Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
dette7820
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Re: C Section 6 days ago.. with some questions!
Congrats!
I had steristrips on my incision and would use the blowdryer on low/warm after showering to dry it. I didn't do anything else during the day besides try to keep my underwear/pants from rubbing.
As far as walking - you should be up and moving. However, I went on real walks at 3w PP with DS's stroller. I did 2 30min walks one day and then a 50 min walk the next morning. After the 50 min walk, I realized that my incision had come open in 2 places, So don't do that. It's been too hot and humid here to go walking since then.
Sorry - didn't have the runs
but stay hydrated!
1- How are all of you making sure to keep your incision sweat free? I have the belly hang that goes over it, so I am trying to pat it dry w/ every trip to the bathroom and to also use some gauze in between.. the body hang helps the gauze stay put.. should I be doing something else?
I didn't do anything above and beyond drying it when I took a shower everyday. It's not so much keeping it dry as keeping it clean.
2- At what point is it safe to try to go for a walk w/ my little one and a stroller? Our stroller is heavier.. but easy to push.. thoughts?
I wouldn't start walking until I've had my incision checked by my doctor. There are so many things you do on the daily that involve your core. Pushing a stroller is definitely one of them. Ensure that you're healed up nicely and then listen to your body.
3- Virtually pain free, just a couple motrin a couple times a day.. otherwise I am doing really well.
Good for you!! I was surprised at how quickly I was able to taper off the meds.
4- oh and I suddenly have the runs.. SORRY TMI.. anyone else? Is it my body cleaning out all the drugs?
I don't know. Typically those drugs have the OPPOSITE affect on your ability to defecate.
Any other tips?
TAKE.IT.EASY. There is no need to rush into anything. 6 weeks is NOT THAT LONG. In a blink of an eye, you'll be celebrating baby's 1st birthday. You won't even remember those first 6 weeks when you sat on your ass and did nothing. This is not the time to push yourself.
Keep hydrated. It's hot out!!
This. Also, depending on what your Dr. suggests, I don't know if I'd be doing the gauze over the incision... I always just made sure mine was clean (they used derma bond on mine, so I could get it wet in the shower with no issues) and then I would pat it dry (thoroughly) afterwards.
Like other people said, don't push it... it's good to be up and around, but the last thing you need is some issue with the incision because you tried to do too much. Good luck!
Are you still taking stool softener?
Baby and I were released from the hospital when he was a week old, I was given a presciption and told to continue taking colace, the stool softener I was on, for at least two more weeks. I didn't even make it a week before I ended up with the runs and noticed ds was also being affected by the stool softener. Because I ended up with the opposite of what the meds were being prescribed for I quit taking them then.