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3 Shower invites for one MTB?????
Ok so first it may be me because I am really cranky today BUT I have received 3 yes 3 baby shower invites for the same MTB. Some history, this is child #4 and her children are 6, 4, 2 (well she will be 2 next month). I went to her last baby shower where she got everything under the sun so she just got brand new stuff. Because I was curious I checked her registry and YEP she registered for ALL brand new stuff again from a Crib to bottles. I am not going to any of them, you may all think I am being mean but come on this is baby #4 and she just got all new stuff.
Shower #1 - her work shower (we work in the same building)
Shower#2 - given by her Sister as always
Shower #3 - Co-Ed shower BBQ where husbands and children are welcome.
Please tell me am I wrong not wanting to go?
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Re: 3 Shower invites for one MTB?????
No, you aren't wrong for MANY reasons. Kid #4 and she got ALL brand new stuff less than 2 years ago? Then she invited you to THREE showers????
Oy. I hope others do the same and DON'T GO. The more people who opt out, maybe she'll get the clue that she went a bit far.
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That is ridiculous!
I might stop by the work shower- but the rest? Forget about it.
I'd be mortified enough having 3 showers for my 4th kid, but to go and register for ALL new stuff over and over again? Where is the old stuff?! She sounds greedy and wasteful.
I think that 3 showers is a little excessive in the case of a 4th child and the 3rd child is not 2 years old yet.. I would attend 1 of her showers but I would just bring her something that you want too.. Like diapers or wipes, maybe even some little onesies or burp clothes but no big items.
I am on my 3rd pregancy and my oldest is 12 and youngest will be 18 months at the time. I have registered for some new things for this baby but nothing much as they are both boys.. I was not exactly planning on baby # 3 so I gave away most of the clothes from baby # 2 and all his burp clothes and blankets have been used to the max.. I am getting a shower but they are no big items to buy on my list and it is mostly little things... Hope I am not being considered greedy....
This. I agree, the whole situation is tacky; however, if it's a person that you're close to, I would go to one. (I would probably go to the BBQ so I could bring my husband.) I would give her a SMALL gift off the registry, and write something in the card like: "I'm honored to have had a part in welcoming all of your children!" Not to be rude, but just as a subtle reminder that you have bought her many gifts in the past, and leave it at that.
If you're not close with her, just RSVP no to all 3 and call it a day!
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No totally not mean. I'm on my 2nd kiddo, and don't expect anything at all!
If you're really close, you could buy her a bottle of wine, or a little outfit once the baby is born as a kind gesture to welcome the new babe, but I wouldn't think a 'shower gift' is necessary. what more could she possibly need???
So, in addition to the tackiness you've already mentioned, she's hosting her own shower? And inviting people via Facebook? You should definitely suggest she head over here for some helpful tips. I'm sure everyone would be very nice to her.
I would register for my 4th, but only so I could get a completion discount on anything that needed replacing, lol!
One of her friends just gave it to her, told her that she thought it to be rude to have 3 showers and then dictate to people on who should attend and what they should bring. "I plan on bringing condoms, and the name and number to my OB so you can get some proper birth control, this way I wont get another invite to another shower demanding I spend $75-$100 bucks on a gift or not to come" Apparently I am not the only friend of hers that thinks this is nuts.
I don't know where the stuff is, and some people bought her really nice stuff. I remember her bragging about how so and so bought her the $800 crib she wanted and now she registered for another one??? I am on number 4 and no way in he@@ am I having a shower if I can't buy it myself then I should not be having another baby is my thought.
Was your friend the DD that just happened? I missed it so I was curious.
This exactly.
But EVERY baby deserves to be celebrated!!!!!
She is probably one of those people who says "Well in MY circle we allllways have showers for every baby, its just what we do, no one thinks its tacky!" Clearly, in her case, delusional.
Nope stand your ground. The reason she does this is because it works for her. No one has called her out on her bad behavior and she obviously is extremely obtuse so absolutely do not go to one of her showers. Don't send a gift, a card nothing. Doing so would only encourage future bad behavior.
Oh and the person who said something on her FB wall will eventually be attacked by other friends and family. Not saying you need to back up the person who called her out on her behavior, but again your friend is so obtuse that she probably does need an e-slap in the face to get it.
My view is that someone can be thrown as many showers as there are people volunteering to throw them--but the same people should NOT be invited to each one. That's ridiculous. It makes sense to have, for instance, a work shower and a family/friends shower, maybe even a couple family/friends showers to accomodate two different hometowns, maybe a church shower--but not three with overlapping guest lists. Wrong.
I would choose one and decline the others if I was close to this person, and would decline all if I wasn't.
What exactly is a do and do not list for attendance?
What we should wear, how much we should spend ($75-100 min), no children at the work or the one given by her sister, cell phones turned off, oh this list goes on and on.
Your friend is horrific. Not only would I not go to any of her showers, I would dump her as a friend. How much you should spend? Seriously?
Please post the whole list, I could use a laugh... my child is being particularly bushy.
You asked for it LOL
Some friendly reminders about coming to the baby showers for Ashley Baunn
1. 1. No cell phones turned on.
2. 2. Registered at Buy Buy Baby and Amazon.com please use these as reference when purchasing a gift, and at least $75.00 - $100.00 minimum should be spent.
3. 3. New items only no hand me downs.
4. 4. Please no clothes as we would like to pick out our own.
5. 5. No handmade blankets as we will never use them would be too afraid they would get ruined so we would never bother with them.
6. 6. Please be on time and make sure you RSVP it?s only polite.
7. 7. We will have snacks and desserts only so please make sure you have lunch before you attend.
8. 8. No alcohol would be provided I would feel too left out.
9. 9. Please make sure you dress appropriately and not like you?re going to a garage sale.
10. Money and gift cards make the best gifts.
Oh, hellz no. I love how she makes a comment about being polite when she is the furthest thing from it.
That's what I thought too, I wish her Facebook profile was not set to private so you could read all this with your own eyes. She is something else
Better for you.
I don't agree with that but I still think it's ridiculous.
If it wasn't for her name I'd swear this was my cousins wife. I've been given a similar set of rules for her shower; except I believe her position on clothes is that they may be given as gifts but only in all pink if it is a girl or all blue if a boy...green and yellow are not "allowed". Needless to say I'm not going to that shower either.
Congrats on being deleted from her friends list tho!