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How do YOU make friends?
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Re: How do YOU make friends?
That is really shittey.
When we lived in TX and I worked in an office, I mainly hung out with people from work. We moved to TN last summer and I kept my job but work from home. I still talk to all my friends but only see them every few months when I go back to TX for work. It has been hard to meet people here since I work all day by myself and DS is in daycare. I have been hanging out more with our next door neighbor who is also pregnant. DH is also good about getting us together with couples from his office. I am really shy so even though I have activities with DS (tumble class, music class, swim class) I have never exchanged numbers with the other moms to get together outside of class. Same with people we meet at church, we only talk to them on Sunday.
We are considering joining the Y as well. I have a hard time making friends because all I do is work and then go home. I don't live anywhere near my work so I am not close to them and at home everyone else is a SAHM so they forget about me cause I'm never around. We tried church but we need to try again because we are lazy.
And I suck at trying to make friends.
I'm just so awkward, ya know?
Also, I feel like people my age who aren't married and parenting can't really get where I'm coming from.
I'm all, "diapers, DH, money, food allergies, vaccinations..."
They're all, "CHUG, CHUG, CHUG!!!"
KWIM??
100% this...
OP I'm very sorry you even had to endure this! People are morons.
I'm late to the game here, but I also can't believe that email. I'm in a playgroup with some other moms. We met at a first-time-moms group at our church. Our kids are all about the same age so we continued to meet up once the meetings ended (it was like a 6 week long thing). I hoenstly have no idea how old the other moms are. I am pretty sure I'm one of the oldest at 34. Some are probably mid-late 20s. Asking someone "hold old are you?" is just not a question that gets asked, ya know? I can say for certain that if a young mom had wanted to be in the play group they would have been welcomed.
I am assuming you are not religious or Christian, or church would probably be an obvious place. If by chance you ARE, and just haven't been to church in a while or something, maybe look into some of the larger churches in your area? The ones that have a whole bunch of ministries and cater to the young married crowd? We go to a church like this and I have met more people there in the past 2 years than I did throughout all of college. The new moms group is just one example, there's just a ton of stuff to do and get involved in and they always provide childcare to make it easy.
But the magic box isn't a bad place to make friends either. Back in my days on theknot, I "met" several girls on the local knot board who all became facebook friends and now that we're all married and have kids I frequently get invites to birthday parties and stuff. If I made more of an effort I'm sure we would become closer, but I still consider most of them acquaintance level friends.
This. I'm 21 too and let me tell you finding friends that can relate to real-world situations is rough. I am blessed with lots of friends, and I'm the only one married with children. I do find myself excluded a lot. As for finding other moms, I have a church I go to and there are two or three other moms my age. I realize churches are kinda hit-and-miss, they can be kinda judgy. If you have one you're comfortable with, that's what I'd try first.
Also, to those uptight ladies, they're so naive that I'm sure all their daughters are already hors and they just don't know about it. Seriously? Get a grip on reality. There are plenty of young moms who have their act together. Assuming things like that is REALLY insulting to people like you and me.
We can be TB friends. I like you.