Are we expecting too much when deicing on a name?

[Deleted User] · July 2012

My DH and I are having a boy and we have tons of names that we really love. However, none of them seem ?right? or like ?the one?. We keep thinking that we will just ?know?. We are thinking maybe none of the names seem right because it is still so surreal that we are even naming our child.

Either that or we are over thinking this waaaaaay to much.

Thoughts?

Ladiebug710 · July 2012

I kept hoping we would just know, but it has yet to happen! I'm more of the just pick a name you like, but the meaning of names is really important to DH. ...and this is why we are nameless at 35 weeks.

aascaha · July 2012

I feel like that might be my problem, i like a ton of names love some, but i cant decided on anything, and i feel like even though im getting huge, and ive heard the heart beat and ive seen the ultrasound photos, it doesnt seem real that one day im going to have a tiny little person thats all my own

mummalove · July 2012

If you don't "just know" than I would take the top 3 names and pick one at a time to use for the day. Say it aloud throughout the day...picture saying it to that infant in your arms, the toddler running wild in your house, and as it's read aloud for graduation. And of course, yell it as you're mad.

I feel like this makes you turn off to a name you like rather quickly, and helps the other names start to grow on you.

TheWop · July 2012

That's exactly how the H and I felt. There were 3 names on our list that we loved, but had a hard time deciding which one to use. We went back and forth for months. None of them were more "right" than the other. DD was nameless for a full 24 hours, and we decided on the name with the most family significance. I was even unsure for a few weeks after we put her name on paper, but now she's totally a Renee. I guess this was a case where she grew into her name.

PunkyBooster · July 2012

Pick out a few and keep a list handy. As you grow and feel your baby more and more, one will start to stick out.

mummalove · July 2012

OR (I've never done this, but might with my next) Have your top 3 names and name the baby when you see it.

misspunky · July 2012

If you don't like a name, you don't like it. Don't get caught up in trying to envision your baby with that name, just narrow it down to names that you like, and then keep narrowing down that list. GL!

MissHoppy · July 2012

I find it helps if you try to randomly stick to one for a day or so to "try it out." And try to imagine how all of your names would look on a holiday card, or introducing a child (at varying ages) by a particular name, etc...

ericalee27 · July 2012

Ladiebug710:
I kept hoping we would just know, but it has yet to happen! I'm more of the just pick a name you like, but the meaning of names is really important to DH. ...and this is why we are nameless at 35 weeks.

Ditto, except we're not at 35 weeks (although I predict we will be at this same point at 35 weeks!) We're only 9 weeks in and I'm so frustrated already...sigh

skio · July 2012

Yeah, we could never pick one for DD, and I do think it had something to do with the whole idea of naming a child that we didn't know yet being so surreal. I just couldn't do it.

We had it narrowed down to two names and picked one after we met her.

3litttlebirds · July 2012

Naming a baby is tough! Me and DH went through a few names that we liked (DH doesn't like many, so was a small list) 2 names at a time, picking which we preferred, and narrowing the names down that way. Eventually we got down to 2 names we both really liked. We thought we had the FN / MN order set....but took a few days to "try out" each of those names...and it ended up we liked calling the baby by the name initially chosen as the MN. Fortunately, the order sounded fine switched, so we did that. I definitely recommend trying to narrow your list down to just a few and trying each name out for a few days and seeing if one sticks more than another. Good luck!

melody921 · July 2012

I'm with you. You should love the name and feel it's the right one. We went through a few names for DD that were pretty but just never felt right until we got to our final choice.

jupiterthecat · July 2012

If you are waiting for the skies to part, heavenly light spilling down from above and angel choir singing melodiously, at the thought of a name, then maybe you have set the bar too high.

Some people are overcome with a feeling of "this is right" when they pick a name. Others just aren't the type to be that decisive and emotional, and that's cool.

Just pick one that you really like, and after the birth, your love for the baby will fuse with your feels toward the name and it will become the right name.

dangerkitty102 · July 2012

Just adding that I'm in the same boat at 33 weeks. We are team green and I feel pretty confident about the girls name. It feels "right".

We have 8 boy names that are all good contenders. They are all perfectly good names but none that I absolutely LOVE. We'll probably take that list to the hospital and just decide when we meet him. If it's a him.

this decaf life · July 2012

I'm absolutely "expecting too much" and the only girl name I'm willing to commit to DH vetoed [which is probably why I'm so willing to commit]

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