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Ladies, we lost him!!! (long)
Oh ladies, i cant believe i am writing this and i apologise and am deeply sorry for upsetting anyone but i know your wondering whats going on!!!!
We lost our precious Sean James on saturday, i did my usuall and checked heartbeat in morn after waking, he is usually pretty quiet at night so dont remember anything different, wasnt happy thought slow so checked again and heard lovely beat and checked 3 more times and was finally happy, went downstairs and had breakfast, he usually goes mad kicking and moving when i eat but i didnt feel anything, i went up immediately and checked heart and i could hear nothing, called doc, checked and nothing, drove to hospital which is an hour away, did scan etc and we found no heartbeat!!! It all happened within half hour from hearing heartbeat and then nothing, i had even felt him kick before going to have breakfast......oh ladies it is so awful.....i was given a tablet on the saturday and was taken into hospital on monday, induced with gel at 7am, again at 1pm, not long after waters broke, went 8hrs and then had epi, got some sleep for abit and then gave birth to our precious son at 430am, 8lbs11oz and 54cm long!!
We buried our beautiful angel yesterday beside his little cousin Carla, my DHs brothers first child, she died 2days after being born 14yrs ago. We are so devastated, to have gotten to 40wks4days.....oh he was/is so beautiful, peaceful and angelic!! I apologise if im not making some sense in this post, we are here and just drifting in and out of emotions, i dont know what more i can say, again im so sorry for upsetting you, i hope im doing the right thing by posting!!
Take care ladies ((((((hugs)))))))
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Re: Ladies, we lost him!!! (long)
M/C Nov 9, 2011 at 11 weeks.... We love you & miss you
I'm so sorry for your loss
T&P to you & your husband.
I am so very, very sorry on the loss of your precious son. I wish I had some words of comfort to offer at this time. I'm so sorry.
You're absolutely doing the right thing by posting. I can tell you my sister found a lot of comfort with Compassionate Friends. She spent a lot often there after my nephew passed. You are in my thoughts and prayers, and if you're interested, PM me, I'll see if I can get more info from my sister.
I don't know if you're the religious type, but I am. If you are, know that God didn't do this. It's not part of his plan. It didn't happen for a reason. But, he knows better than anyone what it's like to lose a child, and he'll help you through it.
Hugs. Know you're never alone, and we're all thinking of you.
I am so very very sorry and cannot even imagine the pain and sorrow you must be feeling. Words can't come close but I truly wish you and your family the best.
Hugs.
So, so, so sorry for your loss. You did the right thing to let others know who can carry you in their prayers.
As another poster said, when you are ready, there are many loss support groups & infant-loss support groups to share with others who have survived such a thing.
Again, so sorry - (((hugs)))
OMG, I am so utterly speechless, and so sorry for your loss.
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Oh Karen, I am so sorry! I know that there are no words that can take away the pain you are feeling, but please know that you and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself and each other and know that we are all here for you.
IVF #1 ET 1 d3 embryo 10/30/11 BFP
3 Embryos frozen (1 d5, 2 d6)
DS born 07/29/12
FET #1 ET 1 d5 embryo 02/10/15 BFN
FET #2 1 d6 embryo didn't survive thaw, transferred last d6. CP
BFP May 2017.
BFP November 2011 TWINS!!!. Lost a twin at 7 weeks. DS born VBAC.
BFP July 2009. DD born via c/section for breech presentation.
BFP Jan. 2009. Missed miscarriage at 9 weeks.D&C March 2010
December 2009 - Diagnosed with bicornuate uterus.
Ten months: Mr. Giggles!
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TTC 10/11. IUI 2/12. BFP 3/8/12. 4/26/12 missed mc. RE consult 5/17/12. IVF #1 ER 7/13/12 53R, 41M ICSIed, 32F, 8 5d, 6 6d blasts - all PGD/frozen. PGD results 1 normal M and 1 normal F, 1 maybe M. FET 9/6, transferred 1 F embie. Beta 9/15 BFN. FET#2 planned for 11/2012 put off until 2013. Surprise BFP 11/21/12!! My son was born on 7/24/13!
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
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BFP #1 5/27/12- m/c 7/9/12 @ 10w2d (cytotec induced @11w).
Fibroids, Hashimoto's Hypothyroidism
BFP #2 11/18/12 EDD 7/27/13
Oh Karen I am at a loss to find any words that could even begin to offer you comfort. As I have journeyed with so many of you ladies through this time in our lives, I feel like friendships have been made on these Bump boards, even though we are far apart. I wish I was in Ireland and could hug you close!! Know that a friend in California is wishing you and your DH strength and much love through this most difficult time in your life. Prayers are being said for your beautiful butterfly Sean James.
With sympathy,
JM
I can't imagine the pain you are going through. T & Ps to you and your family at this time!
3/11 Clomid-Ovidrel-IUI #1-progesterone= BFN.
5/11 Femara-Bravelle-Ovidrel-IUI#2-progesterone=BFN.
6/11 Femara-Ovidrel-IUI#3-progesterone=BFP!
Beta #1 7/1: 39. Beta #2 7/5: 301 U/S 7/19 - saw HB!!
EDD 3/12/12
DD born 3/5/12
Baby #2 Beta #1 12/16: 439. Beta #2 12/18: 1240
EDD 8/22/15
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
DE IVF #2 (shared cycle with new donor - Nov/Dec/ 2012): - BFP!!!!! 12/14/12. U/S on 12/27 shows twins!!!!!
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