So on Friday, I'm supposed to return the little sheet of paper about which voluntary tests I would like. My doc already said that she discourages the amnio, but I'm just not sure about the other ones:
There is counsyl (which does cyctic, fragile x, tay-sachs, sickle cell, etc.)
There is first tri screening (downs)
what did you guys do?
Re: how did you decide which tests to get?
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I've had the genetic counselling done a few years ago when my now DH and I got engaged (I happened to be having a yearly physical at around that time and requested the Ashkenazi panel to rule out tay-sachs and other commons genetic diseases for people of Jewish descent - DH also did the screening so we're good to go on that one).
I'll be doing the 1st tri screening (not amnio, just the screening to see the probability, my doctor also discourages amnio).
My super all about me birth story:
Then: Fraternal twins born at 26 weeks in 1983. Me: 640 grams. Brother: 840 grams. Family kept watch in the NICU for 5 months before being allowed to go home. On oxygen for a year and a half after being released.
Now: Me: PhD student and married. Brother: Lawyer and married.
Dad's wedding speech: Thank you to all the family who stood watch and prayed for our children's survival. Well now the little scrawny chicken is married. Who would've thought? (Thanks dad for making me laugh and cry at the same time).
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Last time and this time I'm going with the NT scan which includes a blood test and ultrasound to check for the trisomies and heart abnormalities. They can also spot other physical issues as one of my friends sadly discovered recently.
I'm the kind of person who needs time to process and deal with things so if, heaven forbid, there were something wrong with my baby that could be picked up at the NT scan, I want to know then, rather than finding out at 22 weeks when my A/S will be.
It doesn't just test for downs. It tests for Trisomy 18 and 13 which are almost always fatal and may mean that the baby may not even survive until birth. It's not always as simple as "loving your baby either way" when you find out that your baby likely won't survive past a few days and almost definitely won't survive the first year. Sorry to be snappy, but it's a pet peeve of mine when people act like the NT scan is just to find out if your baby will have downs and "it doesn't matter" because you'll love them no matter what. That's an oversimplification and I think it makes people feel like they should feel guilty for wanting more information about their child.
It also can catch major deformities that could mean a need for surgery or delivery in a special hospital, which are also things that many parents would want to know early so that they can plan accordingly. A good friend of mine right now is going through the stress of realizing that her baby will need many surgeries after birth. She learned this at an early ultrasound like the NT scan. It would have been even harder for her (I believe) to have been blindsided at 20 weeks with this.
If my baby weren't going to survive to come home from the hospital or would need intense medical intervention after birth, I would want to know that as early as possible, and that doesn't mean I'd love my child any less.
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If I can hold my baby for an hour, it's worth it to me!! And my sister who lost her baby three days overdue and had to deliver her head child would give anything for one second of seeing Addison alive....regardless of if it was short or she had problems....so save your soapbox for someone else!!!!
Agree completely. I have a friend who found out at her NT scan that her baby had a form of trisomy that would mean the baby's head would not fully develop. The baby had no chance of survival. So much better that she find that out at 12 weeks than have a shower, decorate a nursery, and get excited about being a new mom. I wouldn't terminate my pregnancy if my baby had Down's, but I wouldn't put myself through nine months of pregnancy for a baby who would only live for a few hours, if at all. It's a personal choice, but I'm so glad it's a choice I'll be able to make on an educated basis. Thanks, modern science!
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Thank you for posting this!
I agree. I've known a couple of ppl who had babies with abnormalities incompatible with life. One woman delivered a baby with anacephely, that was her son, a part of the family, she held him for the day and a half he lived. A nurse I work with had his baby die from a known heart defect after 9 days. Those days were precious for them. I'm more inclined to not do that many tests except to know to prepare. I am definitely higher risk too since I am 35 and I received methotrexate(for my previous ectopic pregnancy) less than the recommended 3 months or greater before conception. I really hope for a healthy little one, but whatever God gives us we will trust him.
Um, I didn't say anything about NOT seeing your baby. I said I would want to know early so I could prepare myself. No one should feel guilty about wanting more information. That's my point.
We are doing anything that's non-invasive, so ultrasound and blood work. If something comes back, we'll cross that bridge when we get there, but I would like to avoid an amnio due to the increased risk of miscarriage. I considered not doing the screening at all, but my last missed miscarriage turned out to be due to Down Syndrome (only 30% of babies with Down Syndrome are born alive -- the rest are miscarriages or stillbirths) so now we're at an increased risk of another chromosome abnormality, and we would like to know if we need to prepare for another loss or a child with special needs.
Not to scare anybody, but a lot of people think Down Syndrome is no big deal, but some of the associated conditions can be fatal, like ours was.
Congrats to both my TTC buddies, Amberley18 and sb2006 on their beautiful babies!
ditto
DS1: Quinn - 10.22.10 and DS2: Cole - 01.18.13
What if your baby is suffering in the womb for months, don't you think it would be selfish to make the baby suffer for months so you could hold it for a few minutes?
A friend of mine had this done, i cant remember what its called though..
This.
I will be having the NT scan, and then any subsequent tests that the doctor recommends based on those results. My husband has a family history of DS (his uncle only lived a few very painful months), so my doctor recommended that we do the NT scan in order to have as much information as possible.
I have never seen this said on TB, so I may just be asking to get flamed by being honest, but we would terminate under certain circumstances. It's a highly personal and controversial decision - please know that it is not one that we would ever make lightly.
I applaude you for saying this! No flames here with having a DS already for us I think it is something we would have to consider under certain circumstances also.