to discuss qualify of life for the baby.
lovelylittleworld
BFP#2 1/12/12 ~ Missed M/C 8w2d
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
TTC#1 starting Feb 2011, BFP #1:5/31/11, CP: 6/6/11; BFP #2: 7/9/11, loss confirmed 8/3 with D&C on 8/12 finding complete molar pregnancy. Forced break until Feb 2012. My blog
Sending many many T&Ps your way. I've had that discussion before (although I haven't had nearly the losses you have), its such a tough conversation to have to live through. I'm so so so sorry
Its the hardest thing in the world to hear that there may be something wrong with your LO. My heart goes out to you momma... 
Mom to 4 wonderful children: T(8), B(6) ,M(3), and A(1)
I will be keeping you and your little one in my thoughts and prayers.
xxx
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
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