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Leaving my shower early for a football game!?!?!?!
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So I was just informed by my best friend that she will be leaving my shower early due to wanting to watch a foot ball game. I really really want to side eye this, but is that stupid on my part? WWYD?
ETA: For first time readers as this seems to have sparked a nice debate. The game is an NFL game. Packers and 49ers. She will be watching it from home with just her husband. We do not know how much of the shower she will miss. It starts at 1:00pm. The game starts at 3:30pm and she lives about an hour away. She just said she would have to leave early. She is not planning it but is my best friend.This discussion has been closed.
Re: Leaving my shower early for a football game!?!?!?!
That's sh!tty of a best friend to do that. However, I live in the south. You DO NOT plan weddings, showers, etc on Saturdays between September and the first part of December. I think it's ridiculous, but that's how it goes here. If it's going to interfere with football, you can expect crap like this.
Sorry...really.
If she has to leave early to attend a football game - as in she has tickets previously purchased, then I would understand.
If she has to leave early to watch it on TV - I would be ticked. Get a DVR.
My big shower has been planned for 10/6 - the day of the LSU-Florida game. Not much I can do about it but set my DVR. : )
Is it SEC football? Does she have tickets?
If you are in the SE, this is just the way of life down here.
My sister would be HORRIFIED if she were invited to a shower/party when the Hogs are playing. She would straight up not come to anything if invited if it overlapped with a football game, TV or not.
FWIW, I planned DS's birthday party around SEC football games. I will continue to do so if I want anyone to come...
Your baby shower is not going to be nearly as fascinating or exciting to anyone but you. If your friend has plans, that's because her life does not start or stop with you and your unborn child.
ETA: To everyone saying buy a DVR-not everyone can afford one, or maybe she doesn't want one-DH and I don't have one nor do we want one.
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Shrug. You can choose to be upset and feel slighted, or you can try to get over it. Yeah, football isn't my thing, but if someone's shower were scheduled when, say, the SCOTUS ObamaCare opinion came out, I would probably have to duck out early (or else be reading the opinion on my phone, which probably isn't the more respectful choice).
It's just a shower. Obviously she cares about you enough to make it for the beginning anyway.
It does suck, but that's how it goes sometimes. Football fans can go crazy. My 10 year high school reunion was canceled due to lack of participation because they were crazy enough to schedule it during a college football game.
I wouldn't skip a close friend's major event for football, but I will say I wouldn't mind if lil man came a few days early... it would be right during my team's bye week.
At least she told you and gave you a heads up, and was honest. When you say early, how early?
I can see why you are miffed, but would you rather her not come?
Ditto this. The majority of the guests invited to my bridal and baby showers would not have come if the shower interfered with an Alabama or Auburn football game.
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Exactly. It was tacky to say WHY she was leaving early (come on--whatever happened to the old standby excuse that one has something else to attend to during the afternoon), but she's still coming for part of it.
There was another post somewhere about pregnant moms acting like presumptuous brides. Why would it be required for a friend--even a *gasp* best friend--to attend a shower like it's a once in a lifetime opportunity that she shouldn't miss? It's a shower. That's it. People pop in, people duck out.
My guess is those who disapprove don't do SEC football
If you don't live around SEC football, you just don't get it. :-) It's a religion here...
Mildly annoyed, yes. Side eye, no. Her time, she gets to choose how to use it. And baby showers rank low on the list of "must be there" priorities. But I am a football fan and football is big here. My family has missed weddings of close friends' children for attending games with season tickets.
Footnote: in this era of instant information, DVR is not a good way to go to watch a live game. It's either live, or you hear from all your friends about the awesome/heart wrenching play that just happened that you're not watching.
Dudes, watching a football game on DVR? Really?
Anyway, I blame the hostess for this one. I had a November baby and my shower was in October. My hostess totally planned it around the SEC football schedule.
Like I said, I did it for DS's 1st birthday party and will always do it if I want people to come.
I don't care what part of the country anyone is in, opting to watch anything on TV instead of spending time with real life friends is insane to me.
Id be watching the game WITH friends. Yes in the south football is important. My sorority sister had a UT game playing at her reception several years ago.
Well. Assuming she plans to watch the game alone, as opposed to with some other set of real life friends.
If it IS SEC football, trust me, she is not watching it alone. Likely, she has a much more fun party to attend while watching it.
Why do you assume she's watching the game alone? That's a reach.
DID YOU GO TO UT???
I know, she'll make it a point to say it's pro ball and it's just the friend and her Dh but not answer this one question.
EXACTLY!!! How early?? Did she say, "hey, if your shower runs over, I will have to leave at this time to catch the game, or did she say, hey, I will leave after being there for oen hour."
I can't make a proper assessment without the full details. Odd you haven't shared how early is early........
Theory: she's not leaving very early at all, but is ducking out of helping clean up.
FWIW, the game starts at 3:15 CST, which probably is smack-dab in the middle of afternoon shower time.
I will say that is a big game but really, shes leaving your shower early for it?? Not cool in my book. I wouldn't make a big deal about it but I might re-think who my best friend is lol I guess "pick your battles" is a good phrase here because it might be abig deal to you but I don't think its worth getting in a fight over or stressing out over. But liek I said after that I might have a new best friend.
Showers get boring after 2 hours. The majority of showers are only 2 hours, and that last half hour is really the wind-up. So if she leaves at 2:30, that leaves her an hour to get home for kick off. Perfectly acceptable.